Getting married while he is on leave....how long until I can be with him???(navy)

jessieflanagan

My soon to be husband is in the Navy and we are going to be married in July.  Eight days after we get married he is being transfered to HI.  How long does it typically take for me to be able to go and be with him?

Jess

Sammy0709

Do you want to know simply when you can go or at what point the Navy will pay for you to move there?

Beachy730

If he already has his orders, which I'm assuming he does if you know the exact date, then it's too late to add you.  H and I moved for his PCS about a month and a half after our wedding, and I still wasn't on the orders.  Once the orders are cut, they aren't ammended.  Once you check into the new command, they will do the adjustment and you will get paid for the move as a married couple.  

How much stuff do you have together?  H and I had a townhouse with a full bedroom set, sectional sofa, entertainment center, dining room set, and then all of our personal clothes and a full kitchen, and we were still under the single weight.  He had 6,000 pounds allowed as as single move, and we came in at about 5,400 pounds with all of our stuff combined.  The only thing was that i had to move all of my stuff to his place, which was only about 2 hours away so it wasn't too bad.  If you don't already live together, the Navy won't pay for you to move to him, that will be your own expense no matter when you do it.  

My best advice is just move your stuff to him, and do the move together if you think it's possible to be under the weight limit.  The Navy only pays for 1 move, so that's really your only option of having it paid for.

ESquared423

I don't have the answer to your question. But I just wanted to say hey..I'm in Hawaii with my soon-to-be-husband right now, I get excited when I find other military wives who are here or on their way! Especially one from SC! (I moved here from NC last August).

I will say this. If it ends up being that you can't move your stuff with his, you're going to have to find a way to really consolidate and get rid of A LOT of things that you don't need. Moving to Hawaii is expensive and a pain in the butt! Best of luck to you!

Sammy0709

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[QUOTE]If he already has his orders, which I'm assuming he does if you know the exact date, then it's too late to add you.  H and I moved for his PCS about a month and a half after our wedding, and I still wasn't on the orders.  Once the orders are cut, they aren't ammended.  Once you check into the new command, they will do the adjustment and you will get paid for the move as a married couple.   How much stuff do you have together?  H and I had a townhouse with a full bedroom set, sectional sofa, entertainment center, dining room set, and then all of our personal clothes and a full kitchen, and we were still under the single weight.  He had 6,000 pounds allowed as as single move, and we came in at about 5,400 pounds with all of our stuff combined.  The only thing was that i had to move all of my stuff to his place, which was only about 2 hours away so it wasn't too bad.  If you don't already live together, the Navy won't pay for you to move to him, that will be your own expense no matter when you do it.   My best advice is just move your stuff to him, and do the move together if you think it's possible to be under the weight limit.  The Navy only pays for 1 move, so that's really your only option of having it paid for.
Posted by dnbeach12[/QUOTE]
 I guess I could have given you both answers but I'm lazy.  I second this though.
We used DH's black boxes to move a lot of my stuff because they were at his parent's house and they only cost $10 regardless of weight to ship through the post office.

SamiJoeB

I'm sure if you poke around on here enough someone will tell you or you'll figure it out, but if you sn is your actual name (I could be wrong, but it seems like your first and last name), you'll want to change it. Since you've only made 2 posts, it'll be easier to just create a new name as to get the knot to delete this account is a pain in the butt and it can take a while. As a soon to be military spouse, you'll want to familiarize yourself with OPSEC and PERSEC. Anyone can creep around this site, and sites like FB and Twitter and find out all sorts of stuff about you. Lots of wives get in trouble for posting dates that thier H's unit gets back from the sandbox, or even when SO's ship pulls back into port. It's a no no. Plus, I recently heard of a girl who's FI's ex girlfriend found out all about thier wedding from the knot & thier wedding website and the ex called all thier vendors and had them change the actual Brides name to her own (the crazy ex). Personally I would rather know now only 2 posts in, rather than 122 posts on, although I don't think anyone on this board would even let you get that far. Sorry if your full name isn't your sn, just consider me overly cautious.

iluvmy0341

If he already received PCS orders (which I am assuming he has since he knows he's going to Oahu), they will not pay for you to move. You will have to move there on your own dime. But, when he is stationed again, you will be on the orders when time comes around again and they will pay for you...well some...moving from HI sucks. We were there last year. They will get him base housing over there, he should talk to housing ASAP because (I'm not sure if you'll be on MCBH or Pearl Harbor) but the housing fills up quick on MCBH.