MIL

chandarob

Hi everyone! This is both our second wedding. He is divorced and I was widowed. Anyway we met and are
in love and getting married. I just have a question to see if I'm over reacting or having valid feelings on this subject.
His mother. She brought me the wedding album from his first wedding, so I could see what color the bridesmaid dresses were. The WHOLE album was not necessary. She could of just told me. Second thing that bothered me. She stopped by my place to visit for a few minutes before work. She asked what some of our wedding plans were.then proceeded to tell me how beautiful and wonderful his first wedding was. Am I wrong in thinking perhaps she doesn't care for me? I don't think I am, but id love others input. So, anymore wedding planning I'm leaving her out. I don't need the negativity.

CAB1217

Welcome! Ouch, that's gotta hurt. My MIL showed me a wedding picture of H by accident, and she was SOOOO embarrassed by it! I can't believe your future MIL even still has those pictures! My MIL got rid of the one she had, and this was even before we were even engaged! Hang in there... she may not be thinking about what she is doing. Leave all of your wedding ideas to yourself! Do NOT have those conversations with her! How is your relationship with her otherwise?

kyrgyzstan

I'm pretty sure my MIL didn't know my name until our wedding invites came out, and H and I had been together 3 years. 

Here's what you do when your MIL is being a wench...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RCDAqIx_hnY

chandarob

Lmao! Love it. It's funny you see she didn't even know your.name till the invites come out. My MIL actually has introduced me as "what's her name", omg. So I've come to the conclusion that I'm not being over sensitive. I'm just avoiding her like the plague. Either she will figure she wants to be nice so we can hang like families should or she will keep up her attitude and be lonely and miserable alone.

crownsuperstar

Wow.  I am sorry that happened to you.  So does she still like the ex-wife? 

H was married once before and I have never seen a picture of his 1st wife.  She goes unnamed basically. Although funny story her and I share the same first name.  All of H's family was like "She better not be like that first "Crown" you brought around here."  Oh and his friends were like that too.  The reason I know this story is because of H's cousin's child.  Oh out of the mouths of babes will come the truth.  She looked at me and said "You are nothing like that other chick. We all like you. Oh and you are much prettier."  She was like 12 at the time. 

chandarob

Yup, they are still friendly.

crownsuperstar

OH gosh!  I am sorry.  I am not sure how I would/could react to that.  Good luck!

BinxRose

Oh yikes! Are you brave enough to confront her? Could you let her know that it hurts your feelings, and that you'd like to have a better relationship with her? Or do you not care at this point? I'm just a huge fan of "killing them with kindness." My FMIL owns a bar/restaurant, and she employs my FI's ex gf. Not as bad as an ex wife, but still weird! FI's aunt (FMIL's sister) still even has a pic of her on her fridge! Its pretty weird, but I know his family loves me so I let it roll off my back.

chandarob

She's not worth confronting.I'm letting it go because I know my Fi, his son and the rest of the family love me to bits. I.just keep a distance and smile. Thanks for the advice!