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My heart just got bruised a little

My 6 year old niece told her mom yesterday that she no longer wants to wear hair bows or princess shirts because nobody at school wears them.

I seriously started to tear up. She's the oldest of my nieces and she's starting to grow up :(


On the other side of this, I asked my sister, what the heck do 6 year olds play with then if not dolls and toys and make believe and imagination?
A few of the kids in her kindergarten class room have ipod touches. that's what my niece wants (because everyone else has one of course). My sister told her no way. It's sad to me that children seem to grow up so much quicker than I did. I remember playing with my dolls and such until 4th-5th grade. My sister will say that her and my cousin played with Barbie's until probably 8th grade.

But yeah, I'm tearing up as a type this. If I feel this way with my niece, what the heck will I feel like with my own children haha.

Also, I can say my sister, being a teacher is a very strong advocate for having children stay children for as long as possible (if that makes sense), so I know it was hard for her to hear that and really upset her. (not to be mad at her daughter or anything like that, just the thought of her getting too old too quick).

That's all. I'm a little sad now.
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  • edited December 2011
    Oh no.  Really Princess shirts and bows are not cool anymore?  That makes my heart sad.  Oh and I still play tea party and barbies with my friends daughter.  HAA
  • ggirl2001ggirl2001 member
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    edited December 2011
    Crown, when my sister told me, I literally gasped and felt upset immediately. It's like she hit kindergarten and it changed. I'm hoping it won't be drastic since she still plays with her baby sister who is into all of it still. It's such a weird feeling and I can't explain why i feel this way fully.
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  • divinemsbeedivinemsbee member
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    edited December 2011
    Gosh, she's only 6? I was totally still playing with stuffed animals and Barbies then. At least til I was 8 or 9, and then I was obsessed with horses (it seems like it hits a lot of girls at that age). That makes me sad, too. It sounds like your sister is totally awesome, though, good on her for fighting the tween-ification of younger and younger girls.

    Btw, I read the sentence "It's like she hit kindergarten and it changed" makes me sad because that very sentence used to be said about someone starting high school, or at least about becoming a teenager.
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  • edited December 2011
    I just think that now days everyone is growing up so fast with TV and the internet.  It makes me sad.  I remember as a kid the best times were racing big wheels and playing with barbies.  My friend told me her nephew (7) wants an iPad.  I was like he is 7.  That boy should want a bike.  At 7 was still waiting my barbie dream house.
  • ggirl2001ggirl2001 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_heart-just-got-bruised-little?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:7652b112-0e86-4605-89b6-99518f8d9ec3Post:414e3965-ebde-4b64-94cc-e0b0815fd5f4">Re: My heart just got bruised a little</a>:
    [QUOTE]I just think that now days everyone is growing up so fast with TV and the internet.  It makes me sad.  I remember as a kid the best times were racing big wheels and playing with barbies.  My friend told me her nephew (7) wants an iPad.  I was like he is 7.  That boy should want a bike.  At 7 was still waiting my barbie dream house.
    Posted by crownsuperstar[/QUOTE]

    Exactly! When my niece asked for the ipod touch my sister told her that we go to Disney a lot so you would have to pick. Do you want to go to Disney less and have the iPod or keep going to Disney. She chose Disney at least. My sister did say she will take her shopping and let her pick
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  • ggirl2001ggirl2001 member
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    edited December 2011
    Stupid phone! Let her pick out *some clothes that she likes. I think that's a fair compromise.
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  • edited December 2011
    Ok she chose Disney.  Maybe another visit with the Princesses will help Laughing
  • edited December 2011
    FI's little sister is 6. She still plays with dolls and has about 20 baby dolls. She currently loves Hello Kitty. The one thing that kind of bothers me though is the television in her room. I know a lot of kids have them these days but I didn't have a tv in my room until I was 20! We always played in our rooms with toys and watching tv was something we'd usually do as a family. We all hung out. I would be sad too ggirl :( kids are growing up wayyy too fast these days. (I feel like an old fart saying that. Haha)
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  • edited December 2011
    I hear ya. I was playing with a 3-4yr old little boy today who could work the family iPad better than I can. He also plays games on his mother's phone all the time. It breaks me heart.
  • ggirl2001ggirl2001 member
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    edited December 2011
    Spiffy, she still plays with her toys at home, at least when I was there a week ago. I think it's the clothes and hair bows the most. None of the girls in her class put anything in their hair apparently and dress differently. My niece goes to a very good school that requires parental involvement, and I know that some of the parents want to be "friends" with their children, instead of letting them be little girls and boys.
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  • edited December 2011
    This makes me want to live in the middle of nowhere, homeschool my kids (I guess I'd have to have like 12 of them so that they all could have a friend and play football together?) and not let them have a tv and only use the computer for educational things. 


    I know, crazy. However, I don't own a TV and neither does FI- and I plan on keeping it that way; that makes going to the movies a super huge treat, right? right. If my kids want to be entertained, they will play with age appropriate non-technological toys, or they will (gasp) read a book!
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  • edited December 2011
    That's just it ggirl. Too many parents want to be friends with their kids. Some parents buy their kids the coolest and latest fads just to be considered the "cool parents" by their other kids. Which is really upsetting. They are the parents they should act like it! I'm glad your sister hasn't given in though. I know my parents didn't let me and my brothers have or do a lot of stuff and I may have hated them at the time but I think we are simpler people because of it.
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  • edited December 2011
    IDK if this board is still active, but I think kids should be kids as much and as long as possible. I  feel sad for you and your sister. 
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  • edited December 2011
    = [ Oh no.... 6?!?! 

    That is heartbreaking. 
  • kmmssgkmmssg mod
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    edited December 2011
    Man, when my 29 yo DD finds out Princess stuff is out she will be ticked and heartbroken.  I'm not paying for that therapy.  She has a 3 year old DD who is really into princesses so I guess that will have to work.

    I remember when my oldest g'dd's decided princesses were out and Miley Cyrus and the Jonas Brothers were cool.  I love princesses.
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