Monday and Tuesday Question!!

BabyBlueNTexas

Sorry about getting this posted kind of late--- I had to make up an exam from being ill last week. However-- I am better and back to feeling grand.

Here is the question--- How is your FI doing with the planning? Does he take an active part, let you do the details, or is he a total GroomZilla? Share a unique story about your groom, in his honor!

pete2835

At first he was very hands off, but after a sit down "come to Jesus" moment...he's been amazing. I think he truly thought I wanted to plan a wedding by myself...who is giving these messages to guys?

In fact, as we speak he is working on programs.

mistyleon

My FI is pretty willing to be involved in all the planning.  He also has a ton of opinions, which can be a good or a bad thing!  There are some things like flowers that he isn't as interested in, but he has taken the lead on some of the things that I didn't want to deal with, like booking the rehearsal dinner venue and arranging hotel blocks.  We are pretty good at dividing the labor up that way. 

Future Ramsey

My FI is groomzilla! He started out saying that he didn't care as long as we weren't married inside a church and that he didn't have to wear shiny shoes, but then as soon as it became time to start looking at venues, his true colors were revealed. We went through 13 or 14 places before finally deciding on the venue; for a couple, he wouldn't even get out of the car because they were a no from just driving up to them! His interest in chosing things has been a big surprise, but I am oh so thankful that he cares enough to make the wedding truely our own. Gotta love a man that cares whether the flowers are the right shade of blue & worries if the guests will have enough to eat.

BabyBlueNTexas

I love sharing these stories-- they make me smile-- and right now I am sitting in the University Library--- I am sure people are gawking at me bc I am giddly reading these.

My FI pretty much agrees with whatever I want, but not for lack of caring, but because our tastes in things are so much alike. It is nice to not have to hit too many speed bumps in choosing things, but sometimes I really wish he would be a groomzilla-- just to have an opinion other than mine. haha.. we all want what we can't have, right?? The biggest challege for him was the groom's cake. He could not grasp the idea of our southern tradition.

FI is from Ohio-- and little to my knowledge, they don't have groom's cakes. He hates anything chocolate, and almost threw a tantrum in the bakery about his cake having to be chocolate. I assured him that it didn't have to be, but everyone usually enjoys a choice between the two. I also told him that the reason we called it a groom's cake is because it usually represents the groom in some form-- whether it be something that reflects personality, job, school, ect.. I think to this day he still doesn't understand it.

jedaniel

My FI does NOTHING! He doesn't even want to look at wedding stuff. We don't get to spend alot of time together because he works from 2 in the afternoon untill 11:30pm (i work 9-5) and when he gets home I don't want to harass him with wedding stuff. I try to slip in a few comments here and there like "what do you think of chicken something for the food" and he says "yea thats fine" or his favorite is "whatever you want" haha. I'm also a hard core control freak so I don't mind it that much. He's awesome anyway. If I really needed him he would jump to help me. haha

erollis

After we accomplish something wedding related (such as look at the venues, meet with the dj) he gets really happy and all romantic. In these moments he realizes that we are really getting married and he shows his excitement. Every thing wedding related he gives input if needed or just listens to me (I try not to talk to much about wedding stuff). He likes to be involved but wants no part in the nitty gritty of the planning (narrowing down things, painting the center pieces, etc.).

akg0053

My FI has been perfect. If he sees that I have too much going on, he jumps in and helps. He has areas he's totally in charge of, which helps me out greatly and is an active participant in deciding the smaller details as well. 

laurenrenee80

I was so surprised how willing mine is to help! I thought he was going to be one of the 'whatever makes you happy" types, but so far he has taken charge of the ceremony musicians, DJ, all rehearsal dinner details, and booking the honeymoon!  He designed and printed our Save the Dates, too.He will definitely be involved in the final menu decisions and cake too! Its been fun doing some of this stuff together... but things like flowers and decor... he doesn't care too much

kelseymw

H was deployed for most of the wedding planning... He left just shy of a month after we got engaged and came back just a few months before the wedding after most major vendors were booked. We did book our food, DJ and photographer together but I planned everything else myself. I wished he was able to be involved but I don't fault him for it. It was fun seeing his reaction to everything on the wedding day because he didn't know what the tables or flowers or decor, etc would look like. I tried to tell him about things before the wedding, but he said "No I've missed so much of it, it might as well all be a surprise now." On our way to the hotel after the wedding he told me it was the "best wedding ever" (LOL!) and I did a wonderful job planning it, so that meant a lot to me.

pacificgalx

My FI has his moments. There are times when he has no time (he works all the time) to help with details but when he has free time, he questions all the nitty gritty like invitation fonts!! So far, I've given him a few tasks like the STDs, he picked it out and ordered. I'm not a control freak so it was no big deal for him to do that on his own. He's been very helpful.