One of my bridesmaids is in another wedding this year, too. She showed me a message she got from the bride in the other wedding this morning that pretty much read, "We did the math for the shower, and it's going to be about $250/bridesmaid." I was shocked, as was my friend. Now she's embarrassed that she can't afford the shower plus the dress and a gift. Nobody ever asked her how much she could afford to contribute, and now she's in such an awkward place.
It kind of makes me not want a shower. I can't even imagine my girls feeling like they need to spend that much (or any) money planning it. If they do decide to, I don't think I want to know anything about the budget. I mean, I don't know much about this girl's wedding and her budget for the actual day, but 5 bridesmaids x $250 each really adds up for a shower. I just don't want any of my girls to be in the position that my friend is now.
If you had a shower, did you girls know about it before or were you surprised? Did you discuss the budget with your bridesmaids?