Here's the situation. My fiancé is a Marine. He's currently stationed in Quantico at TBS, he graduates May 9th, and he needs to be in Oklahoma by June 1st. So with our small planning window, and limited money what wetried to do is have some aspects of a big wedding, but ultimately, this is not going to be a blow out that costs tens of thousands. I wanted to invite immediate and extended family members to the ceremony and to a cocktail hour. (I figured inviting them to the cocktail hour would make them feel more included than just the ceremony.) But for the reception/dinner it would only be our immediate family and grandparents. I think our families would understand that we are trying to keep costs down, but I'm not sure what to do about wording invitations. I want to be clear that extended family will not be staying for dinner, but I don't want to sound harsh. What do you guys think?