Community› Wedding Discussion Boards› Military Brides
Military Brides
New Discussion

QOTD 9/29 Thought Provoking Thursday...or whatever..

2»

Re: QOTD 9/29 Thought Provoking Thursday...or whatever..

  • AmandaSC1988AmandaSC1988 member
    First Comment First Anniversary
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_qotd-929-thought-provoking-thursdayor-whatever?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:67ab9ae5-56bc-4c13-abab-432db621aeedPost:4819b0bf-e742-433f-a2ec-f15914147ad5">Re: QOTD 9/29 Thought Provoking Thursday...or whatever..</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: QOTD 9/29 Thought Provoking Thursday...or whatever.. : I don't think questioning your statement is "attacking" you at all. Also, I don't think you can justify a blanket statement like "I don't think there is ever a valid reason for abortion" with just one example (and an example that you admittedly don't know all that much about). <strong>There are plenty of fetal abnormalities that allow a child to be carried to term but won't allow life outside the womb for more than a few days.</strong>  I think forcing a parent to carry such a pregnancy is term is unnecessarily cruel, to both the parents and the fetus. ETA:  Check out <a href="http://www.aheartbreakingchoice.com/" rel='nofollow'>http://www.aheartbreakingchoice.com/</a> for examples.
    Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]

    Like I said, I'm an optimist...I believe there is always an exception...

    My FSIL was told her child would die immediately after birth.. slim possiblity that he would survive the day. And if he did he did survive the day would have down syndrome, and many other health problems that would require a great deal of care for the rest of his (short) life.

    2 years later he is a happy healthy child with NO health problems at all.
    Photobucket
    Report Reply
  • divinemsbeedivinemsbee member
    First Anniversary 5 Love Its First Comment
    edited December 2011
    1. When was the last time you tried something new? Hmmmm. Last night I made Sami's mini-omelets (I used cheddar, goat cheese, bacon and broccoli)-and they were delicious. Also, adopting our puppy was a totally new experience for me, and I'm so happy we did.
    2. What’s a belief that you hold with which many people disagree? I'm liberal. Bleeding-heart-feme-nazi-long-haired-hippie-pinko-commie-queer liberal. I don't expect everyone else to be, and I have friends from all across political and apolitical spectrums, but I am a true-blue who tends to live in red states.
    3. Do you think crying is a sign of weakness or strength? I do see it as a sign of weakness only in certain situations. I tend to cry when I'm angry, and I do feel that comes across as weak to people. But I just get so mad that I start crying, which makes me feel foolish, and looks awful. It's hard to make a point while crying, especially if you are a woman, I think.
    4. Which activities make you lose track of time? That great time waster--the Internet. With TV, I generally know what time it is by what's on, but I can waste hours online. Especially as I read about 6-7 sites every day.
    5. If you could choose one book as a mandatory read for all high school students, which book would you choose? Middlesex by Jeffrey Eugenides. It's one of the most perfectly written books I've ever read. I do enjoy a lot of canon literature, too, but most of that is already taught.
    6. If you could live anywhere, where would it be? I have always had a soft spot for New Orleans, but I don't know if I can live there. after living with my Mom in Utah, I love the weather there so much, but it's so far away from everyone else in my family. So, I guess, I'm not sure yet.
    7. What do you want to be when you grow up? That is a tricky one. I know that I do want to be a SAHM if we have the money for it. I enjoy hostessing and all that jazz. I actually want to go to cosmetology school and learn to do nails-I'm a wee bit obsessed with them.
    8. What is your favorite thing about the upcoming season? (Fall or Holidays) I love the weather, because there are a perfect 3-6 weeks here in the South of beautiful weather. It's not so hot it might kill you, but it's not cold and rainy or slushy yet.
    9. What's the best part of growing older? My ability to be surer in my decisions. Also, more and more, the ability to relate to my parents and older relatives as an adult.
    10. What are your plans for the weekend? Still getting the apartment together, I keep moving furniture. Maybe seeing the FILs to get FI's car back.

    On the topic of abortion, because I do feel a need to say this, I had one. About 4 years ago. It was not painful emotionally or physically. If I hadn't, I never would have met my FI and I would be stuck in a dead-end relationship with a child that I would have been ill-equipped to take care of. And I have an incredibly supportive family, so I can't imagine what it's like to raise a child with no one on your side. So I am grateful for it in so many ways. I respect people who say it is not for them, or even that they think it is wrong. But just because you think that, it doesn't mean that it shouldn't be an option for someone that doesn't. I think legislating based on morality is a dangerous game.

    I also think that saying that women should "suffer the consequences" is an example of how our societ still wants to punish women for sexual autonomy. Basically, if she's a big stupid slut, she deserves to get pregnant and have to care for a child. There's really never any mention of a man "suffering" because of it, and that's because we all know that women tend to do most child-car and rearing.

