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I am a brand new wife of an Airman. My husband left for the Air Force basic training yeaterday. (We have only been married 3 weeks, but together for 2 and half years). Any adivce on coping with the seperation? And planning a big wedding ceremony without knowing a date?! (We went to the judge, and after Tech school will have the big one, sometime at the end of the year.)

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  • edited December 2011
    H and I have been long distance for 6 years. My best advice is have your own life. We both have a really great foundation of trust and respect for each other so we allow the other to be their own person. Have your own hobbies pick up new ones. Try something new, bake, cook whatever you want. It helps to have something to talk about when you get the chance instead of just repeating how much you miss each other. There is nothing you can do about the distance so take this time to be selfish and do what you want. :)

    Here are some things I've done
    (1) Taught myself how to knit
    (2) Taught myself how to sew
    (3) Scrapbook like crazy
    (4) Taken scrapbooking and card making classes
    (5) Joined a summer softball league where I knew no one
    (6) Worked Out
    (7) Lots of Wedding DIY Projects
    (8) Travelled to visit family and friends around the US
    (9) Finished my Bachelors
    (10) Went to the Police Academy
    (11) Took marksmenship classes
    (12) Bought a Dog - trained said dog
    (13) Volunteer for various organization
    (14) Work aka earn money :)
    (15) Cooking through an entire cookbook

    my list could go on forever....

    PS Welcome to the Wives Club :)
  • Beachy730Beachy730 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_military?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:7041d7da-b2c2-456d-878a-283aeefac715Post:ddc92e0a-f631-46ce-a3e4-ab65090162be">Military</a>:
    [QUOTE]I am a brand new wife of an Airman. My husband left for the Air Force basic training yeaterday. (We have only been married 3 weeks, but together for 2 and half years). Any adivce on coping with the seperation? And planning a big wedding ceremony without knowing a date?! (We went to the judge, and after Tech school will have the big one, sometime at the end of the year.)
    Posted by sunshinemelissa1119[/QUOTE]

    <div>Congrats on the wedding!  </div><div>
    </div><div>I have no advice for planning a wedding when you're already married.  But I would be more than happy to give you advice on planning a vow renewal if you would like. </div>
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  • edited December 2011
    Technically, Your H is an Airman recruit.

    Ditto what Shan said about being your own person. You have to be able to be okay on your own if you ever hope to make it as a Military Wife. H and I have been long distance for the past year (he's stationed in Japan) and he won't come home until early 2012. I had gotten stuck in a rut for a while right after he left (Jan 1, 2011), but part of it was because that was around the same time that I separated from AD. You will not be okay if you just sit at home and mope. Start reading a book series (GG just got me started on the Stephanie Plum books by Janet Evanovich and they are AMAZING, I'm on book 7 of 17), teach yourself how to do something, take a class, I've never sewn before in my life and I'm making a Marine Corps quilt for my H. Are you in school? do you work? You have to find something to keep you occupied. Thats not to say that there aren't days that I just want to lay in bed and cry because I miss my H so much, but the point is.. I don't do that.

    And, Ditto with Beach. You're married, you had your wedding. We'll be more than happy to help you plan your PPD/VR, but not a wedding.
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  • iluvmytxrgriluvmytxrgr member
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    edited December 2011
    Good luck to your Airman Recruit.  He'll be an Airman when he graduates. 
    As far as planning your vow renewal, I would wait and pick a date after he gets to his first duty station.  There are so many things that will be up in the air before then.  It would border on irresponsible to plan anything before he gets to his first duty station.  Until then, you can pick your dress, colors, style of the wedding.

    I recomend you do all you can to keep your self busy.  Take some classes.  Learn a new hobby.  Read.  I love the Stephanie Plum books PP mentioned.  Get your girls together and have a few girl's nights at the movies or at the spa.  Write him letters every day.  The time will go by before you know it. 
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  • edited December 2011
    Thanks fo the ideas everyone! and I apologize for being mispoken (about him being a recruit and how it will be a vow renewal).
  • ggirl2001ggirl2001 member
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    edited December 2011
    Yayy for the Stephanie Plum series!!

    Also, ditto other PP's. Just keep busy as much as possible. I just moved to a new place and struggled with being without FI as he is deployed, however I have made new friends and am starting to go out and enjoy myself again. Find new hobbies, go to school if you haven't, or continue schooling if you're in. If you're done with school, then utilize your free time for further opportunities, cooking classes, etc.
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