gift question...

lizardrach812

this is probably a stupid question, but i am going to ask it anyway.if someone brings a gift to your engagement party or bridal shower, is it proper etiquette to give the couple a wedding gift as well?i was just wondering; i don't want people to feel like they need to get us more than one gift if they are invited to pre-wedding parties.  in fact, i don't want anyone to feel like they have to bring a gift at all to be part of the wedding celebration.how does this typically work?

MKStar

I think that proper ediquette in a book would say that you need to bring a gift to both but I will tell you that pretty much no one does that. I have never purchased two gifts. If someone does its because they are close to you and they have their heart set on giving you specific things or they have lots of money they want to spend on you. I don't really expect anyone to double gift. I really don't think people will bring gifts to an engagement party. To me thats just a celebration and not really a gift giving thing. My suggestion would be to try to keep pre-wedding bashes to a minimun. For example if you have more than one shower then you will have to invite many people to both and then they might feel like they have to give you a gift at both or be embarrased not to give you a gift. I am doing one huge Bridal Shower, girls only because no guy wants to go to a bridal anything. If someone brings a gift for that I don't expect one at the wedding. Really I don't expect any gifts but lets be honest they are very nice.