    I agree with Bill Clinton that "Abortion should be safe, legal, and rare." But I think that when we start saying I'm pro-choice, but only if people use that choice the way I want them to, then we are on a slippery slope. I don't think abortion should be used as birth control, but I do think that's better than forcing a woman to have a child (children) she cannot take care of. I can't sit here and say I'm pro-choice, but only the first time. I can try to make sure that people have access to information so that it is a one-time-only, or hopefully a never-at-all event, and that's what I work towards. And I do think that comprehensive sex-ed should be taught in schools. The number of teenagers having unprotected sex is rising (I'll find the article), and that scares me.

    image
    Report Reply
  • AmandaSC1988AmandaSC1988 member
    First Comment First Anniversary
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_qotd-929-thought-provoking-thursdayor-whatever?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:67ab9ae5-56bc-4c13-abab-432db621aeedPost:9ca7bf12-8e28-4f8f-9475-6d099d267401">Re: QOTD 9/29 Thought Provoking Thursday...or whatever..</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: QOTD 9/29 Thought Provoking Thursday...or whatever.. : Not to be a bitch, but... Are you kidding me? "The ideal situation?" The ideal situation is that rape, fetal deformities, and unplanned pregnancies never happen in the first place. If you're basing your view points on ideal situations, you don't even need to worry about abortion.
    Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]

    I agree with you, if we lived in an ideal world we wouldn't have to deal with any of the social issues of today.
    Photobucket
    Report Reply
  • AmandaSC1988AmandaSC1988 member
    First Comment First Anniversary
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_qotd-929-thought-provoking-thursdayor-whatever?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:67ab9ae5-56bc-4c13-abab-432db621aeedPost:c51bdb2a-7e5d-46eb-ad33-5c043d75915e">Re: QOTD 9/29 Thought Provoking Thursday...or whatever..</a>:
    [QUOTE]On the topic of abortion, because I do feel a need to say this, I had one. About 4 years ago. It was not painful emotionally or physically. If I hadn't, I never would have met my FI and I would be stuck in a dead-end relationship with a child that I would have been ill-equipped to take care of. And I have an incredibly supportive family, so I can't imagine what it's like to raise a child with no one on your side. So I am grateful for it in so many ways. I respect people who say it is not for them, or even that they think it is wrong. <strong>But just because you think that, it doesn't mean that it shouldn't be an option for someone that doesn't.</strong> I think legislating based on morality is a dangerous game. I also think that saying that women should "suffer the consequences" is an example of how our societ still wants to punish women for sexual autonomy. Basically, if she's a big stupid slut, she deserves to get pregnant and have to care for a child. There's really never any mention of a man "suffering" because of it, and that's because we all know that women tend to do most child-car and rearing. I agree with Bill Clinton that "Abortion should be safe, legal, and rare." But I think that when we start saying I'm pro-choice, but only if people use that choice the way I want them to, then we are on a slippery slope. I don't think abortion should be used as birth control, but I do think that's better than forcing a woman to have a child (children) she cannot take care of. I can't sit here and say I'm pro-choice, but only the first time. I can try to make sure that people have access to information so that it is a one-time-only, or hopefully a never-at-all event, and that's what I work towards. And I do think that comprehensive sex-ed should be taught in schools. The number of teenagers having unprotected sex is rising (I'll find the article), and that scares me.
    Posted by divinemsbee[/QUOTE]

    I <strong>never</strong> said it shouldn't be an option. People should do whatever they want with their bodies...it isn't effecting me. I am respectful of what people choose,  I'm not some crazy that sits by the abortion clinics cussing people out. I just don't believe it is right, but that is just my belief...

    <span>
    </span>
    Photobucket
    Report Reply
  • RethanyRethany
    First Comment
    edited December 2011
    I can't take the bold off and I'm at work so I can't monkey around with it.  Sorry :(

    1. When was the last time you tried something new? 
    I bought some skinny jeans with high boots last week.  I swore I'd never buy skinny jeans but they look really good.  I plan on wearing them for our engagement pictures next week!

    2. What’s a belief that you hold with which many people disagree?
     FI and I don't want kids.  We have many reasons for this that not everyone agrees with.  People keep saying "Well who will take care of you when your older?"  I think having a child for the sole reason of taking care of you when you're older is a really selfish reason for having a child.

    3. Do you think crying is a sign of weakness or strength?
    Someone said it best earlier.  Depending on the context, crying can be both.  Sometimes being strong for too long can get to you, and you just let it all out. 

    4. Which activities make you lose track of time?
    Reading (which I can't wait to start doing after school again, I'm sure I'll be asking you ladies for some recommendations!), TK, Running, and Crafts

    5. If you could choose one book as a mandatory read for all high school students, which book would you choose?
     First They Killed My Father.  We read it in high school and the story has always stuck with me.  I wasn't a huge fan of reading books back then, but that was actually an interesting read.

