WOOHOO!!!

chandarob

Bought wedding bands and put deposit on venue, signed contract this weekend!!!! So excited; Also, went to a bridal show and won 500 dollars towards a DJ!!! Awesome weekend...

holycrapitsalexa

Wow! That's great. Congrats! I know it feels great to get so much accomplished!

Zimsgirl

That's great! What do the bands look like?

Zimsgirl

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_woohoo?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:2ee77c0d-a326-40d0-9c17-cc9da760eaebPost:2c2de49d-1bb7-49f8-b96b-6b5bf5b0f2d8">Re:WOOHOO!!!</a>:
[QUOTE]Thanks.... Everything was great. Now I'm not sure what to do. This MIL stuff is really bothering me. I love my FI and step son to be so much I can't even express it in writing. But I'm not sure if I'm the right one for them. My FI told me ill make a weak wife. Because I don't stand up for myself with his exwife. He crushed me with his words today. Even with everything we accomplished this weekend my mood is now in the toilet.
Posted by chandarob[/QUOTE]
I would really consider counseling. I wouldn't continue planning until you have gone to counseling and figure all this out

kyrgyzstan

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_woohoo?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:2ee77c0d-a326-40d0-9c17-cc9da760eaebPost:2c2de49d-1bb7-49f8-b96b-6b5bf5b0f2d8">Re:WOOHOO!!!</a>:
[QUOTE]Thanks.... Everything was great. Now I'm not sure what to do. This MIL stuff is really bothering me. I love my FI and step son to be so much I can't even express it in writing. But I'm not sure if I'm the right one for them. My FI told me ill make a weak wife. Because I don't stand up for myself with his exwife. He crushed me with his words today. Even with everything we accomplished this weekend my mood is now in the toilet.
Posted by chandarob[/QUOTE]

<div>What the hell? He sounds emotionally abusive. I ditto stopping planning immediately and getting  counseling, together perhaps, but definitely for you.</div>

divinemsbee

Ok, I read this after I responded to your FMIL post, and I'm going to change what I think a little, you have a FI problem, not a FI's family problem. Counseling is really important for even healthily communicating blended families, and, in this case, even more so. 

My FMIL is an incredibly difficult person to deal with. Every other month it's something. But, the difference here is that my FI recognizes that it's his mother, and knows how she goes about things, and he would never blame me for her crazy. He's on my team and we are in this together. You need an FI that's on your team. While you will have to deal with his ex some, because they do have a child, the brunt of dealing with her falls on him, because it's his ex. Same with his mom. It sounds like when you do try to stand up to people, you do it wrong and get in "trouble," but when you don't stand up enough he tears you down. 

"Make a weak wife." That one sentence says way too much. Red flags everywhere. Don't get so caught up in the wedding that you forget to check the relationship.

ggirl2001

Dude, you make no sense. did you even read your previous post (and advice given) that you made about your FI not wanting you to have friends? Or the issues with your MIL?  Yet you book a bunch of things, and in the same post comment about how he thinks you're weak? Does this really make sense to you? Because it doesn't to me. How can you be excited about booking things and then in the same breath basically say you have doubts? 

Irishcurls

You do sound like a rollercoaster here. How's the communication between the two of you, because you need to tell him that his exwife is his problem and if he thinks talking to you like that is acceptable then he's about to have another ex. 

iluvmytxrgr

Have you ever talked to your FI or his X about why they divorced.  Maybe you should figure out what her side of the story is.  There are way too many issues here.  Stop planning this wedding and really think about if this is the right thing for you.  This situation seriously sounds like it's going to turn into a Jerry Springer wet dream. 

Beachy730

Sorry, I just can't believe you're real.  I'm calling troll.  You have had nothing but drama, don't come back to comment on any of the advice you've been given, and just come back with more drama.  

firemedicrr

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_woohoo?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:2ee77c0d-a326-40d0-9c17-cc9da760eaebPost:3954bf58-13bd-47a7-bf94-242b544ecf0b">Re: WOOHOO!!!</a>:
[QUOTE]Sorry, I just can't believe you're real.  I'm calling troll.  You have had nothing but drama, don't come back to comment on any of the advice you've been given, and just come back with more drama.  
Posted by Beachy730[/QUOTE]

<div>took the words right outta my head, beach. </div><div>
</div><div>and I also ditto PP's if you are real- stop planning and get some counseling.</div>

Zimsgirl

Now that I reread everything I think troll too. I fail for not spotting that haha

crownsuperstar

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_woohoo?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:2ee77c0d-a326-40d0-9c17-cc9da760eaebPost:3954bf58-13bd-47a7-bf94-242b544ecf0b">Re: WOOHOO!!!</a>:
[QUOTE]Sorry, I just can't believe you're real.  I'm calling troll.  You have had nothing but drama, don't come back to comment on any of the advice you've been given, and just come back with more drama.  
Posted by Beachy730[/QUOTE]

Yes totally agree! 

lrh17

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_woohoo?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:2ee77c0d-a326-40d0-9c17-cc9da760eaebPost:3954bf58-13bd-47a7-bf94-242b544ecf0b">Re: WOOHOO!!!</a>:
[QUOTE]Sorry, I just can't believe you're real.  I'm calling troll.  You have had nothing but drama, don't come back to comment on any of the advice you've been given, and just come back with more drama.  
Posted by Beachy730[/QUOTE]

Yea, I'm not sure if the drama her FI should worry about is between the military wives.  Sounds like they have enough of their own!

chandarob

You "ladies" sure have a lot of time on your hands. First time in these forums and last. I have to much to do. Sitting here to read people tear fellow women down isn't one of them.

ggirl2001

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_woohoo?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:2ee77c0d-a326-40d0-9c17-cc9da760eaebPost:257dd81e-f38f-45dd-926f-f7bf03cd16df">Re:WOOHOO!!!</a>:
[QUOTE]You "ladies" sure have a lot of time on your hands. First time in these forums and last. I have to much to do. Sitting here to read people tear fellow women down isn't one of them.
Posted by chandarob[/QUOTE]
You're right. You do have a lot to do. I hope you actually take the advice given to you to heart. You have a FI who doesn't trust you to make friends and says you'll be a weak wife. I don't think the ladies here are your biggest problem. 

iluvmytxrgr

I agree with GG.  We aren't being mean to you.  We are pointing out that you have more issues than wedding planning. You have a FI who does not trust you, he's putting you down and trying to tell you who your can and can not talk to.  That is controlling and bordering on abusive.  Please take what everyone is telling you to heart.   Your relationship is not a healthy one. 

lrh17

In Response to Re:WOOHOO!!!:[QUOTE]I agree with GG.nbsp; We aren't being mean to you.nbsp; We are pointing out that you have more issues than wedding planning. You have a FI who does not trust you, he's putting you down and trying to tell you who your can and can not talk to.nbsp; That is controlling and bordering on abusive.nbsp; Please take what everyone is telling you to heart.nbsp;nbsp; Your relationship is not a healthy one.nbsp; Posted by iluvmytxrgr[/QUOTE]

I apologize for implying that you might be a troll. But I agree with everything that was said by iluvmytx. We are trying to help by pointing out these very serious issues that seem to be present, and for that I am not sorry. Best of luck.