Hi! My fiance is currently several states away doing OSUT. We are getting married this summer. I'm kind of having worries/fears about a few things. Without going into detail, let's just say since leaving he has started putting his mom/sisters before me. I had a talk about this with him Sunday, saying that were we not engaged to get married soon it would not be a big deal. But you're supposed to care first and foremost about the person you are going to marry. I also discussed smaller things, like letting me take care of him a bit. There were recently a series of tornadoes that went through my town/state and surrounding areas. The DS's gave the soldiers a phone pass to call their families/friends to make sure they were okay. My fiance called his mother to check on her and his sisters and talked to her, leaving his last minute for me. Don't get me wrong, I am thankful he called me at all and I understand he would want to know about them too, but I just feel like as the person he wants to spend his life with, he should be most concerned about my wellbeing. The day before, he had received his duty station orders and was allowed to call us to tell us. Despite the fact I will be the one moving too, not his mom, he called her first. Then me. However, this doesn't really bother me AS much as the tornado situation. Before he left, he got aggravated with his mother always wanting to baby him and control him. About a month or so after beginning OSUT however, he started referring to her as "mommy" and putting her and his sisters ahead of his wife-to-be. I understand that a man's mother was the first woman in his life, and will always be important to him, but a part of growing up is being able to leave your father and mother and take a wife, loving her above anyone else. I will add, that I hear from the wives and fiances whose men are there with him, that he talks about me all the time and how he can't wait to marry me...so why doesn't his actions show this? I love this man, and as my husband-to-be I put him first in everything (except God). Maybe I am a bit old-fashioned. Anyone have any advice? Thank you!