QOTD 9/14/11

AmandaSC1988

Today is Weding Wednesday!!

It is late and no one has posted anything...soo..

What is causing/caused you the most stress with your wedding?

AmandaSC1988

My dress.

I have looked and looked online to find a dress. Tried on tons of dresses. They all LOOK fantastic, I am ashamed to say that I have the body type that every dress looks good on me. It has flooded me with options, but none of them are "the dress."

I am 7 months out, and I feel so much pressure to find a dress. 

calindi

Well, at least if every dress looks good on you, you know you'll feel beautiful no matter what you wear!  I guess that's the upside.  I'm sure it's frustrating to not have a dress.

I'm not currently stressed, but I guess the guest list caused the most stress so far.  I didn't think it would, and just when I thought I was home free, it became this big drama.  Ah well!

SamiJoeB

I had dress drama...We bought one, and I ended up kind of hating it, so I exchanged it like a month before the wedding.  Not to be a Debbie Downer or anything, but I never found "THE Dress", I got a dress, it was nice enough, but I think I ultimately got it because, I just needed to get a dress.  I totally have dress envy for some of the ladies dresses on here!!  I'm not very tall and I'm curvy, so it was challenging to find dresses anyway, and I got pretty sick of it..

Elle1036

Trying to please my mom.

When FI and I first told her we were engaged, she told us to remember as we started planning that it was supposed to be about us and even though we would want to please everyone, we had to please ourselves first and not to worry so much about what everyone else would think.  It was a really nice thing.

...Then I started actually planning, and she has argued with every idea I've had.  Every single one.  It got so bad that I ended up refusing the money she wanted to contribute just because I didn't want to fight with her anymore.

crownsuperstar

Invites!!!! Arg...the fact that there were people (cousin and wife) that I had to invite and I was really dreading them showing up.  I am one of those people that can not hide my expressions.  Pretty much my face tells on me all of the time.  Lucky for me they didn't show.  Something about they couldn't find a place for their dog and I would not let them stay in my house without me being there. 

1. There are kennels
2. You are not going to be going through my house with out supervision

Rethany

Right now the only thing causing me stress is that I can't really do anything wedding related, but I want to so bad.

When I am doing homework or I'm at work all I can think about is invites and favors and anything wedding.  If I let myself drift and start googling wedding things online all I can think about it is my homework.  I mentioned to my mom that I feel behind (I have all the major things done, now it is just figuring out details.  I will have six months after school is over in December), even though I'm really not.  She just says "Yeah...you are behind."  Thanks mom.

YoungDuo

My mom. She has been excited for us, she has fought me on stuff. She can't stay consistent and it drives me crazy. Currently, I have appeased her by addressing my brother's whore gf's invitation. Too bad my mom has no idea that it is sitting in a drawer at my desk at work while the rest of them were mailed :-P FI does NOT want me to mail it and I have no intention to. I'm just wondering how long until the argument.

CAB1217

My invitations... why does FI's mom think she can just throw 3 more families my way when I had already finalized the guest list? People they don't even talk too... it makes me so mad that we have to invite people just for showing off purposes. Oh and my mom doesn't make it any better, she's trying to add people, as well. I mean, really, a day before the invites go out and you're NOW telling me you all want these people there? UGH x 100000000000000....

amh04

Hahaha! Right after my vent about the church..
The most stress - everything?! But really... trying to make sure everything goes smoothly, trying to include everyone, and trying not to get overwhelmed.and trying to be happy. I've been having a really rough time about not getting jealous or envious that FSIL is getting the whole wedding experience when I can't and won't.. that's causing me a lot of stress.. because I don't know where I stand on that or how to act when we visit and stuff.
But it's my party and I'll cry if I want to - right?! Lol. Just means we get what we want is what I remind myself. If I can get the church to line up the time I want with the reception venue - or get the reception venue and hour sooner - I'll be happy.

firsttimersluck

Amanda I used to feel stressed over the dress because I hated the one I had.. We went and picked out a new one 3.5 weeks before our wedding (which is next week). Don't stress it. You will find one.

