FFIL, FSIL, FBIL

KendallR10

We talk a lot about future mother in laws on here but we very rarely talk about the rest of the family.

What is your relationship like with your future father in law, or FIL if you are married?

Does Fi/H have siblings? What is your relationship like with them?

LetsHikeToday

H is an only child. It's interesting! :-)

KendallR10

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[QUOTE]H is an only child. It's interesting! :-)
Posted by LetsHikeToday[/QUOTE]
Are you an only child?

KendallR10

FFIL: I like him. He's quiet and I'm a talker so its a little different.

FBIL: Him and I are totally different. He's very strict and not the having fun type (at least when he was here for x-mas) and I'm the silly like to have fun type

LetsHikeToday

Nope. Younger brother. I'm your typical first born.

CAB1217

I love my FI's brothers. They're funny, and like the best husbands and dads I've ever seen. Seeing their families makes me feel so lucky that I will have that too really soon . Awww I'm all mushy right now! LOL

Oh, and our best friends are my sister and her husband, so obviously he loves my family, as well.

firsttimersluck

FFIL- He is a brilliant man. Absolutely brilliant. He has his own psychiatry practice and is always the most interesting person to talk to . He is incredibly accepting of everyone, so it's impossible NOT to get along with the man!

FSIL- she and I are doing SOOO Much better than I have previously mentioned... She finally "clicked" that I'm her sister no matter how she feels about me, and I thnk that helped.
ALSO UPDATE!!!!! (if you remember she is BFF OMFG with H's most recent ex)
She deleted the BFF. Apparently they had a big fight, which isn't surprising because H's ex is a nut-case and totally bipolar. SO yay for them not being friends anyway. That makes her MUCH less tense around me :P

FBIL- is incredible. He's just like H and H's father. Brilliant guy finishing up his engineering degree and has been sooo welcoming and loving towards me since the day we met.
I'm a lucky lady.

Zimsgirl

FFIL is great. I like him the best out of his family members and I know he loves me because FI has said. He's very laid back and not judgmental like his wife. 

FSIL ehh she's a very late bloomer and very awkward to be around. She's 12 and her parents still order for her at restaurants off the kids menu and have to get her to shower and wash her hair well. It really bothers me how much they baby her and FI was raised to be very independent which I love. She just needs some tough love but we'll see.

firsttimersluck

hahahaha Zim you think that's babying?
FSIL is 26. 2.6.
and her parents still pay for..
insurance
car (all three.. she totalled TWO last year. They buy her brand new ones too)
car insurance
rent + utilities
+ groceries

Yup. She lives off of them. Completely. at 26.  *sigh*

Zimsgirl

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[QUOTE]hahahaha Zim you think that's babying? FSIL is 26. 2.6. and her parents still pay for.. insurance car (all three.. she totalled TWO last year. They buy her brand new ones too) car insurance rent + utilities + groceries Yup. She lives off of them. Completely. at 26.  *sigh*
Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]
Oh wow! We're back in the area where my parents live this weekend and there's a bakery here that my siblings and I love so we went there for breakfast. I grabbed FI a donut before I left and went to his paren'ts hosue where he was. His mom didn't say one word to me and like stormed out with his sister Emily. She left her just cooked breakfast and everything. FI was like what just happened? She came back and was like I was being polite and went to the gas station to get Emily a donut because you guys came in here with them and didn't get her one. I was like WTF?! I got a donut for him and thanks for calling me rude. Things have been tense with her lately :/

firsttimersluck

WOW that's pretty ridiculous... Is she the middle child or the only girl ?I wonder if that's what it is, because that's what H's sister is.
So weird.... FSIL and FMIL still baby talk to each other.. It freaks H out lol.. I don't blame him.. I mean.. a woman in her 50s and a woman in her mid 20s baby talking? A little much...

KendallR10

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFIL, FSIL, FBIL : Oh wow! We're back in the area where my parents live this weekend and there's a bakery here that my siblings and I love so we went there for breakfast. I grabbed FI a donut before I left and went to his paren'ts hosue where he was. His mom didn't say one word to me and like stormed out with his sister Emily. She left her just cooked breakfast and everything. FI was like what just happened? <strong>She came back and was like I was being polite and went to the gas station to get Emily a donut because you guys came in here with them and didn't get her one.</strong> I was like WTF?! I got a donut for him and thanks for calling me rude. Things have been tense with her lately :/
Posted by Zimsgirl[/QUOTE]
WTF?!? You aren't marrying her. You are a college student. You have bills to pay and one of those bills is not buying the whole freaking family doughnuts

Zimsgirl

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[QUOTE]WOW that's pretty ridiculous... Is she the middle child or the only girl ?I wonder if that's what it is, because that's what H's sister is. So weird.... FSIL and FMIL still baby talk to each other.. It freaks H out lol.. I don't blame him.. I mean.. a woman in her 50s and a woman in her mid 20s baby talking? A little much...
Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]
Haha yeah. It's just his sister and him and there's like an 8 year difference. It's pretty ridiculous. Like she told me it's hard to talk to her about stuff she obviously needs to know at her age and I just wanted to be like that's where you need to be a parent and not her friend. It really frustrates FI and I to see her babies so much. I love how independent FI is and how he's taken care of all of his stuff for a long time now but the difference is parenting is a bit ridiculous. It would sometime turn into a fight this summer to get her to play outside and they got her like a $500 Schwin bike for her to ride and FI was like that's nicer than my first car haha (he also paid for all of his cars)