    6. If you could live anywhere, where would it be?
    I'm actually pretty content where we are right now.  However, we went to North Carolina twice this summer and the mountains were awesome.  FI would love to move there, and that is one place I would be ok to follow!

    7. What do you want to be when you grow up?
    I'd love to be a Physician's Assistant.  The local school I would want to go to is booked until 2015.  I'd be ok in my current profession though too.

    8. What is your favorite thing about the upcoming season? (Fall or Holidays)
    Grapes and wine!  I live in the middle of grape vineyards and the smell is amazing this time of year.

    9. What's the best part of growing older?
    I think the best part of growing older is seeing where the past has led you.

    10. What are your plans for the weekend?
    Volunteering at/Running a 5k tomorrow.  My brother, SIL, and nephew are coming into town so we'll hang out.  Making some mock-up invites (DIY project) just to make sure they are what I want.
    Photobucket
    Report Reply
  • DaKelliAB09DaKelliAB09
    First Comment
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_qotd-929-thought-provoking-thursdayor-whatever?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:67ab9ae5-56bc-4c13-abab-432db621aeedPost:b692909d-9351-4af1-a4ac-ec1959fff4c0">Re: QOTD 9/29 Thought Provoking Thursday...or whatever..</a>:
    [QUOTE]I can't take the bold off and I'm at work so I can't monkey around with it.  Sorry :( 1. When was the last time you tried something new?<strong>   I bought some skinny jeans with high boots last week.  I swore I'd never buy skinny jeans but they look really good.  I plan on wearing them for our engagement pictures next week!</strong> 2. What’s a belief that you hold with which many people disagree?  FI and I don't want kids.  We have many reasons for this that not everyone agrees with.  People keep saying "Well who will take care of you when your older?"  I think having a child for the sole reason of taking care of you when you're older is a really selfish reason for having a child. 3. Do you think crying is a sign of weakness or strength? Someone said it best earlier.  Depending on the context, crying can be both.  Sometimes being strong for too long can get to you, and you just let it all out.  4. Which activities make you lose track of time? Reading (which I can't wait to start doing after school again, I'm sure I'll be asking you ladies for some recommendations!), TK, Running, and Crafts 5. If you could choose one book as a mandatory read for all high school students, which book would you choose?  First They Killed My Father.  We read it in high school and the story has always stuck with me.  I wasn't a huge fan of reading books back then, but that was actually an interesting read. 6. If you could live anywhere, where would it be? I'm actually pretty content where we are right now.  However, we went to North Carolina twice this summer and the mountains were awesome.  FI would love to move there, and that is one place I would be ok to follow! 7. What do you want to be when you grow up? I'd love to be a Physician's Assistant.  The local school I would want to go to is booked until 2015.  I'd be ok in my current profession though too. 8. What is your favorite thing about the upcoming season? (Fall or Holidays) Grapes and wine!  I live in the middle of grape vineyards and the smell is amazing this time of year. 9. What's the best part of growing older? I think the best part of growing older is seeing where the past has led you. 10. What are your plans for the weekend? Volunteering at/Running a 5k tomorrow.  My brother, SIL, and nephew are coming into town so we'll hang out.  Making some mock-up invites (DIY project) just to make sure they are what I want.
    Posted by spiffycoolbeans[/QUOTE]

    Haha, I was the same way!  But now I love them, especiall with boots!   You should definitely post some of your e-pics when you get them!
    Image and video hosting by TinyPic
    Report Reply
  • Elle1036Elle1036 member
    First Anniversary 5 Love Its Name Dropper Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_qotd-929-thought-provoking-thursdayor-whatever?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:67ab9ae5-56bc-4c13-abab-432db621aeedPost:751974f4-000e-4b93-9648-5e67dd2a1877">Re: QOTD 9/29 Thought Provoking Thursday...or whatever..</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: QOTD 9/29 Thought Provoking Thursday...or whatever.. : Like I said, I'm an optimist...I believe there is always an exception... My FSIL was told her child would die immediately after birth.. slim possiblity that he would survive the day. And if he did he did survive the day would have down syndrome, and many other health problems that would require a great deal of care for the rest of his (short) life. 2 years later he is a happy healthy child with NO health problems at all.
    Posted by AmandaSC1988[/QUOTE]

    There's a difference between being an optimist and just being naive.  You acknowledged yourself that the situations you've mentioned are <em>exceptions</em>.  Exceptions meaning not the norm.  Most children who receive a fatal diagnosis in utero will not live to be happy and healthy, and it's really unfair for you to make a blanket statement based on the 1% that might.
    Report Reply
  • divinemsbeedivinemsbee member
    First Anniversary 5 Love Its First Comment
    edited December 2011
    Sorry Amanda, that was meant as a general "you", was definitely not directed at you in particular. I do appreciate that it is your belief, heck, I'm Catholic. And I appreciate that the level of conversation here has been really good.
    image
    Report Reply
  • calindicalindi member
    First Anniversary Combo Breaker First Comment
    edited December 2011
    I feel like part of the beauty of our laws stating that people having the right to choose whether or not to have an abortion is that people like Amanda never have to - whether she's carrying a child who is the product of rape, incest, or who has a condition that is 'incompatible with life' (FYI - no amount of optimism can fix those problems - I know someone who was pregnant with a baby who did not have a brain.  She did not want to continue the pregnancy knowing that there was no possible way for this child to ever live.  Sometimes going through the pregnancy causes far more pain and damage, and it's someone's CHOICE what's the best option for them).  

