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who gets tipped?

I know that the trolley driver is supposed to get tipped, what about the DJ & photographer?

Re: who gets tipped?

  • Musicheals71Musicheals71 member
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    edited December 2011
    From my understanding, the DJ and the photographer do not get tipped if they own their own business.  At least that's what I followed.
  • edited December 2011

    General rule of thumb is, if the vendor 'owns' the company, then you do not have to tip them. In this case, my DJ and Photographer own the company, so I don't 'have' to tip them.

    I will tip the maitre d (sp) as well as our wedding coordinator. Also probably the florist based on who delivers the flowers along with the bartenders who work our reception.

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  • angel33284angel33284 member
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    edited December 2011
    I don't know who invented that rule that the owner of the company doesn't get tipped, but it's stupid. I would imagine it makes even the owners feel good to know their efforts are appreciated. Tip anybody who exceeds your expectations.
  • edited December 2011
    Call me cheap but I'm not tipping. Virtually every vendor I've dealt with includes a 20% gratiuity in the pricing. I don't see giving them anything above that. Especially considering how much everyone marks everythinig up for weddings to begin with. Unless I am just blown away or someone goes way above I'm not planning to tip.
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  • edited December 2011
    As far as I have been told, the reason the owners don't get tipped is because the money we pay them goes directly to them and filters downwards. Whereas if you have someone who just works for a company, chances are the majority of the money goes to the company and the person who actually does the work ends up getting little of what you actually paid. So the tip is just a bit extra to thank the person for the work they did when they didn't end up with most of the money.

    I'm tipping based on service... my sister got married last weekend and her photographer was VERY rude so he's someone I wouldn't have tipped at the end of it all. However her bridal attendant and maitre'd were phenominal so they got tipped by both her and my family as well for taking care of us so well.

    Ultimately if they don't do a good job, they don't get a tip in my opinion. I'm already paying you for the service you're providing so if you don't give me service that makes me feel you earned what I paid you, you're certainly not getting MORE money out of me.
  • lkrupa10lkrupa10 member
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    edited December 2011
    Thank you so much ladies! 13 more days for me!! 
  • delia5588delia5588 member
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011

    Good info.!

    I'm having my ceremony/reception at the Mansion. There is a gradtuity of 21% charged. Would this cover the bridal attendant and maitre'd?

    Anniversary
  • edited December 2011
    Every hall I've spoken to when given the pricing has said that if the tip is included it does not cover the maitre'd. I would double check with your hall but normally they are not included. The bridal attendant varies so I'm not sure about your hall specifically :(
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