A bit frustrated!!

cutiepie74745

I'm not one of those nagging girlfriends that stays on her boyfriend about putting a ring on her finger...and I wouldn't really even be thinking about it if I wouldn't have found the stupid Kay credit card in his wallet...BUTNow that's ALL I can think about! Of course I haven't told him that I found the credit card because when he does pop the question I want him to think it's a TOTAL surprise. (I did stumble upon the card on accident while looking for his Social Security Card to set up something for him, just for the record I'm not a snoop). He told one of my girlfriends that he 'just can't think of the perfect idea for a proposal'. I wish I could just tell him that ANYthing he did would be perfect...but I'm not supposed to know!! UGH! I wish I could get the vision of just how perfect a diamond would look on that oh-so-important finger!!Sorry girls, I just needed a bit of venting!!

fantine948

Same thing happened to me... except I happened to stumble across the ring ... and I knew he had it for over 6 months before he asked me... it was so frustrating to the point that I questioned his ability to be committed.... but it work out well... we have been married for 30 days now I only had to wait seven years for it ... but I am glad I did because I really knew what i wanted and so did he!Be patient with me... remember he only wants it to be perfect for you!

cutiepie74745

Thanks...I'll try to be more patient, it's just sooo hard! I know patience is a virtue, but it's one I'm lacking lol!

lmf2010

I have had a similarly frustrating experiance.  My FI and I were together more than 5 years before he popped the queston.  he has been telling me since year 2 that he wanted to marry me and even said we should go ring shopping...but then he never took me and I was not about to ask!  Since year 3 he has been promising me things like "we will be married this time next year" or something like that.  We knew we wanted a fall wedding and that I wanted a year long engagement.  So every christmas i would get broken hearted that he still had not asked.  after 2 years of frustration i finally worked up the nerve to talk to him about his broken promises.  he assured me it would be 2009, no doubt about it.  by april of 2009 i said there is no way we can have a fall wedding this yr and I was extremely upset (was he EVER going to get serious abou this?).  he proposed in July, and I learned of allllllll the trouble he had getting the ring and thats why it took so long and didn't work out this yr.  point of the story, it has all worked out.  i love him to death, and would still wait for him to pop the question regardless if he had already.it will all be ok in the end.  it will be soooooo worth the wait!  trust me! :-)

KeyRyn320

FI and I went ring shopping a few months before he popped the question. Once he told me about all the delays, payments, phone calls to Zales, etc. he went through to get the ring, it made it all that much more worth the wait. When it happens, you won't even remember how long you waited for it...TRUST ME! Just have patience and it will come sooner than you think.

MelB228

I'm confused, in your previous post it says you're getting married in October of 2010, but in this post you say you're not engaged, yet?

Steven&Jamie

I'm with MelB--I'm confused about this too.  If you've already got the date set and are already planning but you're not officially engaged, maybe your boyfriend doesn't see the need/rush for the ring and official proposal?