    But as soon as it becomes law, you're taking that choice away from everyone else.  I myself would probably never be able to get an abortion unless the child was not going to survive outside the womb anyway (like the case I mentioned before).  But I would never, ever want that legislated.

    Oh, and Anne - I do agree with being held to the same standards for the same roles, and that men and women are physically built differently so they're usually better suited for certain physical requirements than others.  But I don't think that men can't stay home with children or be as good of a stay-at-home parent as women if they're so inclined.  I know my FI would love to be a stay-at-home Dad for a bit.

    And Elle - I'm an athiest, too.

    image

    Anniversary

    Report Reply
  • AmandaSC1988AmandaSC1988 member
    First Comment First Anniversary
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_qotd-929-thought-provoking-thursdayor-whatever?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:67ab9ae5-56bc-4c13-abab-432db621aeedPost:569f94d7-4ce1-4e3b-babb-9db2cbbabf90">Re: QOTD 9/29 Thought Provoking Thursday...or whatever..</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: QOTD 9/29 Thought Provoking Thursday...or whatever.. : There's a difference between being an optimist and just being naive.  You acknowledged yourself that the situations you've mentioned are exceptions .  Exceptions meaning not the norm.  Most children who receive a fatal diagnosis in utero will not live to be happy and healthy, and it's really unfair for you to make a blanket statement based on the 1% that might.
    Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]

    You make a very valid point,  but you just never know!  Call me naive all you want but I an very thankful for my (future) nephew.  I guess if I was put in that situation I would wonder about the "what-if"
    Photobucket
    Report Reply
  • Elle1036Elle1036 member
    First Anniversary 5 Love Its Name Dropper Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_qotd-929-thought-provoking-thursdayor-whatever?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:67ab9ae5-56bc-4c13-abab-432db621aeedPost:9fa6157c-b9a2-4cda-bd66-43b70f36a02f">Re: QOTD 9/29 Thought Provoking Thursday...or whatever..</a>:
    [QUOTE] And Elle - I'm an athiest, too.
    Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]

    I'm pretty sure I knew that.  High five!

    As much as I genuinely respect everyone's different religious beliefs, it makes me really happy when I meet another non-believer.  Where I grew up, it was hard to find anybody who wasn't Christian and I spent a lot of my adolescence thinking that there was something wrong with me and I would be ostracized if I confessed by beliefs to anyone.
    Report Reply
  • Elle1036Elle1036 member
    First Anniversary 5 Love Its Name Dropper Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_qotd-929-thought-provoking-thursdayor-whatever?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:67ab9ae5-56bc-4c13-abab-432db621aeedPost:cb583d01-e33f-4a83-8b51-cc6f083aa96f">Re: QOTD 9/29 Thought Provoking Thursday...or whatever..</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: QOTD 9/29 Thought Provoking Thursday...or whatever.. : You make a very valid point, <strong> but you just never know! </strong> Call me naive all you want but I an very thankful for my (future) nephew.  I guess if I was put in that situation I would wonder about the "what-if"
    Posted by AmandaSC1988[/QUOTE]

    I don't agree.  It may sound harsh, but I do think there are situations where there is no hope.  A fetus with anencephaly (literally "no brain" -- this is the situation in Cate's post) <em>will not</em> survive.  The only reason it can survive in utero is that its basic functions are being controlled by the mother's body (and thus, the mother's brain).  As soon as that connection is severed, the baby won't be able to breathe, pump blood, etc.
    Report Reply
  • calindicalindi member
    First Anniversary Combo Breaker First Comment
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_qotd-929-thought-provoking-thursdayor-whatever?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:67ab9ae5-56bc-4c13-abab-432db621aeedPost:71e5d1c2-add7-40a2-a4bc-e90a1e33ef76">Re: QOTD 9/29 Thought Provoking Thursday...or whatever..</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: QOTD 9/29 Thought Provoking Thursday...or whatever.. : I'm pretty sure I knew that.  High five! As much as I genuinely respect everyone's different religious beliefs, it makes me really happy when I meet another non-believer.  Where I grew up, it was hard to find anybody who wasn't Christian and I spent a lot of my adolescence thinking that there was something wrong with me and I would be ostracized if I confessed by beliefs to anyone.
    Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]

    I totally agree.  I don't mind when people are religious, and I totally respect it.  However, it's nice to find like-minded people, as it seems to be rather rare that people will at least ADMIT that they don't believe in anything!  I know plenty of cultural Catholics who believe in nothing but go as a matter of habit and would never admit out loud that they don't believe in any of it.

