Okay, so my MIL and I haven't been getting along since I moved from WA to NC. She basically stopped speaking to me, she stole a stuffed Mickey Mouse that belonged to H and he had given me and then lied to H, FIL and myself about it when confronted (I know she was lying because she said to us all that "perhaps Sam lost it" after she had emailed H saying that he was supposed to tell me that I was "not allowed" to take Mickey to NC with me, and how important he was to her, so if I lost it don't you think it would be a big deal and she would perhaps help me look for it?) While I was driving across the country she found a pic of me and a family friend and emailed it to my H implying that I was having an affair with him, then when I tried to call her and ask her why she would do something like that when she knew that he was a friend of my families, she wouldn't answer the phone. And now, I just found out she's been opening my mail and misrepresenting it in emails to H and never bothering to tell me about them. Sooo I sent her this email:
According to the U.S. Postal Service, willfully and knowingly reading someone else's mail is a Federal offense. The penalty can include time in a Federal prison.
Even married couples are NOT permitted by law to open mail specifically addressed to the other individual.
If you would please forward my mail to me that would be very much appreciated, but reading my mail is illegal. Just because we have the same last name, doesn't make you (My full name), therefore does NOT allow you to open my mail. I hope that I don't hear about this happening again.
Hateful, yes, but we all know I can be pretty Snarky. So then my MIL forwards my email to basically all of H's family and friends, and pretty much everyone that attended our wedding with a little note that said :
This is the kind of Girl our (H's name) ended up Married to....just lovely!
Okay.. SERIOUSLY?! So now H is furious with me for "threatening" his mom. I'm furious with H for not sticking up for me in the first place. I'm furious with her for violating my privacy and misrepresenting it, and for making me out to be the bad guy when she's been acting like a biitch towards me for over a month now. We used to get along great, but when I decided to move back to NC to be with my family (and not be charged $500/month rent to live with IL's) she totally changed. H wants me to apologize but if I do, it won't be sincere, and I feel like the only thing I should apologize for is the hatefulness of my email. I don't see it as "threatening" her at all. If I were threatening her I would have said "if you do this again I will make sure your ass goes to jail". She's trying to break us up and I'm worried that she'll never stop. I'm also worried that if I apologize for this, I'll be apologizing for the rest of our marriage. I told H that even if I apologzie to her, I will not go out of my way to be nice to her. I will send her a Christmas card each year, and possibly a birthday card. If/When we have kids, I will let her see them, but I will not be around and she will NEVER babysit. I've seen her true colors and they aren't pretty.
I just don't know what to do...Sorry this is so long.