I have 2 questions and looking for your advice. I'm from Ontario Canada so it may be a bit different in the states if you're from there.
1. Do you sign the papers before or after the kiss - The officiant we're working with says 99% of the time they sign the papers after the kiss/announce you as man and wife. But that doesn't seem right to me. Shouldn't the final kiss/announcement be after the signing of the papers? That's a nice way to end the ceremony and then you walk down the aisle. I think it would be weird to sign the papers and just walk down the aisle right afterwards without any words.
2. Writing your own vows - We'd like to say or own little thing to each other during the ceremony. The officiant said we would do this before we say the official vows. I believe I've seen other couples do this. So we're not really saying our own vows, it's more of a little thing we say to each other about how much we mean to each other. Is this normal? Or do people usually write thier own vows and don't say the regular official vows? And how long should this message be to each other - so I can give my fiance guidance. I'm thinking a paragraph or so.