    Funny story - when FI's Mom was talking about a dating site she uses, she mentioned that she'd never meet with anyone who had "agnostic" or "athiest" or "more spiritual than religious" on their profile as she feels those people have "no values" and "would make bad partners".  Little did she know... I mentioned then that I'm athiest.  She sort of stumbled over her tongue for a moment, but it was funny (little does she know that her son is agnostic, too).  Best part: she's been divorced 3 times and is absolutely a horrible marriage partner (she's very selfish and juvenile).  So much for religion predicting success of marriage.

    image

    Anniversary

    Report Reply
  • Elle1036Elle1036 member
    First Anniversary 5 Love Its Name Dropper Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_qotd-929-thought-provoking-thursdayor-whatever?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:67ab9ae5-56bc-4c13-abab-432db621aeedPost:32c37b83-7364-4ac4-9399-d54bbe9e4694">Re: QOTD 9/29 Thought Provoking Thursday...or whatever..</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: QOTD 9/29 Thought Provoking Thursday...or whatever.. : I totally agree.  I don't mind when people are religious, and I totally respect it.  However, it's nice to find like-minded people, as it seems to be rather rare that people will at least ADMIT that they don't believe in anything!  I know plenty of cultural Catholics who believe in nothing but go as a matter of habit and would never admit out loud that they don't believe in any of it. Funny story - when FI's Mom was talking about a dating site she uses, she mentioned that she'd never meet with anyone who had "agnostic" or "athiest" or "more spiritual than religious" on their profile as she feels those people have "no values" and "would make bad partners".  Little did she know... I mentioned then that I'm athiest.  She sort of stumbled over her tongue for a moment, but it was funny (little does she know that her son is agnostic, too).  Best part: she's been divorced 3 times and is absolutely a horrible marriage partner (she's very selfish and juvenile).  So much for religion predicting success of marriage.
    Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]

    Haha yeah, FI's mom was talking to me once (when FI and I hadn't been together that long and she didn't know yet that I wasn't religious) about being worried about the types of people her youngest daughter was befriending.  She said something like "I just want to make sure that her friends have stable home lives and good values.  Do their parents keep an eye on them?  Do they have a faith?  Those things are important for me to know."

    Unlike you, I just smiled and nodded and kept my mouth shut.  She's since learned the truth about me, though, and she was actually a lot more accepting than I thought she would be.  I think she's really come to understand that "religious" and "good person" are not necessarily synonymous.
    Report Reply
  • firsttimersluckfirsttimersluck member
    5 Love Its Name Dropper First Anniversary Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    1. When was the last time you tried something new?
    I tried marriage. As of Sunday. Does that count? Then Sunday :o) haha

    2. What’s a belief that you hold with which many people disagree?
    I don't believe in Karma. I feel it's something people say to make themselves feel better when someone wrongs them, or something in life goes badly.
    I also am okay with geneticly modified foods (touchy, because there are a lot of constraints on this one), I don't believe in popping aspirin/ibprofin for a headache, and people that harm animals should be tried as if they harmed a human.

    3. Do you think crying is a sign of weakness or strength?
    I believe in circumstance. Either/or depending on the situation.

    4. Which activities make you lose track of time?
    Gym, TK, FB, Cleaning, Gardening, Hiking/Backpacking

    5. If you could choose one book as a mandatory read for all high school students, which book would you choose?
    Jack London's The Seawolf (or Hesse's Siddhartha)

    6. If you could live anywhere, where would it be?
    Back in Germany. Or California.

    7. What do you want to be when you grow up?
    Researcher with stem cells (hence the math degree)

    8. What is your favorite thing about the upcoming season? (Fall or Holidays)
    everything. Fall is my favorite season. I get so giddy with everrrrything. My girlfriend and I are going to a pumpkin patch tomorrow :)

    9. What's the best part of growing older?
    Mellowing out and becoming less judgemental and more observational.

    10. What are your plans for the weekend?
    Thank you notes. haha
    Report Reply
  • divinemsbeedivinemsbee member
    First Anniversary 5 Love Its First Comment
    edited December 2011
    Firsttimer-I want to find a pumpkin patch now!
    image
    Report Reply
  • firsttimersluckfirsttimersluck member
    5 Love Its Name Dropper First Anniversary Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    SamiJ- I'm totally with you on the crying.. Gosh it's awful... Think it's my BCP though honestly, because I have never been this way before.
    I also never THOUGHT I was a gender role person, but I think they are there for a reason.. Most people fall into them naturally. H and I did! and  we are pretty freaking hippy-liberals haha
    Also, never read To Kill a Mockingbird.