Elle/CAB/Young- I totally feel you. Everyone says "it's your day!!" and then you suddenly get "you didn't invite them?! omg.." "you're really only having two meal options.............." "that's kinda small don't you think..." "I would NEVER let him see me in the dress before hand." etc.. What LIES people tell you!!
haha I'm sorry about the mom stress... I wish my mom were a little involved.. She has no interest in any of it.. She's walking me down the aisle but hasn't ONCE asked "how's the wedding planning going? " She was even suppose to come up on my birthday to go gown shopping and cancelled because she wanted to enter the dogs in a show instead... THanks mom...

CAB1217

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_qotd-91411?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:735f4544-3c52-49d2-9abf-62bc1eba7147Post:529aebee-300f-49b0-aaf1-b7aa0a24f632">Re: QOTD 9/14/11</a>:
[QUOTE]Amanda I used to feel stressed over the dress because I hated the one I had.. We went and picked out a new one 3.5 weeks before our wedding (which is next week). Don't stress it. You will find one. :) Elle/CAB/Young- I totally feel you. Everyone says <strong>"it's your day!!"</strong> and then you suddenly get "you didn't invite them?! omg.." "you're really only having two meal options.............." "that's kinda small don't you think..." "I would NEVER let him see me in the dress before hand." etc.. What LIES people tell you!! haha I'm sorry about the mom stress... I wish my mom were a little involved.. She has no interest in any of it.. She's walking me down the aisle but hasn't ONCE asked "how's the wedding planning going? " She was even suppose to come up on my birthday to go gown shopping and cancelled because she wanted to enter the dogs in a show instead... THanks mom...
Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]
THAT right there, is total BULL. I get to invite 3 people that I know. 3 PEOPLE. Out of 122 people, I get 3!!!!!!!!! What kind of fuckery is that!

firsttimersluck

ugh. total crap. I'm thankful that Fi really doesn't put up with crap from his family, so I haven't had to deal with TOO much stress from his side. And thankfully not too much of the FAMILY have tried to control the guest list. Fi's squadron is another story... I know we're going to have some hurt feelings, but we just can't invite everyone. We were super stressed about that aspect of the guest list.. and I still am a little bit, even though it's done and over with, invites are out and long gone. Oh well..
You can't please everyone, right? />_<

KendallR10

the party and the uniforms

AmandaSC1988

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_qotd-91411?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:735f4544-3c52-49d2-9abf-62bc1eba7147Post:656c15d2-17be-4888-99a3-9ebfbe9436f7">Re: QOTD 9/14/11</a>:
[QUOTE]ugh. total crap. I'm thankful that Fi really doesn't put up with crap from his family, so I haven't had to deal with TOO much stress from his side. And thankfully not too much of the FAMILY have tried to control the guest list. Fi's squadron is another story...<strong> I know we're going to have some hurt feelings, but we just can't invite everyone. We were super stressed about that aspect of the guest list..</strong> and I still am a little bit, even though it's done and over with, invites are out and long gone. Oh well.. You can't please everyone, right? />_<
Posted by firsttimersluck[/QUOTE]

<div>Oh my me too! Me too! I am very active with the business fraternity on my campus. Some of the people I am really good friends with and others I could care less. It is complicated because, if I invite some people, I feel almost obligated to invite others because they live in the same apartment! But I don't like the people..as much! But how awkward would it be to not get that invite? Ughh!</div><div>
</div><div>Reason number one why I haven't sent out STDs</div>

calindi

We're really lucky that my parents are hosting and being really generous and hands-off with the guest list.  We split it into 3rds - 1/3 my family, 1/3 his family, 1/3 friends (which we split in thirds - his, mine, and ours).  There's only a few family members on my side that I'd rather not be there, but due to family politics it was more hassle not to invite them.  That one aunt & her family isn't invited, and that's causing drama, but people can suck it up.  FI has 20 aunts & uncles on his Mom's side alone and 60 first cousins - we aren't inviting them all, so I don't have to invite everyone on my side.  Again, my parents are supportive, which really helps.

It's the friends who expect they're going to be invited that kill me.  FI has a ton of buddies at law school who he pals around with, but we both know they won't be a part of our lives afterwards and we don't really feel like we need them there at the expense of someone who is a permanent fixture in our lives.  So I think there are going to be some hurt feelings.  I've had 2 people write on my Facebook wall about "where's their invitation" when we haven't even sent out STDs yet... and they're not getting one.  Whoops...  just played the "still having the negotiations about family vs. friends with the parentals" line and hopefully that'll go over easy.