RSVP Cards

USMCBride90

Sorry if this question seems like a no brainer, but I need some help. FI and I ordered the invitations and RSVP cards online a couple weeks ago while he was home on leave. When we were making the RSVP cards online they had a template card that you could customize. The wording and everything that they had on the template card looked good and like what I've seen for other weddings, so we picked the design we wanted and ordered them. I got them in the mail last week and noticed there were two lines on it - one for either Accept or Decline. Normal. But there was no line for the number of people that will be attending. WIll guests just know to put the number of people attending on the 'Accept' line, or will they only put an 'X' or something there and then I won't know how many people will be attending. This might be a common sense question. Clearly I've never planned a wedding before lol These kinds of details make me want to elope. Help me please

calindi

They probably won't put the number - some will, but some undoubtedly will not.  Most people don't think ahead like that - they just fill in the boxes.

Sorry, no easy solution.  You could re-print them?  Or be sure to mark them somehow (small number in the corner, or black light ink'd number) so you know which RSVP goes with which people since some people forget to write their names!  You might have to just call up the people who don't put a number to ask them who will be attending.

AmandaSC1988

It is hard to tell without seeing a picture of the RSVP.  If it says

Number Attending _____
Decline _____

People that know how to read wiill know to put the number.

If it just says

Attending ___
Decline ___

people will just put Xs

hindsight is 20/20 but I made sure my basis were covered so I put:

 Number attending ____

Accept _____               Decline _____

BinxRose

I didn't do anything with numbers either. The top of mine have room to fill in the people's names, and then below they select "Wouldn't miss it for the world" or "Will celebrate from afar." So if they put "Mr. & Mrs. John Smith and family" I assume that the couple and all children are attending.

Irishcurls

Right, same as Binx. Mine were like this:




So if you just have accept/decline lines, they will most likely just list the names of those coming (or declining). So I invited a couple, only one could attend so the response just said Mrs. Suzie Smith "X Accepts" and I knew that meant that the husband wasn't coming.

AmandaSC1988

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[QUOTE]Right, same as Binx. Mine were like this: So if you just have accept/decline lines, they will most likely just list the names of those coming (or declining). So I invited a couple, only one could attend so the response just said Mrs. Suzie Smith "X Accepts" and I knew that meant that the husband wasn't coming.
Posted by Irishcurls[/QUOTE]

Maybe my people are just stupid... but they would put "Ms. Jane Doe" on the name line...

and then put "Number attending _2_"

shan87

Never assume anything with RSVPs. I went so far as the list the names of invitees on the card and still had ppl write in add ons.

I would number your RSVPs with your guest list (1. Mom/Dad 2. MIL/FIL etc etc write it in pencil in the corner of the RSVP).... so you know who is replying even if they dont' write their names.

As for number I would go through and hand write # either in front or behind the words Accept/Decline.

Best of luck -- mine were a nightmare!

BinxRose

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[QUOTE]Never assume anything with RSVPs. I went so far as the list the names of invitees on the card and still had ppl write in add ons. I would number your RSVPs with your guest list (1. Mom/Dad 2. MIL/FIL etc etc write it in pencil in the corner of the RSVP).... so you know who is replying even if they dont' write their names. As for number I would go through and hand write # either in front or behind the words Accept/Decline. Best of luck -- mine were a nightmare!
Posted by shan87[/QUOTE]



On my invites I wrote out every person's name (e.g. Mr. & Mrs. John Smith, Susie, Johnnie, Sally). So if they wrote "and family" on the rsvp I'm just going to assume its the kiddos.

Althoug, I've already had someone write in "and two guests maybe for Nate and Tyler." Yah...no....not happening. I'll have to have my FMIL call them up and let them know we don't have room

shan87

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_rsvp-cards?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:688c70fb-9294-4b30-935e-370602e957bbPost:42e0240c-48be-44bf-a13a-ad99534999d7">Re: RSVP Cards</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: RSVP Cards : On my invites I wrote out every person's name (e.g. Mr. & Mrs. John Smith, Susie, Johnnie, Sally). So if they wrote "and family" on the rsvp I'm just going to assume its the kiddos. Althoug, I've already had someone write in "and two guests maybe for Nate and Tyler." Yah...no....not happening. I'll have to have my FMIL call them up and let them know we don't have room
Posted by BinxRose[/QUOTE]

My invites were addressed Mrs and Mr John Doe, and family. The RSVP was written as ....
Mrs John Doe Chicken ___ Pork Chop ___  Vegetarian ___ Kids____
Mr. John Doe  " "
Little Johnny ""
Little Susie ""

Or Mrs and Mr. Jon Doe
then
Mrs. John Doe " "
Mr. John Doe " "


sh!t you not my mom's cousin wrote in their kids names... we also followed the 6mo/serious relationship rule for friends. We had one guy tell my H that he didn't know what girl he was going to bring because he didn't know who he would be seeing that week. Hey pal- guess what YOU DONT GET TO BRING A DATE anyway. sigh. still bugs me because I spent 4 full days with no sleep working on the assigned seating to having crashers eff it all up. H was calling me as I was getting  my hair done adding ppl. Kid you not.

I was really happy when the crashers looked like idiots. I was also really happy that my mom and bridal party made sure I didn't see any of the drama and our recpetion site was amazing at getting them food, and a spot.

After dinner I didn't care if ppl crashed for free booze just don't mess with my chart! lol

USMCBride90

Thanks for all the advice ladies. I never knew RSVP cards would be so frustrating! But I guess there's not a whole lot I can do since they've already been ordered and are sitting in the box in my apartment. I'm not going to spend the money to order another batch, so I'll just go with some of your ideas. Thanks again! I'm sure there will be plenty more posts from me with questions like this. Fair warning!