Zimsgirl

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFIL, FSIL, FBIL : WTF?!? You aren't marrying her. You are a college student. You have bills to pay and one of those bills is not buying the whole freaking family doughnuts
Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]
Yeah she makes comments all the time about money and she doesn't think I manage money well and I spend too much on hair, nails, tanning, etc. But I work two jobs and make $800-$1000 a month at my job at our paper. Like she's so nosy. When FI was deployed I had to get a check from them from his account for our deposit. It was a 2 hour lunch of her badgering me about expenses and she even had the nerve to ask me how much was in my checking account, savings account, and my credit card I was like um that's none of your business

KendallR10

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFIL, FSIL, FBIL : Yeah she makes comments all the time about money and she doesn't think I manage money well and I spend too much on hair, nails, tanning, etc. But I work two jobs and make $800-$1000 a month at my job at our paper. Like she's so nosy. When FI was deployed I had to get a check from them from his account for our deposit. It was a 2 hour lunch of her badgering me about expenses and she even had the nerve to ask me how much was in my checking account, savings account, and my credit card I was like um that's none of your business
Posted by Zimsgirl[/QUOTE]
Wow. I would have just walked out. Its your money. My FMIL asks if I have enough if we go out to eat but she never asks how much we have<div>
</div><div>Random question: Do you know what that apple stuff is in your siggy?</div>

Zimsgirl

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFIL, FSIL, FBIL : Wow. I would have just walked out. Its your money. My FMIL asks if I have enough if we go out to eat but she never asks how much we have Random question: Do you know what that apple stuff is in your siggy?
Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]
Yeah it was really inappropriate <div>
</div><div>and the picture is of apple cider in an "apple mug" <span style="font-family:'Times New Roman', serif;font-size:15px;" class="Apple-style-span"><font style="background-image:initial;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;background-color:transparent;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;font-size:15px;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;vertical-align:baseline;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;" color="#000000"><a target="_blank" href="</font><a style="background-image:initial;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;background-color:transparent;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;font-size:15px;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;vertical-align:baseline;text-decoration:none;font-weight:normal;color:#1f1f1f;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;" href="http://hannahandben.weebly.com/"><u style="background-image:initial;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;background-color:transparent;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;font-size:15px;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;vertical-align:baseline;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;"></u></a><u style="background-image:initial;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;background-color:transparent;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;font-size:15px;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;vertical-align:baseline;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;"><font style="background-image:initial;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;background-color:transparent;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;font-size:15px;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;vertical-align:baseline;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;" color="#800080"><a style="background-image:initial;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;background-color:transparent;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;font-size:15px;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;vertical-align:baseline;text-decoration:none;font-weight:normal;color:#1f1f1f;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;" rel="nofollow" href="http://hannahandben.weebly.com/">http://www.bhg.com/recipes/party/seasonal/low-calorie-fall-desserts/?sssdmh=dm17.546893&esrc=nwwu090611&email=3161852571#page=11/</a></font></u><font style="background-image:initial;background-attachment:initial;background-origin:initial;background-clip:initial;background-color:transparent;border-style:initial;border-color:initial;font-size:15px;outline-width:0px;outline-style:initial;outline-color:initial;vertical-align:baseline;border-width:0px;padding:0px;margin:0px;" color="#000000">">Ms. Clicky</a></font></span></div>

Zimsgirl

So that was definitely a failed attempt at making a clicky and now it won't let me edit haha stupid knot but there's the link to it in all that mess. I found it on pinterest

KendallR10

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[QUOTE]So that was definitely a failed attempt at making a clicky and now it won't let me edit haha stupid knot but there's the link to it in all that mess. I found it on pinterest
Posted by Zimsgirl[/QUOTE]
It looks so yummy! I wonder if there is caramel in the bottom

Zimsgirl

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFIL, FSIL, FBIL : It looks so yummy! I wonder if there is caramel in the bottom
Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]
You could add it. I love having apple cider but I like to do a big batch in a crock pot and we don't have one yet :(

KendallR10

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFIL, FSIL, FBIL : You could add it. I love having apple cider but I like to do a big batch in a crock pot and we don't have one yet :(
Posted by Zimsgirl[/QUOTE]
Have you checked good will. I found  a brand new one for like $8

Zimsgirl

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFIL, FSIL, FBIL : Have you checked good will. I found  a brand new one for like $8
Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]
This is gonna sound really snotty but I won't shop at Good Will. I can't do many used things. I know that sounds bad but that's how my whole family is and growing up we never shopped at places like that. 

