Confessions...

shan87

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[QUOTE]Oh I see....yeah, admittedly the opposite shifts sort of suck, so I can see his point--but  if it's something you really want, then I think it's worth it, personally....
Posted by Irishcurls[/QUOTE]

Yep. He started with having issues with the shifts to well why do you even have to go back to work? sigh really?!

AmandaSC1988

This is a post and run...I have been in and out of meetings all day. Blah! Welcome to the world of Business Analysis.  

But on the topic of leggings I saw a very tan woman walking around in bronze  leggings. I had  to do about 5 double takes..it looked like she wasn't wearing pants. That can't be a good look for anyone... What on earth was she thinking when she got dressed that morning? "Oh, I don't want to look like I am wearing pants today...better wear the bronze ones."

SamiJoeB

Confession:  It's not 5pm yet, and I've been drinking wine for over an hour.  White Zin, to be exact and I'm about 1 glass away from finishing a bottle.

Confession:  H really pissed me off today making a comment about me working out, My mom had gotten me a "Redneck Snowball" cupcake (toasted coconut icing and chocolate cake) to celebrate my grades (again!) and I don't even want to eat it because of what he said.  I was talking about my already stressful day and he's like "Well, are you still running.. if you're not running 4-5 times per week, you're wrong.  When I come home we're going to go run together every night"  IF I WANTED TO PT LIKE A MARINE, I'D PROBABLY BE IN THE MARINE CORPS.  It really hurt my feelings because I bust my butt  in my workouts and I've lost a ton of weight already. 

Vent: I had to go to the eye doctor today and they dilated my eyes which always gives me a headache and so now I need a nap.  Plus I had to pay over $100 for the exam and new glasses, which I just happened to have on me because I sold back some of my text books.

DaKelliAB09

I also don't get it when people wear leggings as pants!  IMO It's so dumb! and looks dumb!!  I'm not even a huge skinny jean fan.  I have a couple of pairs mostly for when I wear boots.  On some people they look cute, but I don't really like them.  And Yoga pants are definitely Ok to wear, they're thicker than leggings. 

Confession:  This girl I know has a new boyfriend like every few weeks and she's always SO IN LOVE and posting about it!  It's so annoying!!  Also, people who are OVERLY lovey dovey on Facebook and have to post about how in love they are 100 times a day annoy me.  I find myself deleting people daily ...

Also, I got my hair cut a few days ago and loved it and now I'm not liking it

crownsuperstar

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[QUOTE]Confession:  It's not 5pm yet, and I've been drinking wine for over an hour.  White Zin, to be exact and I'm about 1 glass away from finishing a bottle. Confession:  H really pissed me off today making a comment about me working out, My mom had gotten me a "Redneck Snowball" cupcake (toasted coconut icing and chocolate cake) to celebrate my grades (again!) and I don't even want to eat it because of what he said.  I was talking about my already stressful day and he's like "Well, are you still running.. if you're not running 4-5 times per week, you're wrong.  When I come home we're going to go run together every night"  IF I WANTED TO PT LIKE A MARINE, I'D PROBABLY BE IN THE MARINE CORPS.  It really hurt my feelings because I bust my butt  in my workouts and I've lost a ton of weight already.  Vent: I had to go to the eye doctor today and they dilated my eyes which always gives me a headache and so now I need a nap.  Plus I had to pay over $100 for the exam and new glasses, which I just happened to have on me because I sold back some of my text books.
Posted by SamiJoeB[/QUOTE]

I love those things!!! I used to get them at the Dolly Madison store. 

Bad H bad!!! Not nice.  Some times they just don't get it. 

Another confession- I am finishing my paper tonight while drinking a glass/bottle of wine.  Judge if you will.  But I am <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" />

BinxRose

I confess that I'm starting to hate my job. After having my hours cut in half I should have quit, but I adored the kids too much. But now they both have been driving me insane pretty much the whole time I'm there. I also confess that I always have a "favorite" whenever I work for a new family. And I'm sure I will have a favorite when I have my own kids one day (which is totally normal, btw. No parent would ever want to admit it though).

