Confessions

AmandaSC1988

Confession – I wish I had the option of living at home. I miss that the fridge was always full of good food (not spoiled food.. ick), my laundry always got folded after I put it in the laundry, there was always dinner on the table every night, there is satellite TV with all my favorite channels, and most importantly my puppies (okay, old farts..but I still love them). With the economy the way it is, a lot of even college grads have to live at home after they graduate because they can’t afford to live on their own.  

I don’t see a problem with it, my sister had to move back into my parents house after she got pregnant at a young age. It was the best option for her and my parents never once complained about seeing their grandson every single day, after a few months she got on her feet and moved out. Better that than her living on the street. My BIL still can’t keep a job, he would much rather be at home with the kids than be working. That is what is so great about being in the 21^st century, men can stay at home and women can go to work and provide for their family. 

Kendall, I understand it can be hurtful when people say mean things, but part of being an adult is not letting little things like a mis- sent text message get to you.  Who cares if someone else thinks your FI is ugly? It is a bit hypocritical that you are bitching about her saying something mean about your boyfriend and you are doing the exact same thing!! At the very least you could say it to her face.

KendallR10

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : FFS IT'S NOT YOUT FVCKING HOUSE OR BANK ACCT OR CHILD! It's the parents decisions. Maybe she's in counseling, maybe the parents are but to tear her apart because she said your FI is ugly?? What the hell kind of friend does that make you?
Posted by ggirl2001[/QUOTE]
Probably a bad one but guess what.. I don't care. I don't need her as my friend. I don't need the drugs and shiit that her boyfriend does.. Unlike them I can keep a job and I don't need my parents to support me. Nor do I need fi

KendallR10

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[QUOTE]Confession – I wish I had the option of living at home. I miss that the fridge was always full of good food (not spoiled food.. ick), my laundry always got folded after I put it in the laundry, there was always dinner on the table every night, there is satellite TV with all my favorite channels, and most importantly my puppies (okay, old farts..but I still love them). With the economy the way it is, a lot of even college grads have to live at home after they graduate because they can’t afford to live on their own.    I don’t see a problem with it, my sister had to move back into my parents house after she got pregnant at a young age. It was the best option for her and my parents never once complained about seeing their grandson every single day, after a few months she got on her feet and moved out. Better that than her living on the street. My BIL still can’t keep a job, he would much rather be at home with the kids than be working. That is what is so great about being in the 21 st century, men can stay at home and women can go to work and provide for their family.   Kendall, I understand it can be hurtful when people say mean things, but part of being an adult is not letting little things like a mis- sent text message get to you.   Who cares if someone else thinks your FI is ugly? It is a bit hypocritical that you are bitching about her saying something mean about your boyfriend and you are doing the exact same thing!! <strong>At the very least you could say it to her face.</strong>
Posted by AmandaSC1988[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I already did, I talked to her on skype this morning. </div><div>
</div><div>Can he not keep a job because he fails a drug test and can't show up on time?</div><div>
</div>

ggirl2001

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : Probably a bad one but guess what.. I don't care. I don't need her as my friend. I don't need the drugs and shiit that her boyfriend does.. Unlike them I can keep a job and I don't need my parents to support me. Nor do I need fi
Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]

Then act like a fvcking grown up FFS. You are just as immature and naive as you are claiming she is.

crownsuperstar

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[QUOTE]My confession? I'm super homesick for Pittsburgh and my mom and dad. I miss them so much.
Posted by LetsHikeToday[/QUOTE]

Ditto what GG said with HUGS to you!  Homesickness is the worst!

LetsHikeToday

I also don't understand why someone is texting that your boyfriend is ugly. Who a these people? Why do you surround yourself with them?

KendallR10

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[QUOTE]I also don't understand why someone is texting that your boyfriend is ugly. Who a these people? Why do you surround yourself with them?
Posted by LetsHikeToday[/QUOTE]
It was a mis sent text. I thought she was my friend until this morning

LetsHikeToday

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : It was a mis sent text. I thought she was my friend until this morning
Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]

But who sends a text about that to begin with? Mis text or not? That's what I mean. My friends have more important things to do then text each other about who is ugly or not.

ggirl2001

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : It was a mis sent text. I thought she was my friend until this morning
Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]

I also don't know if I consider this a friendship ending move. Shiity yes but so she doesn't think he's cute. I'm also forgiving to a fault so there is that.

AmandaSC1988

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[QUOTE]I also don't understand why someone is texting that your boyfriend is ugly. Who a these people? Why do you surround yourselves with them?
Posted by LetsHikeToday[/QUOTE]

I think she accidentally sent it to Kendall...but more importantly, who does that? I have never once said anything mean about my friend's significant others...Thought it, but never felt the need to tell anyone (Well, besides FI). I don't understand all the drama-llamas.