    Hike- I'm with you on the organized religion in a lot of ways... But at the same time I believe very strongly for personal rights so I never voice that one, as it's a group's right to be a group, no? :P haha
    I'm with you on Christmas!! Seriously I get all weepy when Christmas music starts playing for the first time in the beginning of the season. Love. so. much.
    Boo on you for not coming to Seattle.

    Calindi- That's an interesting point you made about the US views on work/life/person. I never considered it that way. To be fair, when I worked at Starbucks, that didn't define me. I've never been a coffee drinker, although I know more about coffee than most. It was my job. I think people expect that your job gives them a hint as to what type of person you are. If I ever become a stem cell researcher, for example, I think that I would be okay with peopel defining me by that. I love math and science, I'm a super nerd (yeah! WoW! Axis and Allies!! Sudoku!), I'm pretty liberal (especially in human rights), etc. But that doesn't go for everyone and their careers. Nice point.

    Beach- I appreciate your comment on breastfeeding. While I think I will "give it a try" my mother runs child and youth services for the Navy, and is an absolute expert in her field. She believes in a "what works for YOU" mentality when it comes to raising children. She has plenty of kids that are raised with only organic stuff, only on the formula, only on the boob, only on tv dinners (bleh), addicted to tv, etc that all turn out just fine. I don't know why people become so judgmental to others.. there are hundreds of studies to back up any single way to raise a child haha..
    Also, never read that book.

    Dakelli- Move to the south and people will appreciate your Christianity MUCH more! haha.. My H was raised UU in the south and he was made fun of and hated by even his TEACHERS for it. Poor guy :/

    ETA: It's awesome calling H, H. :)
    Report Reply
  • RethanyRethany
    First Comment
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_qotd-929-thought-provoking-thursdayor-whatever?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:67ab9ae5-56bc-4c13-abab-432db621aeedPost:4aaa307a-4f93-4adb-9e8d-0bf489bb3731">Re: QOTD 9/29 Thought Provoking Thursday...or whatever..</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: QOTD 9/29 Thought Provoking Thursday...or whatever.. : Haha, I was the same way!  But now I love them, especiall with boots!   You should definitely post some of your e-pics when you get them!
    Posted by DaKelliAB09[/QUOTE]
    I will certainly do that :)  I am getting really excited for them.
    Photobucket
    Report Reply
  • DaKelliAB09DaKelliAB09
    First Comment
    edited December 2011
    FTL -  I grew up in Oklahoma, the belt bucle of the friggin bible belt lol.  I like it up here in Alaska way better.  I know most Christians come off as (and are) judgmental (which is  not Christian at all) ... it's quite frustrating...  That's why I didn't go to church in Oklahoma. It's different here, I love it.   Sorry about your H having a hard time.  That really is terrible. 

    OH and again CONGRATS!! :)  Oh and hope  you're over the flu!

    Spiffy - Yay! I can't wait to see them!! FI and I still haven't done ours yet.  Hopefully we'll get ours done soon before fall is over!! 
    Image and video hosting by TinyPic
    Report Reply
  • SamiJoeBSamiJoeB
    Combo Breaker First Comment
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_qotd-929-thought-provoking-thursdayor-whatever?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:67ab9ae5-56bc-4c13-abab-432db621aeedPost:f69b0797-4446-4689-b543-30e8bd8f06ca">Re: QOTD 9/29 Thought Provoking Thursday...or whatever..</a>:
    [QUOTE]SamiJ - I'm totally with you on the crying.. Gosh it's awful... Think it's my BCP though honestly, because I have never been this way before. I also never THOUGHT I was a gender role person, but I think they are there for a reason.. Most people fall into them naturally. H and I did! and  we are pretty freaking hippy-liberals haha Also, never read To Kill a Mockingbird.
    Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]

    Ahh!!  I think I need to get on a BCP or something, I haven't been since August of last year because H and I were kind of like "whatever, lets see how this goes" (nothing went obviously!), but now with H getting ready to come home, I know I should probably start thinking about it.. Plus I don't ever remember being THIISSSS weepy before..
    And Giiirrrllll What's your address I will MAIL it to you!! I read it all the time, and I look for copies of it whenever I go thrifting and stuff.  That and Gone with the Wind (I'm such a Southern Belle)

    My personal take on the whole Gender Role thing is not that a SAHD wouldn't be as good as a SAHM, or the a Woman can't be the bread winner, but that there are roles that we as women slip into easier.  I am not naturally a dominant person, but my mom is, so obviously there are exceptions to every stereotypical role.