DaKelliAB09

Sami - in the words of Alan Jackson "it's 5 o'clock somewhere!" lol

Also your H sounds like FI sometimes.  It's so frustrating.  I work out, but I work out on my own time and on my own terms.  I HATE running b/c I have terrible knees from dancing  and FI told me a few weeks ago that I should start running more and be able to run 12 miles with him.  I've told him over and over again about my knees and he's like "you're too young for knee problems! "  Well apparently not b/c I have knee problems!
I do want to be able to run more, but sometimes his and my idea of motivation don't quite line up.
But from the sounds of it you're doing awesome!! So I'm sure he's proud of you.  Sometimes I think it's just their mentality.  FI apologized later on.  He felt really bad. 

And you eat that cupcake! You deserve it!!!

calindi

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[QUOTE]Confession:  It's not 5pm yet, and I've been drinking wine for over an hour.  White Zin, to be exact and I'm about 1 glass away from finishing a bottle. Confession:  H really pissed me off today making a comment about me working out, My mom had gotten me a "Redneck Snowball" cupcake (toasted coconut icing and chocolate cake) to celebrate my grades (again!) and I don't even want to eat it because of what he said.  I was talking about my already stressful day and he's like "Well, are you still running.. if you're not running 4-5 times per week, you're wrong.  When I come home we're going to go run together every night"  IF I WANTED TO PT LIKE A MARINE, I'D PROBABLY BE IN THE MARINE CORPS.  It really hurt my feelings because I bust my butt  in my workouts and I've lost a ton of weight already.  Vent: I had to go to the eye doctor today and they dilated my eyes which always gives me a headache and so now I need a nap.  Plus I had to pay over $100 for the exam and new glasses, which I just happened to have on me because I sold back some of my text books.
Posted by SamiJoeB[/QUOTE]


1) I want to drink wine with you STAT.  I do believe a case would be required, though, because one bottle wouldn't cut it!

2)  My guy does the same thing.  I just told him I don't really like Crossfit because I pick-and-choose the workouts - I don't like the power lifting ones, just the full-fitness circuits.  He started going on and on about how it's good for you, and blah blah blah.  And when I say that I feel like I need to lose weight, he starts telling me that it's just about discipline and making sure I don't eat sugar or salt or dairy or basically anything except meats and vegetables.  They're surrounded by it 24/7 with other Marines - if you got two anorexic teenagers together in one room and two Marines in another room side by side and had sociologists make observations, the Marines would talk more about diet and body fat and fitness than the anorexic teenagers.  And they'd be more competitive about it, and more dedicated to the cause.

That all said - he probably doesn't realize that he gives more criticism about your weight than compliments on how hard you've been working.  To them, it's all about the end result.  If a guy was over regulation weight, they wouldn't pat him on the back for improvements - they'd literally be on his back until he got below the limits.  So in his own mind, he's probably just trying to support you in your goal, but he doesn't realize that complimenting the progress is even more important than pushing towards the end result.

LetsHikeToday

Sami- that sucks I'm sorry. I'd be pissed if my H ever said that to me.

LetsHikeToday

Another confession: I look forward to mb boards everyday. I really feel like I have friends on here.

calindi

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[QUOTE]Another confession: I look forward to mb boards everyday. I really feel like I have friends on here.
Posted by LetsHikeToday[/QUOTE]

Me too!  I swear, when I get the heck out of here and finally get out of debt, I'm sending you all "Thank you" cards with a bottle of wine to thank you for getting me through this past year.

Also, thanks to letting that all out in this thread, I got the courage to tell FI exactly how far in debt I am (it's not bad compared to what it could be, and what friends of mine have had, but it's a few thousand and the most I've ever had and it makes me really miserable).  He was totally supportive, and is going to help me put together a plan to be out of debt entirely by the time we move out of here!!!

