Small Wedding HUGE reception!

BrideinWaiting2012

Ok so I just need advice about how to approach this.  My fiance and I have decided we want to do a quiet intimate wedding ceremony with friends and family max 125 people.  Yet right after at a different location we want a huge reception and invite those that wouldn't fit in the wedding ceremony but we want there to celebrate with us...is this offensive to just invite people to the reception?  How would you go about inviting people to just the reception?  Any ideas? Thoughts?

kerrib11

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[QUOTE]Ok so I just need advice about how to approach this.  My fiance and I have decided we want to do a quiet intimate wedding ceremony with friends and family max 125 people.  Yet right after at a different location we want a huge reception and invite those that wouldn't fit in the wedding ceremony but we want there to celebrate with us...is this offensive to just invite people to the reception?  How would you go about inviting people to just the reception?  Any ideas? Thoughts?
Posted by BrideinWaiting2012[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>  I personally don't think it's a good idea.  If you were keeping it small with just immediate family, I could see that, but inviting family and friends adding up to 125, not a good idea</div>

MrsCoopDawg3467

It's EXACTLY what I wanted to do! BUT......
I put myself in their shoes and 'what if i only got invited to the reception' .... I probably wouldn't go, I'd probably be pretty offended. 

You may be able to pull it off if the ceremony and reception were two different weekends OR if you were only inviting 50 to ceremony because you wanted a specific place and that's all it would hold. 

I think most people are going to think "i'm not special enough to be invited to the ceremony they only want our gift"

But this is all IMO and it's your day and you should ultimately do what YOU/FI want

BrideinWaiting2012

Well I'm thinking 125/2 is 60 people per side...so it is very small still.  I don't mean to have the reception to make anyone feel bad, its just the ceremony site is small that I want.  Idk maybe it is a bad idea?

matt&brit

I was talking to my mom about this steph, and she said she would want to see you walk down the isle. I have beent thinking about it and mrscoopdawg might be right. I still think you need to make your list of invites and see where your number is. If I got an invite to just a reception and they had a cermony right before and I knew that almost everyone was invited I dont think i would go... Sorry I know my opinon kinda chaged but moms always know and thats what she said.
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