Want to know what I don't get?

ggirl2001

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Want to know what I don't get? : Well for instance, my cousin who is my MOH is very crafty. She is planning to make my bird cage veil for the reception. She has not mentioned it for about 6 months. I know she will do it if I push her, but I just want her to want to do it. I just hate having to ask and plead and plan just to get them to do anything. Small or important. I feel like they just aren't taking this seriously and there is only 4 months left! That's my main thing about all this.
Posted by tyleet87[/QUOTE]


Besides the veil what do they possibly have to do though? I don't get what you have to beg them to do.

AmandaSC1988

I don’t get Oklahoma Traffic. It took me 1.5 hours to get home yesterday. Why? WHYYY?? This is Oklahoma not California. I find myself wishing there is a massive accident, so I can feel bad about all the anger I feel while sitting at a dead stop on the highway.

I don’t get people that don’t answer their cell phones. I know it is on your person because you just texted me. FI and my parents are the worst when it comes to that.  

I’m in a really pissy mood today, so I have a lot more…but I will refrain from posting as to not hurt anyone’s feelings.

tyleet87

I needed them for the most 1 hour on a Saturday after my cousin got off of work (She's the only one who works on the weekend) at 4pm to go try on BM dresses.

2 of them had plans. I asked them well in advance. One of them was able to make it but the other did not even try. I just don't get that. I try to be as considerate as possible and would like a little in return.

I have 5 total. My other two BMs are my sisters. One is 23 and a tomboy so she really doesn't help at all. The other is 13...so she can't really do anything.

None of them even ask me anything about the wedding or the planning. It's just not the experience I envisioned for myself.

divinemsbee

Right now I do not get why my washing machine is still leaking. All the water is off, all the hoses are unhooked. Grr. Arg. I'm hopeful that the guy comes by today. Also, it looks like everyone is moving in this week, so the dumpster area just looks like a cardboard fort.

I'm also in the "I don't get it" bridesmaids boat. I haven't asked anyone yet, and it will probably just be my sister, and I'm not even sure about her. We have some pretty epic fights when we get in the mood, and while I know that she would show up in the dress, I don't know if I want to deal with it if we get into it before the wedding. So, I'm just putting off asking until I can't any longer.

kara811

Newsflash everyone: BMs don't need to do anything but buy the dress and show up at the wedding! It's YOUR wedding, YOU plan it. 

ggirl2001

That's the wedding industry vision. That's the problem. I've been in several weddings, I couldn't always go to pick out dressed and sometimes I didn't want to if it was on the weekend. You don't need them all there. You are setting expectations for them, and that's not fair. This is your and your FI's wedding. Not theirs

CAB1217

I don't get this meeting I don't need to be in. It's keeping me from reading this thread. Boo. See you all this evening

kara811

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[QUOTE]I don't get this meeting I don't need to be in. It's keeping me from reading this thread. Boo. See you all this evening :)
Posted by CAB1217[/QUOTE]

<div>Hi there Mrs! Did you get the thing I sent you yet? </div>

Irishcurls

I'm not picking on Tylee specifically, but just generally, did you envision they would all be just swooning with excitement over your big day and devoting Saturdays to crafts and stuff? I don't understand having expectations of other people to do that boring stuff with you. It's not fun. They're there to witness your vows and party IMO.

kara811

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[QUOTE]I'm not picking on Tylee specifically, but just generally, did you envision they would all be just swooning with excitement over your big day and devoting Saturdays to crafts and stuff? I don't understand having expectations of other people to do that boring stuff with you. It's not fun. They're there to witness your vows and party IMO.
Posted by Irishcurls[/QUOTE]

<div>Exactly this. I paid people to do the "dirty" work for me. I am not crafty in any way and I didn't dare ask anyone to do that stuff for me either. </div>

ggirl2001

I fuucking hate crafts and shopping, but I love weddings and parties.

firemedicrr

I don't get people who text but don't answer phone calls either (unless they send you a text saying they can't talk for whatever reason...)

I REALLY don't get people who can write something on your fb wall or comment on a status, but can't answer the message you've sent them several times; or the people who show up as online in chat and have activity and never answer you period. 

tyleet87

Well considering we are all super close and don't live more than 25 minutes from each other and this is the first wedding out of any of us or any of our friends...I would think it would be a little more exciting.

My cousin and friend usually help me with almost everything else in my life. Sending me links to outfits or hair color/styles or cool adventurous outings. But when it comes to the wedding it's like just no...

That's what's confusing me. They help me and give me advice on everything anything else in our lives but now...no.

tyleet87

We like planning things and having parties and get togethers. We have themes for everything! We even have to coordinate what costumes my cousin will make for us for comic con! It seems like the 3 of us always make decisions together. That's why I'm so confused now.

Irishcurls

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[QUOTE]Well considering we are all super close and don't live more than 25 minutes from each other and this is the first wedding out of any of us or any of our friends...I would think it would be a little more exciting.<strong> My cousin and friend usually help me with almost everything else in my life. Sending me links to outfits or hair color/styles or cool adventurous outings.</strong> But when it comes to the wedding it's like just no... That's what's confusing me. They help me and give me advice on everything anything else in our lives but now...no.
Posted by tyleet87[/QUOTE]
I mean, this indicates they are good friends in real life. I would just be happy with that. Your wedding is only one day, and a relatively unimportant one to them in the scheme of things--it's not like anything is happening to <em>them.</em> Try to relax and enjoy their friendships regardless and just manage your expectations for input on wedding-related things. It'll still be beautiful and perfect for you and your FI, and that's what actually matters.

crownsuperstar

I don't really get the Bm drama either but then again I didn't have any so I don't know how to react to it.  I have never really been in a wedding where there was drama mine or other wise.  I guess my girls just wanted an excuse to get dressed up and party.  Not that we need a wedding for that.  HAA

I don't get UGGS and short skirts or shorts.  I mean if it is cold enough to wear furry boots than it is not warm enough to wear shorts/short skirt.  Although that being said I just don't get UGGS any way. 

