I have 4 BMs and and MOH. My problem is that one BM has defected. Literally. She grew up in Lebanon and moved to NY the summer before high school. She and I were roommates in college and have been good friends ever since. She went back to Lebanon after graduation 5 months ago. PS- she didn't tell me she was going. She told me that she was going out of the country, but didn't mention where. I found that out from a mutual friend. No one seems to know when/if she is coming back, but the same mutual friend knows that she bought a one-way ticket. I've sent her 3 e-mails and 2 facebook messages over the last 5 months, but I've gotten no response to any of them. I know she doesn't have internet access in her home there, but the last time she was there I got an e-mail or two with updates. Aside from needing to update her on wedding stuff, I'm a little concerned that none of our friends have heard from her since she left. Also, I miss my friend! Any thoughts on what I can do about this?