Seeking opinions

kellster22

My mom said the bundt cake vendor at the bridal show "tasted" really good, but the picture she took and sent me didn't look real cute - any one try or see?

I am thinking about no sweetheart or head table. I am doing more of a wine bar feel at my wedding. I say we can sit at round tables with bridal party or family. But someone commented to me that I won't be honoring the bridal party that way...Opinions?

Last - I have no desire to spend part of my budget on "favors" for wedding guests. My matron on honor feels that we should have something. I don't have "one" favor from a wedding that I use for anything.  Anyone else feel they are not needed?

reddie36

I can chime in on your second and third topics. Keep in mind I'm not 'traditional' by any means and neither is my family or most of my guests that will be coming to the wedding. I think that the bride and groom should do what they like and want to make the wedding meaningful and a reflection of them, and not what everyone else thinks is right or is used to seeing.

IWhy not sit with whoever you want to at your wedding. I don't see any problem with your idea - plus how long are you actually sitting at a wedding besides to eat. (And whoever made that comment - what are they even talking about by 'honoring' the bridal party that way? Isn't a 'traditional' head table made up of the wedding party or at least the best man & maid of honor? Weird.) 

I  don't think you should have favors if you don't want to. You can thank the guests for coming in a speech, in your programs, with a sign...I think that is the point of a favor and just to give the guests a memento from the wedding. Just for comparison, the last wedding FI and I went to was very formal and there was no favor. No one cared.

ChristyChae'

You don't really have to give anything tangible for favors. You could always make a donation to a charity in honor of your wedding favors. You could place a card on the table or on everyone's place settings that explains you donated to XYZ Charity in their honor.

Hope it helps.

mon@ATX

i didn't taste the bundt cakes at the wedding extravaganza (had so many samples of cake by the time i walked up to their display, there was icing coming out of my ears) - but i thought they looked really wonderful and would be a great alternative to the "traditional" cake.  

Lili316

As far as favors, I think they're definitely not necessary, especially if they're not in the budget, but you could also consider something guests would use immediately, like bottles of water with personalized labels. 

hildeedee

i think you should sit by whomever you choose. we will be sitting next to our family. and i think favors are unecessary and a waste of money to tell you the truth. unless you want to do something fun like a candy bar or have something special you'd like to give out. i can only remember two favors i've ever received...matchbooks (only because i actually used it after) and one friend did a mix CD and i thought that was cool, otherwise, i have not kept any favors from any wedding i've attended nor do i remember them!

kellster22

Thanks ladies - I am feeling better...

pacificgalx

I didn't get a chance to sample the bundt cakes.

I am not doing any special favors for my guests. I've been to several weddings last year and I don't even remember what was given out as favors. For our wedding, we've decided to do the photo booth which will serve both the purpose of a guestbook and the favors. The photo strip will contain a two-sided strip. One will be kept for our 'guestbook' and the other I will customize the heading by saying 'Thank You for celebrating our wedding with us' (something along those lines). Most of our guests will have fun with the photo booth and will have the memories/pixs to take home with them.

kellster22

I didn't think about the photo booth - my photographer is setting up a portrait/photo booth and he told me that I get all of the pictures on a CD. I can just e-mail those to the guests I had addresses for and since I have most... that will do as my favor - Plus no cost to me. I am glad you posted.

ejayne

We had a "head" table that was actually in the middle, surrounded by the rest of the tables, and the people that sat there were me and DH, our parents & sibblings, and the wedding party (and any spouses/dates of wedding party). This made the most sense for us, and I loved how it felt more "family style". The head tables I personally don't like are the ones where the wedding party are all lined up on one side of the table, essentially on display at the front of the room, separated from everyone else. Ours was not like that at all.

Definitely do what makes the most sense for you.

As for the favors, I think they're generally a waste of money. If you want to do it, I think the best ones are edible, but not necessarily something you have to eat right then, because weddings have a lot of food already. I hate trinkets. Wedding favors that are some sort of trinket are very lame indeed and just wind up in the garbage.

chloetutor

I totally tasted the bundt cakes and am ready to book them! They tasted AMAZING! So moist! The red velvet was my favorite. FI refuses to even consider another bakery since they were so yummy and so cheap.  Their name is "Nothing Bundt Cakes" and they have a website.  I think they're doing tastings at their Cedar Park location tomorrow (Saturday.) 

We're ordering a large two tier one and doing 6 10" ones on pretty cake stands in each flavor.

lgurnie

For seating:  we sat with our moms (parents are divorced) and my brother and his wife.  We were at a round table just like everyone else.  We really enjoyed it because it made us part of the reception and we could talk with everyone.  I think we would have felt left out at a sweetheart table and head tables make it hard for the wedding part to sit with their friends or significant others.  For us, it was just perfect to be a part of things.

For favors:  i totally understand what you're saying about not ever using favors from other weddings.  our solution was to make homemade pumpkin chocolate chip muffins...they're sort of my signature thing and everyone knows i make them.  i bought some cool, but affordable and earth-friendly boxes and ribbons.  my aunt and cousin baked for me and we packaged them up pretty easily.  our guests seemed to really appreciate the personalized touch...and being able to have a treat to enjoy after the wedding...that way they weren't stuck with something ridiculous that they won't ever use.

good luck!

SarahPLiz

That lemon bundt cake was to die for. I wanted to book them right there, but FI has other ideas.

Sit where you want. We are probably sitting with our parents and WP (all family) since FI doesn't want a sweetheart table. He is a bit of an introvert and doesn't want to be on display. Sit where you want, but if you do have a head table with your WP, please don't separate them from their dates. That would be rude.

I don't think we are doing favors either. Its not necessary and I don't think anyone will give you the side-eye for not having them.

FromPenceToPrice

Like all the PPs say, sit where you want.  FI and I are sitting alone, in a private room.   This is more so we can scarf our food without being interrupted and have a little time together before we start "making the rounds" to say hello to everyone.  If we hadn't done this, we probably would have sat at a table with our MOH and BM and their dates.

We almost didn't do favors, and I don't think it would have been a big deal.  The favors we are dong are very inexpensive--purple boxes from ebay, and a single chocolate truffle (the hazelnut kind in the gold wrapper- fererro rocher or something like that), wrapping the box in ribbon, and securing with some stickers I made from one of those Avery print-at-home label things.  Definitely don't do some trinket-a candle or a dish or something-because no one really wants one of those.  I think something edible or drinkable is the way to go, if you do anything.

Future Ramsey

OMG! The bundt cake at the extravaganza was the best that I tasted of all of the cakes there! I don't know if I can drag myself away from a 'traditional' looking wedding cake, but the bundt cakes were really fantastic!

We're planning on sitting with our families and not really having a head table. Most of our wedding party are our family members and those that aren't don't have a problem sitting with other friends.

My hubby to be has fallen in love with the photo booth and I think that we are going to use that in place of the favors.

The bottom line is that it is YOUR day, do what YOU want!

txbride2011

If it is the bundt cakes from Cedar Park they are cute however,  I have gone in their store a couple of times and not I don't even bother because the customer service was so bad...

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REGARDING FAVORS...

I agree.  No one keeps these or remembers these.  I was about to just say, no favors.  But then we decided that instead we would make a donation in the name of each guest to a charitable organization, like the SPCA or WWF.  I know, when you get these as a Xmas gift, you're like, oh. thanks.  But think about it...it's just a nice little thing that most people at the wedding will appreciate.  And it's not a little trinket that will just wind up in a land fill.

Don't feel bad about not doing favors...you're feeding your guests and boozing them up and showing them a good time!