Zimsgirl

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[QUOTE]I don't really get the Bm drama either but then again I didn't have any so I don't know how to react to it.  I have never really been in a wedding where there was drama mine or other wise.  I guess my girls just wanted an excuse to get dressed up and party.  Not that we need a wedding for that.  HAA I don't get UGGS and short skirts or shorts.  I mean if it is cold enough to wear furry boots than it is not warm enough to wear shorts/short skirt.  Although that being said I just don't get UGGS any way. 
Posted by crownsuperstar[/QUOTE]
I love Uggs but totally agree with your point. Had to share this from my pinterest haha
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shan87

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Want to know what I don't get? : I get that but I promise it does taste different. On my way to work, there was a Starbucks and a Caribou. When S had a long time, I'd go to C. C just didn't taste the same. I do put 2 pumpes of vanilla in my coffee so I think their flavoring was different. I didn't like C's as much.
Posted by LetsHikeToday[/QUOTE]

I'm sure it's like Pepsi and Coke. When I ask a bartender for a Rum and Coke I mean Coke not Pepsi! geez. hahahah

Tiddlywinkles

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[QUOTE]I don't get people who text but don't answer phone calls either (unless they send you a text saying they can't talk for whatever reason...) I REALLY don't get people who can write something on your fb wall or comment on a status, but can't answer the message you've sent them several times; or the people who show up as online in chat and have activity and never answer you period. 
Posted by firemedicrr[/QUOTE]<div>Ditto!!!!! People that do this irritate the crap outta me. 

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calindi

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[QUOTE]Well considering we are all super close and don't live more than 25 minutes from each other and this is the first wedding out of any of us or any of our friends...I would think it would be a little more exciting. My cousin and friend usually help me with almost everything else in my life. Sending me links to outfits or hair color/styles or cool adventurous outings. But when it comes to the wedding it's like just no... That's what's confusing me. They help me and give me advice on everything anything else in our lives but now...no.
Posted by tyleet87[/QUOTE]

Apparently they're just not that interested in your wedding, but obviously interested in you as a person and your life.  I get being disappointed, but it's time to put on your big girl pants and remind yourself that this is YOUR wedding and to them it might be more of an obligation.

As far as the girl who promised she'd make you a veil you should definitley (nicely, obviously) follow up to see how it's going.  To be honest, if I were in your shoes, I'd volunteer to purchase one if she didn't want to make it and let her know it's okay if she has changed her mind.  Procrastinating usually (not always - Irish, I swear I'm working on that baby announcement when I can!) means they aren't that interested in doing it. 

tyleet87

Yeah I get the point. I always imagined all of our experiences as a shared experience with the three of us because we are just that close.
There really isn't any drama, just frustration on my part. And I've been coordinating this wedding by myself for over a year now so I think I can finish up the last 4 months too.

Also I have never worn ugg boots in my life. I feel like I'm missing something...

Zimsgirl

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[QUOTE]Yeah I get the point. :) I always imagined all of our experiences as a shared experience with the three of us because we are just that close. There really isn't any drama, just frustration on my part. And I've been coordinating this wedding by myself for over a year now so I think I can finish up the last 4 months too. Also I have never worn ugg boots in my life. I feel like I'm missing something... :)
Posted by tyleet87[/QUOTE]
They're so comfy haha!

Bensgalpal

Everything Zims has ever said I don't get.

calindi

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[QUOTE]Everything Zims has ever said I don't get.
Posted by Bensgalpal[/QUOTE]

Who are you?

I don't get lurkers who come out of the shadows and act like they know us.  That scares me a bit.

AmandaSC1988

Smells like a trolllll

crownsuperstar

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_want-to-know-what-i-dont-get?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:13Discussion:aa9e0f0d-8c11-45f4-890f-dabd1d5cfb27Post:f25e5cfc-b7d5-424b-900d-affb8ba42f21">Re: Want to know what I don't get?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Want to know what I don't get? : Who are you? I don't get lurkers who come out of the shadows and act like they know us.  That scares me a bit.
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]

Yes indeed!  That was a very random statement for that person to make and I noticed that was the only post made by the person.

kara811

Bensgalpal: where the heck did you come from?! For a first post, you really decide to go with that? Also, UGG boots are amazing. They're the only thing that keep my feet warm in the winter! I have a few pairs and cant live without them.

LetsHikeToday

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Want to know what I don't get? : Who are you? I don't get lurkers who come out of the shadows and act like they know us.  That scares me a bit.
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]



Maybe it isn't a lurker?

Maybe it's an AE?

ggirl2001

I bet they won't come back

SamiJoeB

Um... I wear my Uggs and running shorts, but never in public.. Usually just when I finish a run and I don't want to keep my sweaty socks on, but I HATE being barefoot inside (yes.. I'm a freak)

There are so many things that I don't understand.. to many to start naming.