Ask a MB knottie anything?

CAB1217

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Ask a MB knottie anything? : You crack me up!  Calm your tits.... bahahahah!
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]

Ha ha ha ha! Well after the recent vendorgate on SB/E I felt the need to add a disclosure. And calm your tits seemed like a great way to add emphasis to the fact that I am not doing anything wrong. ;)

kara811

Cab: you're.hilarious!! Ive also never heard that about MAC or BM. I personally prefer liquid make up.

kara811

Cab: I haven't tried any of the American made ones yet but I am planning trying either Too Faced or Smashbox. The brand ive been using for years is Dr Young. Its great!!

ESalaam787

My questions may be a silly, but...

I feel like I don't know much about the Marine Corps (or military life in general) and I don't know when I'm supposed to know this.  I've never really been around anyone in the military, and so I'm kind of anxious for how it's going to be.  I'm completely confident in my relationship with my FI, and we've been apart for periods throughout our relationship.  The next time we are together for more than a few days will be our wedding, and then I'll be moving down to be with him.  I guess I'm just nervous about all the changes.  So, I guess I have a few questions.  (1)  What did you find the toughest to adjust to?  (2)  Were you intimidated by all of the knowledge of the other wives/SO's initially?  (3)  Do you participate in any of the programs for spouses/familes?

CAB1217

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[QUOTE]Cab: I haven't tried any of the American made ones yet but I am planning trying either Too Faced or Smashbox. The brand ive been using for years is Dr Young. Its great!!
Posted by kara811[/QUOTE]


Can I find dr young online?

kara811

Cab: yep! Ive been ordering it online since it was.cheaper than at the Korean town. I use the 2p pearl brightening balm since I have gold undertones. Its such an awesome product, works like magic on me. Binx even said I always seem to have such a natural.sheer look and that's all I ever use!

tyleet87

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[QUOTE]My questions may be a silly, but... I feel like I don't know much about the Marine Corps (or military life in general) and I don't know when I'm supposed to know this.  I've never really been around anyone in the military, and so I'm kind of anxious for how it's going to be.  I'm completely confident in my relationship with my FI, and we've been apart for periods throughout our relationship.  The next time we are together for more than a few days will be our wedding, and then I'll be moving down to be with him.  I guess I'm just nervous about all the changes.  So, I guess I have a few questions.  (1)  What did you find the toughest to adjust to?  (2)  Were you intimidated by all of the knowledge of the other wives/SO's initially?  (3)  Do you participate in any of the programs for spouses/familes?
Posted by ESalaam787[/QUOTE]

1) The no contact. It's really hard. I know my FI wasn't in any danger but I still wanted to stab myself. But I'm ok now that he's home.
2) Totally. I still don't know sh*t. But FI and this board help a lot. :)
3) No, I don't like people.

BinxRose

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[QUOTE]My questions may be a silly, but... I feel like I don't know much about the Marine Corps (or military life in general) and I don't know when I'm supposed to know this.  I've never really been around anyone in the military, and so I'm kind of anxious for how it's going to be.  I'm completely confident in my relationship with my FI, and we've been apart for periods throughout our relationship.  The next time we are together for more than a few days will be our wedding, and then I'll be moving down to be with him.  I guess I'm just nervous about all the changes.  So, I guess I have a few questions.  (1)  What did you find the toughest to adjust to?  (2)  Were you intimidated by all of the knowledge of the other wives/SO's initially?  (3)  Do you participate in any of the programs for spouses/familes?
Posted by ESalaam787[/QUOTE]

I'm not married yet, but we've been living together for over a year. To be honest, I ask my FI about a few things for clarification, but otherwise if it doesn't impact me, it doesn't really matter. This is his job, not yours, KWIM? I bet doctors' SOs don't know every medical term. A lawyer's SO doesn't know every law and court lingo.

Obviously you should know terms like LES, BAH, PCS....because those affect you too. Otherwise, don't get too worked up about it.

I don't participate in any spouse/family program, and I don't plan on starting when we marry. It just does not interest me. None of the other SOs in my FI's shop participate either.

ETA: Those terms I named, or his branch's equivalent

ESalaam787

What is LES?  I've learned what the other 2 are after reading it on here.   And good point relating it to other jobs.  I just feel clueless sometimes when people ask me about him or what our plan exactly is.  I've always been a "plans" girl, and I know I'm going to have to be a bit more flexible. 

BinxRose

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[QUOTE]What is LES?  I've learned what the other 2 are after reading it on here.   And good point relating it to other jobs.  I just feel clueless sometimes when people ask me about him or what our plan exactly is.  I've always been a "plans" girl, and I know I'm going to have to be a bit more flexible. 
Posted by ESalaam787[/QUOTE]

I don't know what the acronym stands for (see, we don't need to know everything!) but it's his paycheck.

AmandaSC1988

I have a question!!! *raises hand* This is for the people that have... or do live on base.

FI is thinking about moving in base housing after we get married.. there is a decent chance he might be going to Newport, Rhode Island for 12 or so weeks in the near future and he wants a place that is safe for me and also doesn't want to have to deal with breaking a lease if we have to PCS after he gets done. 

I kind of don't want to live on base...I want to have my own life and not be engulfed in the Navy 24/7....Not to mention I might punch a pregnant 18 year old who has the "Hardest job in the Navy."

SO... after my novel...my question. Is it really as bad as I am imagining it?

CozyHeart13

Amanda: I don't know how big of a concern breaking the lease actually is to him, but places around military bases have military clauses, just like wedding vendors. You can get out of the lease with his orders, no problems. It happens all the time.

Irishcurls

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[QUOTE]My questions may be a silly, but...<strong> I feel like I don't know much about the Marine Corps (or military life in general) and I don't know when I'm supposed to know this. </strong> I've never really been around anyone in the military, and so I'm kind of anxious for how it's going to be.  I'm completely confident in my relationship with my FI, and we've been apart for periods throughout our relationship.  The next time we are together for more than a few days will be our wedding, and then I'll be moving down to be with him.  I guess I'm just nervous about all the changes.  So, I guess I have a few questions.  (1)  What did you find the toughest to adjust to?  (2)  Were you intimidated by all of the knowledge of the other wives/SO's initially?  (3)  Do you participate in any of the programs for spouses/familes?
Posted by ESalaam787[/QUOTE]
Just in relation to the bolded, I'm really big on asking my H questions if there is stuff I want to know. We talk about our jobs a lot (no kids, no furkids....not a lot else going on :)) so I learned a lot about engineering and funding/contracts and all sorts of other random military stuff that I have no "need" to know, but it's interesting. Same with him and my career--he could school some people up in biology by now. I haven't been a military SO for very long (less than three years) but my good girlfriend just commented on how knowledgeable I sound. I've just accumulated it all over time by talking to H!  Babbling, sorry, but my point is, ask him if you're wondering stuff!! He loves you, he won't think you're silly! <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" /><div>
</div><div>As for the other stuff, H's unit is so tiny right now there's no real SO group, though I could find a random one on the base near us if I wanted to. But I see no need for it at the moment, he's at a land unit. </div>

ggirl2001

I think it was Amanda who mentioned the lease? Don't worry about it. Chances are most apartments are used to that, and I believe that if he breaks it due to orders you aren't held accountable, but research anyway, houses on base might be nicer than what it is available in the area.

I ask my H stuff, and I know some things, and some thing I don't know and he doesn't tell me if I don't ask. Just like he knows some things about my job, but not every thing. Some things about my job I know he really won't understand and vice versa.

I am not involved in any of the spouses groups. I haven't really found a need to be involved. I have some wives/gf 's that I'm friends through his guys and then I have my own group of friends down here. I am pretty happy with what I have. 

calindi

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[QUOTE]Amanda: I don't know how big of a concern breaking the lease actually is to him, but places around military bases have military clauses, just like wedding vendors. You can get out of the lease with his orders, no problems. It happens all the time.
Posted by CozyHeart13[/QUOTE]

It's a federal law - you can ALWAYS get out of ANY lease with orders indicating one of the lease holders is moving out of driving distance. Military clause or not!  You have to give written notice 30 days before you intend to vacate.

ESalaam - I haven't lived it before either, but I'm super excited for it!  It helped a lot when my FI did "summer fun" and spent the summer on active duty doing what he'll be doing after graduating, so we both got to experience what it will be like.  Just talk to people, and keep an open mind, and do not EVER be ashamed to ask for the definition of a term or acronym you don't know!  Obviously politely and when it's convenient to the conversation, but always speak up and say, "Hey, earlier I heard you use the term LES.  I got the feeling it has to do with his pay, am I right?  Could you tell me what that means?"  It doesn't matter who you're asking - they know you didn't go trough OCS or Basic, and yet it affects your life so you have every right to ask!

Zimsgirl26

I'm also really big on asking questions. I didn't wanna just go with the flow whenever FI or his dad talked about certain things I wanted to know what they were talking about haha

ESalaam787

He's pretty good about answering any questions I have, which is great.  Most of the time it is things that I woudn't have even known to ask if I hadn't seen it mentioned here.  I lurk.  A lot.    I also use smiley faces a lot, but I do it in real life.  I hope it doesn't annoy you guys. 

It's funny, because my FI will try to work terms that I've taught him into conversation, too.  The majority of the time he uses them right, but sometimes he is just so full of BS that I have to laugh at him. 

CAB1217

Kara, I'm gonna need a website for Dr. Young. Kaythanks...