Planning our upcoming wedding and I can't look at invitations, halls, cakes, caterer's as we can't agree on a guest list count.
He is active duty Navy and his upcoming deployment has changed, so our wedding date is now 2013 TBA. Had planned summer 2013 date and already purchased a tea length dress for an outdoors prairie wedding in the mid-west area with a hog roast reception and he will now be deployed late spring,summer and fall.
He hardly has any family and wants to keep things small. He only has his dad, step-mom, 2 brotheres, 1 sister in-law, 1 niece). I on the other hand have 1 brother, 6 sets of aunts/uncles, 15 1st cousins (most married with kids), 2 sets of grandparents, and then the extended family (2nd & 3rd cousins and great aunts & uncles as we are all close).
He is adament about making it a family only event with no friends being invited- the only exception will be my matron of honor as she has been my best friend for over 22 years, and her husband. He wants his older brother as best man and his niece as flower girl.
How do I pick family members to attend and for those I don't pick how do I let them know we love them but keeping it small.
I'm almost ready to say lets do a JOP civil ceremony and a big reception bbq at a later date that works for his schedule and invite everyone.