I am getting married June 11, 2011. It's going to be super tiny, in our back yard, and only friends. We are stationed in Utah, originally from Florida, and my parents are coming, but his family can't afford it. The reason for two weddings, is that two of my Fiance's best friends are getting stationed overseas very soon and he wanted them here. We are supposed to have our "big" wedding in March 2012 and it is beyond stressful! Money issues, venue issues, guest list issues, I don't know how I am going to do it! I have always dreamed of a big wedding, big dress, the whole thing, but at this point I'm freaking! My mom told me today (her and my dad are paying for the whole thing) that if we want, we can get a lump sum to do with what we please instead of this big wedding. I guess I am just wondering, what would you do??