We got our orders

prodigalgirl

And I'll be moving.  We had hoped that we'd be able to live here in town (we have a Navy base here), but it didn't work out.

And my mom is already acting like she's angry with me over it.

I get that it's tough for her, but come on... she was an Air Force wife and we moved to England for 6 years when I was little.  I'm only moving a few states away!

I have so much stress right now.  It's the end of the school year and all of my students who haven't done anything this entire quarter want to bring me all of their work so that they don't fail my class.  On top of that, I'm planning a wedding while he's on the other side of the country.  I've had to do all the bride and groom planning myself.  I finally got him to choose a tux, but then *I* was the one who had to sit there for an hour while they got every piece of the tux in the system.  Now, one of the guys in the wedding (one of my bridesdudes) is complaining that the tux is expensive.  I told him I was doing my best and that I'd try and get in touch with FI (who is underway).  Then, today, this guy posted on FB that the lady at Men's Wearhouse said I picked the most expensive tux they rent.  Nice.

I really don't need the extra stress of my mom barely speaking to me because of orders.

How do you deal with that?

SamiJoeB

My MIL and I just got into a HUGE fight because I moved home to live with my parents.  Even though she told me all the time how "inconvient" and "expensive" it was for me to live with them. It all ended really badly between us, and we're still not speaking.

All that because I was moving. I think it's just a parental thing. They like to have us close. With my MIL, both her sons were gone, and I was the next best thing (I also think it had something to do with not wanting to deal with her own failing marriage..is that snarky of me?) Give her a few days, and then maybe if she's still giving you the cold shoulder, just talk to her. Relax, everything will work out just fine!!

prettyjewish6

Aww I am so sorry you are dealing with that. Your family should be happy you aren't moving across the country! My fiance and I are hoping for him to cross train early next spring and move us across the country!!

kara811

Ditto Sami on the parental thing. Our parents want us to eventually settle down close to them. Problem is H's family is from the Northwest and mine are in SoCal and Vegas! 

Your mom will just have to get accustomed to the military lifestyle again. Tell her that it's still the same as ever, you dont' get to choose where you'll be or when. She needs to understand that. We just got orders too and will have to be moving over there in the East Coast. None of the family members like it of course since it's on the other side but at least we'll be back stateside. So where will the new station be? 

You'll be fine and so will everything. Try to relax a little and don't be too stressed out!

Sammy0709

My mom got really mad when DH and I decided to stay here rather than PCSing to Florida (closer to her).  It was more convenient for us since DH wants to go to a school for his rate that is on the west coast eventually.  I let my mom be upset about it for a while and she still isn't happy about it as I am her only child but she has found ways to get over it.  Your mom will become comfortable with it eventually.