KendallR10

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : I also don't know if I consider this a friendship ending move. Shiity yes but so she doesn't think he's cute. I'm also forgiving to a fault so there is that.
Posted by ggirl2001[/QUOTE]
 I though about that but I don't really need to be around people who do drugs..

SamiJoeB

WTF is your problem Kendall?!

I live with my parents.  CAB lives with hers, Crown & GG just told you that they've lived with their parents.  Why do I live with my parents, because my H is in another country and it's a way for us to save money.  Your friend is smart enough to realize that she's 16, and pregnant and she needs her parents because SHE'S NOT MATURE ENOUGH TO RAISE A CHILD.  She moved back in with her parents because she needs help, and I think she's a helluva lot smarter than you are for realizing that she's not ready to be out on her own, and to have a kid.  Seriously?  Way to piss me off within 10 minutes of me getting on the internet.  Kendall... This is why you piss so many people off.  You think AT 19 that you have everything figured out and you're right and everyone else is wrong.  Not to mention you make blanket statements that insult other people's (ie.. people on this board) life choices and circumstances.  You think she's made a terrible life choice by getting pregnant (Something YOU were trying to do up until a few months ago need I remind you?), I think you're making a terrible life choice by marrying someone you've been with for less than a year, with no life experience and no college education. I think you're making a terrible life choice by continuing to post on this board after GBCK at least twice, annd by coming back when most of us have made it quite clear that we can't stand you. You claim that "you haven't been yourself on the board" and that you've "learned a lot" learned a lot from us, yet the biggest thing that we've EVER tried to tell you is that you're immature and not ready for marriage.. so clearly you haven't learned diddly squat because you're planning on getting married in 2 days, you're 19 and you think that you're smarter than any of us. FTR, you're too immature to play on the internet, you're probably too immature to get married.  You couldn't even stick with a wedding date for more than a month for crips sake, you lose friends left and right supposedly because of their terrible choices, I bet they think you're making some pretty terrible ones yourself. 

You were gone for a few days, how about you go back there.



Irish-Did I not warn you this would happen?!

LetsHikeToday

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions :  I though about that but I don't really need to be around people who do drugs..
Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]

But you knew that before the text about your boyfriend being ugly.

ggirl2001

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : But you knew that before the text about your boyfriend being ugly.
Posted by LetsHikeToday[/QUOTE]

Apparently drugs are ok until someone gets called a name. Then all bets are off.

AmandaSC1988

KendallR10

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[QUOTE]WTF is your problem Kendall?! I live with my parents.  CAB lives with hers, Crown & GG just told you that they've lived with their parents.  Why do I live with my parents, because my H is in another country and it's a way for us to save money.  Your friend is smart enough to realize that she's 16, and pregnant and she needs her parents because SHE'S NOT MATURE ENOUGH TO RAISE A CHILD.  She moved back in with her parents because she needs help, and I think she's a helluva lot smarter than you are for realizing that she's not ready to be out on her own, and to have a kid.  Seriously?  Way to piss me off within 10 minutes of me getting on the internet.  Kendall... This is why you piss so many people off.  You think AT 19 that you have everything figured out and you're right and everyone else is wrong.  Not to mention you make blanket statements that insult other people's (ie.. people on this board) life choices and circumstances.  You think she's made a terrible life choice by getting pregnant (Something YOU were trying to do up until a few months ago need I remind you?), I think you're making a terrible life choice by marrying someone you've been with for less than a year, with no life experience and no college education. I think you're making a terrible life choice by continuing to post on this board after GBCK at least twice, annd by coming back when most of us have made it quite clear that we can't stand you. You claim that "you haven't been yourself on the board" and that you've "learned a lot" learned a lot from us, yet the biggest thing that we've EVER tried to tell you is that you're immature and not ready for marriage.. so clearly you haven't learned diddly squat because you're planning on getting married in 2 days, you're 19 and you think that you're smarter than any of us. FTR, you're too immature to play on the internet, you're probably too immature to get married.  You couldn't even stick with a wedding date for more than a month for crips sake, you lose friends left and right supposedly because of their terrible choices, I bet they think you're making some pretty terrible ones yourself.  You were gone for a few days, how about you go back there. Irish-Did I not warn you this would happen?!
Posted by SamiJoeB[/QUOTE]

<div>
</div><div>I have no issue with someone living with their parents its when someone tells their parents GFO and then goes crawling back. </div><div>
</div><div>I have no issue with losing friends. If you do drugs, feel free to get out of my life. </div><div>
</div><div>No at 19 I don't have it all figured out but I also don't tell my parents to GFO when they want to help me. When I lived at home I was in a terrible place. I didn't like the city, the school I was in, I loved my job but I wasn't making enough. Moving out was the best decision for me. When I left I didn't tell my parents to go to hell</div>

KendallR10

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : But you knew that before the text about your boyfriend being ugly.
Posted by LetsHikeToday[/QUOTE]
She kept telling me that he was going to go to rehab. He isn't. He can't stay clean for more than 3 days

KendallR10

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : Apparently drugs are ok until someone gets called a name. Then all bets are off.
Posted by ggirl2001[/QUOTE]
I actually walked away from my best friend because of drugs. All it took was for her to tell me who she was with before I told her bye

LetsHikeToday

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : She kept telling me that he was going to go to rehab. He isn't. He can't stay clean for more than 3 days
Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]

So you're saying that after she called your boyfriend ugly, you had a conversation about drugs?

ggirl2001

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : She kept telling me that he was going to go to rehab. He isn't. He can't stay clean for more than 3 days
Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]

Welcome to the world of addiction. It's a lot harder than just not using or going to rehab.