    Kudos to everyone for being so open!!
    Photobucket
    Report Reply
  • ggirl2001ggirl2001 member
    First Anniversary 5 Love Its First Comment Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    I'm a little intoxicated so I will probably not answer all the questions but I love how everyone responded on here. 
    Sami-I'm a wannabe southern belle. I think I should have been born in the South hundreds of years ago hahaha. I loooove Gone with the Wind and To Kill a Mockingbird as well. 
    I'm totally going to answer these as I remember them. Something new I've tried? hmmm I'm learning to drive our 6speed rx8 does that count?
    crying?? sign of both. I cry when I'm mad. H finds it crazy. I can be so pissed off and I will start crying, so I think its an emotion, at least for me. When I was moving, I cried when saying goodbye to my niece and nephew because I was so incredibly sad to leave them. I still cry when I think about not seeing them for almost a year. 
    I don't think I have one for the belief question, except that I don't think states should drug test for welfare, I have done my rant on that before.
    Mandatory read? To Kill a Mockingbird, Fahrenheit 451, 1984, Catcher in the Rye, Catch 22, I can think of a ton more if I tried. 

    Ok, time for bed. 6:30am comes quickly! Smile
    image
    Report Reply
  • AmandaSC1988AmandaSC1988 member
    First Comment First Anniversary
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_qotd-929-thought-provoking-thursdayor-whatever?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:67ab9ae5-56bc-4c13-abab-432db621aeedPost:901a8e83-d5d9-4b64-a8ef-875a12cc6bcd">Re: QOTD 9/29 Thought Provoking Thursday...or whatever..</a>:
    [QUOTE]<strong>I'm a little intoxicated </strong>so I will probably not answer all the questions but I love how everyone responded on here.  Sami-I'm a wannabe southern belle. I think I should have been born in the South hundreds of years ago hahaha. I loooove Gone with the Wind and To Kill a Mockingbird as well.  I'm totally going to answer these as I remember them. Something new I've tried? hmmm I'm learning to drive our 6speed rx8 does that count? crying?? sign of both. I cry when I'm mad. H finds it crazy. I can be so pissed off and I will start crying, so I think its an emotion, at least for me. When I was moving, I cried when saying goodbye to my niece and nephew because I was so incredibly sad to leave them. I still cry when I think about not seeing them for almost a year.  I don't think I have one for the belief question, except that I don't think states should drug test for welfare, I have done my rant on that before. Mandatory read? To Kill a Mockingbird, Fahrenheit 451, 1984, Catcher in the Rye, Catch 22, I can think of a ton more if I tried.  Ok, time for bed. 6:30am comes quickly! 
    Posted by ggirl2001[/QUOTE]

    I love that. hahaha.
    Photobucket
    Report Reply
  • LetsHikeTodayLetsHikeToday member
    Combo Breaker First Comment
    edited December 2011
    First- I feel like you and I would be hippie BFFS in real life. :-)
    imageBabyFruit Ticker
    Report Reply
  • LetsHikeTodayLetsHikeToday member
    Combo Breaker First Comment
    edited December 2011
    I was driving to PA after work last night so I didn't have time to respond to the abortion issues. I think it's naive to think that a 13 year old girl could be okay having a baby with just some counseling. I understand what you are saying Amanda but that is not real life. I can't even imagine any situation in which a person who was raped should be told to keep the baby. Regardless of how the baby could turn out, her body had been violated without her permission. I wonder if people would feel differently if they had been raped or their daughter had been raped.
    imageBabyFruit Ticker
    Report Reply
  • calindicalindi member
    First Anniversary Combo Breaker First Comment
    edited December 2011
    Elle - I think it's different if it's early in your relationship and you don't want to cause conflict/confrontation.  This was literally as we were in the car after viewing our venue a few weeks ago, driving to my parents' house for a parents-meet-parents dinner.  I feel like as I'm marrying her son in 11 months (from tomorrow - eeep!), that it's only right and fitting that she should know.  I wasn't like, "Oh, well, I'm an athiest, do you think I'm a bad person?  Huh, well do ya?!"  It was more like, "I can see how faith is important to you, so you'd want someone with similar beliefs.  I myself am an athiest, but I believe that being good to others and making a positive mark on the world is most important, more than whether someone goes to church."  So it wasn't exactly 'in yo' face'!

    @BCPs - I want OFF now!  I do want a kid, not yet though, but I am so sick of f*cking my body up with artificial hormones.  I am usually on Yasmin, but my current joke of an insurance policy doesn't cover it.  So I switched to the generic to save myself money (didn't want to mess with my hormones even more by switching brands entirely).  I still pay $60 per month, and the damned generic gives me cystic acne, so it's big dark pimples below the skin that never come to the surface and just ache.  They suck.  If I try to pick at them or pop them, they scar.  They last like a month.  I WANT THEM GONE!  I don't like the mood swings, I don't like feeling like my emotions are on a constant damper.  I went off for like a month due to another issue going on, and I felt soooo much happier and more energetic.  I WANT OFF!

