My fiance is in the Army and just deployed a month ago, in three days. It's SOOO hard to be happy without him here. I'm scared that he won't come back from over there. It's so hard not knowing what's happening. When or if he's even coming back. I know I can't mope and dwell until he comes back. But I don't know how to handle things. I try not to let him know how hard it is for me, because I know it's harder for him. Does anyone have any ideas on how to cope without him here???
Re: Deployed
It's okay to have bad days where you mope around once in a while. The easiest way to keep from making every day one of those days is to make sure your mind is active with other things so you don't dwell on the not knowing. Good luck with the rest of your FI's deployment.
Set some goals for your self while he is gone. Also, try to break the time down into smaller periods. It makes the time seem to go faster.
Every day, I set aside 30 min to an hour. I send him an email about what we did today and then I write him a letter to put in the mail. It gives me something to look forward to every night and I know he feels the same way.
Every week, I set aside one day or night to spend with my friends. I get together with other wives for dinner or a movie. We call it our date night. It gives me something to look forward to every week.
Every month, I set a side some time to do at least one big. I plan a road trip, a massage or a concert to go to. It gives me something to look forward to every month.
I'm sure you get what I'm saying. The time he is gone really is what you make it. You can chose to sit, mope and make your self miserable or you can chose to get out and do something. It doesn't mean your love him less or worry less. It just means you won't let the negative take over your life. It will eat away at you, if you let it.
Also, You can't think about the possibility of him not coming home. I am a firm believer in the law of attraction and you cannot allow thoughts like that to even enter your mind. Yes, we all know as military SO's that our H/FI/BF will encounter a certain level of danger in his job, and we have accepted that. If I couldn't handle that, then when H proposed, I would have said No Thanks!! I want an accountant as a husband, not someone who kicks down doors and is almost constant danger for 8 months at a time. Stop thinking negatively, and keep yourself busy. Also!! Working out gives you lots of endorphins and endorphins make you happy!!!
Do you cook?

When I stress or am out of contact with FI for days, weeks... I find baking and trying new recipes an awesome distraction. Just recently I was baking/cooking up a storm .. I tried a new recipe each day. Now the wedding is taking over my life (now we are in the final stretch!) After the wedding, I am looking forward to working my way through a cook book.
I also love crafting and scrapbooking, although it can get expensive time flys when I am working on them.