DarrahDoo

Sami- guys can be so dumb!  I usually roll my eyes and tell FI that if he wants to start the criticizing gameI have a whole list of crap I can start criticizing.  He usually shuts up because he knows I'm serious! 

Cali- So glad you were able to open up to FI!  I remember that talk with my ex and it can be a scary one, but having the outcome be love and support is soooo great!  I hope it helps you feel better and helps the next few months be more bearable for you!

SamiJoeB

Hike- I feel the same way.  I don't have texting on my phone, but I find myself more and more just wanting to call up C, or Hike jsut to be like "WTF!! Ahhh!!! Talk me down!! make me giggle!!"

AmandaSC1988

Confession - I hate driving home. I have tried every alternate route and it still takes me over an hour. I drive by 3 malls so the Christmas traffic is making it much much worse.

calindi

Sami, we really do have to arrange a phone date one of these days.  Is it weird that I'm nervous and all like shy?  Like you won't like me in real life or something?  We've been friends for a year now!  And you've been there for me way more than most of my IRL friends - my parents know who you are, FI knows who you are and asks what you've been up to recently.  It's about darned time we actually hear each other's voice!!!

divinemsbee

Sami-I kind of see it how C does. I can lose weight, or not, at my own leisure. I want to be healthier, and, let's face it, thinner, but I don't have to be that. I also can lose the weight in whatever way I see fit, it's not about push-ups or timed miles, it's about how I feel and how my clothes fit. My FI doesn't have that luxury. His fitness is, indirectly, his job. But, as long as I am supportive of him, it's not really his business how I lose my weight or how long it takes, again, as long as it's healthy. Yes, I like that he finds me attractive, but if he found/finds me attractive enough to want to marry me at the weight I'm at now, I figure his goal is my health, not me being an Ironwoman (not that there's anything wrong with wanting to be that). If he wanted to marry a supermodel, he would have tried to do that.

I guess what I'm saying is, I get it, and if FI said something like that to me, I would also be drinking a bottle of wine. And eating several Snowballs. Because that's how I react to things like that. You've done a lot of work, and I'm sure your H will be proud.

Cal- I'm glad you got to talk to him about that, it's rough, but it's great to know you have someone in the trenches with you.

I love this board, and I honestly don't know what I would've done without the support here over the last few months.

melbelle24

Sami- I can't believe your H said that to you. I agree with PP that he probably wasn't really thinking about how it came across, but still... If I was in your shoes, I'd wanna kick his butt all the way from here back to Japan.

Cal- I'm glad your talk with FI went well, and good luck with getting out of debt!

Shan- good luck with the job and getting your H to see your point of view on it!

melbelle24

Ok, my confession?  When I stop and let myself think about it, I'm a little bit terrified about FI coming home next week. We've been together for 4 years, long-distance the whole time, and I'm slightly terrified that when he's home for good and we see each other every day, our relationship is going to fall apart.  I blame a lot of this worry on my mom, who keeps telling me that I don't really know what he's like because we haven't spent more than a month at a time face-to-face.

SamiJoeB

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[QUOTE]Sami, we really do have to arrange a phone date one of these days.  Is it weird that I'm nervous and all like shy?  Like you won't like me in real life or something?  We've been friends for a year now!  And you've been there for me way more than most of my IRL friends - my parents know who you are, FI knows who you are and asks what you've been up to recently.  It's about darned time we actually hear each other's voice!!!
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]

Hahaha.. I think the same thing too!!! I'm always like "she won't understand my accent, or she'll think I'm stupid"  hahaha.. Not to mention I kind of sound like a 8 y/o on the phone. haha This made me laugh soo loud!! I Love you so much C!!

firemedicrr

Hike- I've never understood the legging pants either, unless you have a really long shirt that more than covers your butt that would look stupid with jeans but def isn't long enough to be a dress. I've done it before in that circumstance, and that one only. ... 

darrah- haha, I do the same thing sometimes when FI is talking...rambling on. Especially if its about something he's told me about before, but he feels the need to give me all the back details/history of something related to his job. I'm just sitting there thinking "be quiet already for long enough for me to tell you that I've heard this before". 

