Sooo, you guys know about my batshitcrazy FMIL, suffice to say that she's doing it again. It really has become theater of the absurd.
My mom had been trying to keep up an e-mail correspondence with FMIL about the wedding. Through this, it has become pretty clear that FMIL wants nothing to do with it and takes every request for her input or ideas as a request for money (it is not, we have not asked for, nor do we need, nor would we accept his family's money). My mother apparently sent an e-mail a few days ago asking if there were any friends of FMIL's that she would like to invite (FMIL refuses to do an invitation list, so we're just kind of shooting blind when it comes to her family and friends on the list) and if there was anything that we should do at the rehearsal dinner for their family.
Big mistake. So, yesterday FI gets a call from FMIL while he's in class, and a message that he needs to call his father. He also gets a Facebook message from his mother stating that she guesses she will cash out her retirement and buy his share of their house from him (it's weird, the house is in his parents' names and also in his and his brothers, so it's split 4 ways) so that "you can have your party." She also apparently told his father that we were demanding a $2000 rehearsal dinner. I have no idea where she got this figure, as that would be roughly a third of our entire budget. She also stated that she guessed they'd have to sell the house but to "please don't let your brother and dad be homeless--I'l be fine."
Insanity. I have no idea where she's getting these ideas. She's also laboring under the delusion that she's somehow going to owe my family money after the wedding. I've seen the e-mails my mother wrote her, she doesn't mention money. FI and I are paying for most of the wedding ourselves and my parents and grandmother are kicking in on some things. No one is expecting money from them. I know that they live just above the poverty line. FI makes more in a month than is in their retirement account. We have never wanted or asked for her or their money. FI already feels guilty that he's in a better financial state at almost 25 than his parents are at their age, it feels like she's just taking cheap shots now.
At this point, FI is pretty much done with her and her crazy and doesn't want her at the wedding. My mother is still refusing to believe that FMIL is, in fact, nuts, and still wants to meet up with her when we're in MS. I think my mom thinks that I'm exaggerating or being dramatic. I just think continuing to talk to FMIL just gives her more fuel for her paranoid fire.
/vent over
Feel free to offer any advice/ass-kickings/etc.