really confused on location

luigisgirl1988

My fiance and I met here in North Dakota but his family lives in Alabama should we the wedding here in North Dakota or in Alabama I need help......

kateguess22

Probably North Dakota. Is it just his family in Alabama? Are most of your other guests- your family, friends, etc living in North Dakota?

naomikb

Where are most of your guests?  Where would it be easiest to plan from?

I (personally) wouldn't consider planning a wedding in a place that I didn't live, there were too many visits and meetings with vendors and details that I wanted a certain way.  Lots of girls do it but it's not for me.

kateguess22

Agree with naomikb. A friend of mine planned her wedding from about a 5 hour drive away and everything was way more complicated. Much easier to plan it at least semi-close to where you live or can easily drive to.

Avion22

I'm in Scotland and planning a wedding in Virginia.  Granted, my parents live in the same town that I'm getting married in, which makes it a little bit more helpful.   But honestly, I think doing it in two week-long planning visits, and by internet/email has made it a lot EASIER.   

Also, EVERYONE is going to have to travel to the wedding (except my parents).  Most of his family are travling from Florida, and some of our friends are traveling from as far away as Korea.   So don't worry -- if you give people enough notice, they should be able to save up money to travel.    

If you KNOW that one family has more trouble traveling than another, then I might recommend choosing to get married closer to them,  but really you should have the wedding where you want to have it.   

Tami87

I am having my wedding in my fiancé’s hometown (St. Louis) and am planning from long distance (Maryland DC-area). It is possible. All of my vendors have been great with working with me over phone and e-mail, although I would plan and budget for a few trips to meet with people in person if you can. We have a year and a half engagement, so I've made 3 trips so far (March,  July,  Jan) and probably will make one more before the wedding (July 2012) because FMIL would like to have a shower for her side of the family.

 

We picked St. Louis because almost all of my FI’s family lives in St. Louis. Most of our mutual friends and wedding party live in the Kansas City area (4 hour drive) and my family is scattered across the country, although a fair amount including my grandparents live outside of Chicago (5 hour drive). So we went with the city that was a central location and that was easiest for most of our guests to get to.

 

Drawbacks are that probably a lot of my friends from Maryland won’t be able to make it (mostly poor graduate students) and it is much more challenging to do a lot of DIY projects because I have to figure out how to ship/take on a plane anything I make.  But for us having all our family be able to make it was the most important factor.