KendallR10

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : So you're saying that after she called your boyfriend ugly, you had a conversation about drugs?
Posted by LetsHikeToday[/QUOTE]
I had asked her about how her boyfriend's rehab was going. And she said he checked himself out

divinemsbee

Hike-Hugs. FI and I were talking last night about how his next station will probably be way outside of driving home distance, it actually really upset me.
CAB- I totally feel that way whenever the teenage boy thing happens. Not in a creepy way, just in an ego-boost way. I had what was probably an 18-year-old hit on my once at a show, and all I could think was, that's so sweet. Honey, no.

Also, while I lived on my own all through college and most of after it, I did move in with my Mom for about a year right after college, then on my own, and lived with her and her husband for about 9 months at the age of-gasp-27, until I moved down here to be with FI. Both times I've moved home it's been because the first time my Mom was still in my hometown, and I knew I had a job there, the second was because they know a lot of people and Utah has a stronger economy, so I had a job there too. People do things for lots of reasons, and in this economy, it's become so much harder.

I'm confessing that I really want to go and tear my old boss's throat out. I was at this job (Starbucks) for almost 3 years. I got promoted quickly, I was my boss's confidant, I practically ran the place. Then I told her that I would be moving soon and she threw me under the bus with my District Manager. I was totally blindsided. I didn't want to fight, because that job had changed/ended so many relationships for me, I was so stressed out. I wish I had fought now, because I keep applying for jobs that I am more than qualified for, and I never get more than a first interview. The only think I can think is that I'm getting blackballed. And I don't know what else to do about it. It really sucks because I like Starbucks as a company, and it was just that store being run into the ground be incompetence. (Basically she would work people, including me, overtime, and then move around coverage and non-coverage hours to pay them at the regular rate, not time and a half, as well as letting people leave several days worth of deposits in the safe until I would get there and take everything to the bank. I came in on a Monday and there were 6 deposits to go and my DM came in and the deposits being sitting in the safe were blamed on me). But now I can't seem to get hired and it's killing me.

kara811

I think this is complete MUD. The text about Kendall's FI being mis-sent sounds like a huge lie to me. Who even texts like that? I believe Kendall only posted this to get attention today or maybe she was bored. I never believe anything she says anymore. 

LetsHikeToday

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : I had asked her about how her boyfriend's rehab was going. And she said he checked himself out
Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]

If you didn't want to be friends with her because of her calling your boyfriend ugly, why did you continue the conversation?

KendallR10

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : If you didn't want to be friends with her because of her calling your boyfriend ugly, why did you continue the conversation?
Posted by LetsHikeToday[/QUOTE]
This was before I told her I couldn't be her friend any more

calindi

Kendall, this just doesn't make logical sense.

If you knew she was dating someone with a drug problem, and that is why you wanted to stop the friendship (which, by the way, is kind of a crappy reason to drop her as a friend - his problems aren't hers.  I have friends whose significant others I don't like) then how did this come to the point where she's texting you that your FI is ugly?  And why would you care?

And then somehow you call her up on Skype to tell her you don't want to be friends anymore... because of her BF's drug habit, but somehow tied into the fact that she texted you that your FI is ugly.

There isn't a screenplay writer on earth who could script this scene to make it realistic.

kyrgyzstan

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[QUOTE]I think this is complete MUD. The text about Kendall's FI being mis-sent sounds like a huge lie to me. Who even texts like that? I believe Kendall only posted this to get attention today or maybe she was bored. I never believe anything she says anymore. 
Posted by kara811[/QUOTE]

<div>I think everything about Kendall is MUD. </div><div>
</div><div>WHERE IS MY SLEEVES UP IN AFGHANISTAN PHOTO?!</div>

LetsHikeToday

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : This was before I told her I couldn't be her friend any more
Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]

But you said you weren't friends with her anymore because of her text. So then you said you talked about the drug problem. This doesn't make sense.

KendallR10

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : But you said you weren't friends with her anymore because of her text. So then you said you talked about the drug problem. This doesn't make sense.
Posted by LetsHikeToday[/QUOTE]
When the convo started by asking how he was doing. She told me and then I told her we couldn't be friends

LOLways

I really liked the Drama Llama comment!!