I was engaged on 3/1/09. Started to plan my wedding for 5/14/10. My fiance had been unemployed, and our taxes on our house went up considerably. We tried to sell, but were having a hard time. He chose to join the Army. To serve our country and make us a future. We decided to have a very small civil ceremony before he left. The plan was to still have our wedding/reception in 2010. We planned our small wedding prior to him leaving in 2 weeks and only immediate family was in attendance. We did however notify everyone that attended that we didn't want any gifts as we were still planning on having our big day in 2010. No gifts were given. Now it's coming up to our big day, and my Bridal Party have decided to throw me a bridal shower. Since I have given up a lot, including moving away from my family and friends for the next 5 years to be with my husband. The grooms family does NOT agree that I should have a bridal shower, nor a ceremony. They say that it's embarassing to invite their family to a "wedding" when we are already married.
Am I wrong in wanting my special day? Is my Bridal Party wrong for throwing me a Bridal Shower, that I would have otherwise had, given the circumstances. HELP!??????