    image

    Anniversary

    Report Reply
  • LetsHikeTodayLetsHikeToday member
    Combo Breaker First Comment
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_qotd-929-thought-provoking-thursdayor-whatever?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:67ab9ae5-56bc-4c13-abab-432db621aeedPost:451468f5-2cdf-4ab7-a024-345fbb800e4e">Re: QOTD 9/29 Thought Provoking Thursday...or whatever..</a>:
    [QUOTE]Elle - I think it's different if it's early in your relationship and you don't want to cause conflict/confrontation.  This was literally as we were in the car after viewing our venue a few weeks ago, driving to my parents' house for a parents-meet-parents dinner.  I feel like as I'm marrying her son in 11 months (from tomorrow - eeep!), that it's only right and fitting that she should know.  I wasn't like, "Oh, well, I'm an athiest, do you think I'm a bad person?  Huh, well do ya?!"  It was more like, "I can see how faith is important to you, so you'd want someone with similar beliefs.  I myself am an athiest, but I believe that being good to others and making a positive mark on the world is most important, more than whether someone goes to church."  So it wasn't exactly 'in yo' face'! @BCPs - I want OFF now!  I do want a kid, not yet though, but I am so sick of f*cking my body up with artificial hormones.  I am usually on Yasmin, but my current joke of an insurance policy doesn't cover it.  So I switched to the generic to save myself money (didn't want to mess with my hormones even more by switching brands entirely).  I still pay $60 per month, and the damned generic gives me cystic acne, so it's big dark pimples below the skin that never come to the surface and just ache.  They suck.  If I try to pick at them or pop them, they scar.  They last like a month.  I WANT THEM GONE!  I don't like the mood swings, I don't like feeling like my emotions are on a constant damper.  I went off for like a month due to another issue going on, and I felt soooo much happier and more energetic.  I WANT OFF!
    Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]

    Read Taking Charge of your Fertility. I read it and now can figure out what my natural cycle is. It can be Used for natural birth control.
    imageBabyFruit Ticker
    Report Reply
  • calindicalindi member
    First Anniversary Combo Breaker First Comment
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_qotd-929-thought-provoking-thursdayor-whatever?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:67ab9ae5-56bc-4c13-abab-432db621aeedPost:2451f931-5683-4c49-855b-310cac6e7bba">Re: QOTD 9/29 Thought Provoking Thursday...or whatever..</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: QOTD 9/29 Thought Provoking Thursday...or whatever.. : Read Taking Charge of your Fertility. I read it and now can figure out what my natural cycle is. It can be Used for natural birth control.
    Posted by LetsHikeToday[/QUOTE]

    I've heard of that book, and do want to read it.  But FI will never agree to just that, and there's no way we'll go back to condoms.  I figure we've got another year and then we can try natural birth control, and if it messes up, at least we're married so it won't scandalize our poor families

    <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" />

    image

    Anniversary

    Report Reply
  • firsttimersluckfirsttimersluck member
    5 Love Its Name Dropper First Anniversary Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_qotd-929-thought-provoking-thursdayor-whatever?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:67ab9ae5-56bc-4c13-abab-432db621aeedPost:d7ddb5ad-2cc7-4c0a-b742-174e31ef3798">Re: QOTD 9/29 Thought Provoking Thursday...or whatever..</a>:
    [QUOTE]First- I feel like you and I would be hippie BFFS in real life. :-)
    Posted by LetsHikeToday[/QUOTE]

    Agreeeeeed.... Especially because I like how you disagree with people. You're sly my friend. ;)
    Report Reply
  • Elle1036Elle1036 member
    First Anniversary 5 Love Its Name Dropper Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_qotd-929-thought-provoking-thursdayor-whatever?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:67ab9ae5-56bc-4c13-abab-432db621aeedPost:451468f5-2cdf-4ab7-a024-345fbb800e4e">Re: QOTD 9/29 Thought Provoking Thursday...or whatever..</a>:
    [QUOTE]Elle - I think it's different if it's early in your relationship and you don't want to cause conflict/confrontation.  This was literally as we were in the car after viewing our venue a few weeks ago, driving to my parents' house for a parents-meet-parents dinner.  I feel like as I'm marrying her son in 11 months (from tomorrow - eeep!), that it's only right and fitting that she should know.  I wasn't like, "Oh, well, I'm an athiest, do you think I'm a bad person?  Huh, well do ya?!"  It was more like, "I can see how faith is important to you, so you'd want someone with similar beliefs.  I myself am an athiest, but I believe that being good to others and making a positive mark on the world is most important, more than whether someone goes to church."  So it wasn't exactly 'in yo' face'!
    Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]

    Oh, I didn't mean to imply that you were "in yo' face" about it, although that's funny.

    It's more that I was impressed that you spoke up about it, whereas I was a chickensh*t and kept my mouth shut because I was worried about what she would think.

    I've gotten a lot better, though.
    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards