For the groomsmen....

elizabethmkaul

My FI and I were planning to have all of his groomsmen wear their dress blues for our wedding.  We have just found out his best man will be (honoroubly) discharged about 3 months before the ceremony.  Is it ok to have him styill wear his uniform?  Or should he wear a suit?  Then, if he needs a suit, should we change the other groomsmen as well to suits?  I would much prefer to be able to have him in uniform.  While we aren't planning a full military-themed wedding, we want to incorporate elements because it has been and will be such a part of our life.  However, we certainly don't want to violate and rules or accepted forms of behavior.

Thanks for your help!

Beachy730

As far as whether he's allowed to wear it, that's something he would probably have to find out himself.  According to my search, retired military and certain honorably discharged veterans can wear their dress uniform after leaving the military, so it would depend on if he is part of the "certain" group.  Stan might know more about this though.

As for what to do if he can't wear it, then I would just have him wear a tux.  If your H and GM's are wearing their dress blues, then a tuxedo would be considered the equivalent of formality.  If he does wear the tux it would be perfectly fine if he is the only one to wear it.  

However, you really should leave it up to each GM if they want to wear their dress blues or wear the tux.  You and your H can certainly request that they wear them, but some service members prefer not to wear it unless they have to because they have to wear it so often.  For example, my H chose to wear a tux for our wedding instead of his dress uniform because he so rarely gets to dress up not in his uniform.  So some people like the option, and others love to wear their uniform either for the pride or for not having to pay for anything additional (or both).  Either way it will look fine together.

kyrgyzstan

He can wear his uniform. The reg says that as long as he was in during a time of war, he rates wearing the uniform. At least in the MC. I don't purport to know much about other branches offhand. I'd need to look up the reg.

Also, I think it's up to YH what his GMs wear. I could have chosen my BM's dresses, though I let them choose within a color, and my MOH wore his Mess Dress at my request. I think it's generally expected that when you're in a BP, you'll accede to any reasonable attire requests.