SamiJoeB

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[QUOTE]FFIL- He is a brilliant man. Absolutely brilliant. He has his own psychiatry practice and is always the most interesting person to talk to . He is incredibly accepting of everyone, so it's impossible NOT to get along with the man! FSIL- she and I are doing SOOO Much better than I have previously mentioned... She finally "clicked" that I'm her sister no matter how she feels about me, and I thnk that helped. ALSO UPDATE!!!!! (if you remember she is BFF OMFG with H's most recent ex) She deleted the BFF. Apparently they had a big fight, which isn't surprising because H's ex is a nut-case and totally bipolar. SO yay for them not being friends anyway. That makes her MUCH less tense around me :P FBIL- is incredible. He's just like H and H's father. Brilliant guy finishing up his engineering degree and has been sooo welcoming and loving towards me since the day we met. I'm a lucky lady. :)
Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]

FTL... Did you forget that you're married? hahaha.. They aren't so Future anymore..<img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />


H has 1 brother.  BIL is 30 (maybe 29), he was in the AF for 8 years, one of the first units to go into Iraq.. He suffers from PTSD and depression still.  He's really nice.  He took me out to breakfast on the morning of the wedding.  He claims he really wants to settle down, but his actions say otherwise. 

KendallR10

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFIL, FSIL, FBIL : This is gonna sound really snotty but I won't shop at Good Will. I can't do many used things. I know that sounds bad but that's how my whole family is and growing up we never shopped at places like that. 
Posted by Zimsgirl[/QUOTE]
Any reason why? There isn't anything wrong with not wanting to buy something used but it never hurts to look. I've found a ton of things brand new still in the box

firsttimersluck

oh! Right! bahahaha. .... >_< Fail.


awww... your BIL makes me saaad I mean.. sweet that he took you out to breakfast,.. That's so touching.. But so sad

My oldest standing friend is a Marine and just found out that he has a spinal degenerative disease... And the fact that he has had 3, one year long deployments with those backpacks has made it so bad that he is suppose to be in a wheelchair in less than ten years
He asked what he could do about it, and the doctor told him that he better start smoking pot now, because it's just going to get worse.
It makes me tear up every time I think of him Every time I think of any of the guys that have issues or worse issues because of the military service they put in

Zimsgirl

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: FFIL, FSIL, FBIL : Any reason why? There isn't anything wrong with not wanting to buy something used but it never hurts to look. I've found a ton of things brand new still in the box
Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]
I hate not knowing where the things have been and I'm willing to splurge on appliances or just wait for the wedding. 

SamiJoeB

Thats so sad..  I know I worry about H with his MOS change, and how it will affect him later, since he wants to be a career Marine..

Thread jack: I was driving home today and these 2 little girls had set up like a lemonade stand, but they were giving bracelets for donations, and every bracelet had a match and they were going to donate the money and the matching bracelets to the troops.  I gave them $20, and asked if I could have both bracelets so I could send my bracelet's twin to my H and they were like "Tell your H Thank You, and he's Awesome!"  it was super cute.  They were like 8 or so.. and it totally touched my heart.

Zimsgirl

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[QUOTE]Thats so sad..  I know I worry about H with his MOS change, and how it will affect him later, since he wants to be a career Marine.. Thread jack: I was driving home today and these 2 little girls had set up like a lemonade stand, but they were giving bracelets for donations, and every bracelet had a match and they were going to donate the money and the matching bracelets to the troops.  I gave them $20, and asked if I could have both bracelets so I could send my bracelet's twin to my H and they were like "Tell your H Thank You, and he's Awesome!"  it was super cute.  They were like 8 or so.. and it totally touched my heart.
Posted by SamiJoeB[/QUOTE]
Aww that's so adorable! I bought a yellow ribbon belly button ring and the lady said they were a licensed product and a portion goes to something for the troops (she didn't name a specific group/charity) but I was like wow even a belly button ring with benefits haha

KendallR10

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[QUOTE]Thats so sad..  I know I worry about H with his MOS change, and how it will affect him later, since he wants to be a career Marine.. <strong>Thread jack: I was driving home today and these 2 little girls had set up like a lemonade stand, but they were giving bracelets for donations, and every bracelet had a match and they were going to donate the money and the matching bracelets to the troops.  I gave them $20, and asked if I could have both bracelets so I could send my bracelet's twin to my H and they were like "Tell your H Thank You, and he's Awesome!"  it was super cute.  They were like 8 or so.. and it totally touched my heart.
Posted by SamiJoeB[/QUOTE]</strong>
Thats sweet. I love little kids

firsttimersluck

oh my goodness sami that is soooo adorable! aaack!

firsttimersluck

(SamiJ darling I has written you back. I will be finishing up my baking and heading to bed, however, so if you write me back, which you should, I shall reply tomorrow morning. )

Night guys!

BinxRose

Ok I know this thread is dead, but I just have to say that I love all my FILs. My FMIL is nice and down-to-earth amd generous. My FFIL is really funny and so nice, and he's a social worker for kids/teens, so we share that interest! My FBILs are both younger (one is in the Marines, the other a senior in high school). I adore them! I don't have any brothers so I am really excited to "gain" some when I get married! We get along really great, especially me and the youngest. We act like "true" brother and sister, picking on each other and calling each other names haha And the rest of my FI's family (aunts/uncles/cousins/grandparents) really like me and treat me like family. I really hit the jackpot with the ILs!