Cal- I just want to give you a hug. I'm so sorry that things stink for you right now - but look on the bright side- you have an exit date, you get to get married, and you're going to have a plan to be out of debt by the time you leave! As workouts go, have you looked into bodyrock? it's all free, you can modify almost all the workouts to be done without equipment, and you can do it at home, so maybe that'd be better with Sasha? Just a thought..

divine- I hate packing too. I'm going through the packing stuff right now and it sucks royally. I'm packing and most of my things are going and sitting in FI's closet until after the wedding; what I have to have until then is coming with me to my parent's house. I can't start to organize/get settled at all at FI's because he's planning on moving when we get married (there's a loooong story there and I might talk about that after a bottle of wine one day). It just sucks to be basically moving twice in a year and to have most of my stuff in a different state where I can't even unpack it. blah.

amanda- I often wonder if people think at all when they pick their clothes, both in the store and for the day. Some of the things people wear into the hospital and around their homes- I think they should scout for some of those makeover shows at the ER.

sami- that sucks that your hubby said that to you, I'm sorry I agree though, I bet he wasn't thinking about it like that. Guys do motivation and encouragement in screwed up ways. 

crown- some of the best paper's I've written were wine-assisted

mel- don't let it worry you, I'm sure things will be fine I hate it when people want to try to put their doubts off on you. You and FI are the only ones that really know the relationship- people should learn to keep their thoughts to themselves. 

LetsHikeToday

Sami- how do you live without texting??

SamiJoeB

haha.. I was like a technology whore before... I went cold turkey and got rid of my FB, Texting, Twitter, pretty much any social networking thing.  Only now am I like.. Hmm.. I wish I could text...

CAB1217

Confession: I wish my mom would seriously just STOP talking to me. I wish she would leave me alone to relax and have wine. She is bugging the crap outta me. I can't say anything either because she's so sensitive, that if I remind her that I want to just relax, she will cry.

LetsHikeToday

Hang in there CAB. Only 4 days!? Sami- how come you gave it all up?

shan87

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions... : Me too!  I swear, when I get the heck out of here and finally get out of debt, I'm sending you all "Thank you" cards with a bottle of wine to thank you for getting me through this past year. Also, thanks to letting that all out in this thread, I got the courage to tell FI exactly how far in debt I am (it's not bad compared to what it could be, and what friends of mine have had, but it's a few thousand and the most I've ever had and it makes me really miserable).  He was totally supportive, and is going to help me put together a plan to be out of debt entirely by the time we move out of here!!!
Posted by calindi[/QUOTE]

That is awesome you told him! I believe there needs to be open communication for any relationship to work. I'm glad he is supportive too, you'll be able to tackle it in no time.

SamiJoeB

Drama..

ETA: I sent you a FB message Hike.

Rethany

Hi ladies.

I confess that I kind of don't want to exchange christmas presents with two of my bridesmaids this year.  They are already doing so much by just being in my wedding that I hate to make them get me a Christmas present.  It isn't just that, but while I love them, I never see them enough to know what they like or would enjoy.  So now I've been racking my brain all evening trying to think of things to get them.  I don't think it should be this difficult to buy good friends presents....and for that, I feel like a terrible friend.

BellyB11

I hateee the leggings with pants thing! I've put them on one time to see if I liked it, and was like, I do not understand how girls wear them. My sister does it all the time. It is very obnoxious haha.

Confession.  I can not get out of the bed in the morning! Every morning! I go to bed pretty early. Usually at 9 but always by 10 but still seem extremely tired when I wake up. For the past like week maybe two. I hate it, because I like to get up in the morning and work out. But when I don't wake up til an hour before I need to leave I can't work out! I get so mad at myself!

calindi

Thanks ladies! 

I laid it all out last night - he knew I was in debt all along, but I gave him the nitty-gritty finally.  I printed out my credit card reports, handed over the credit card (we stuck it in a tupperware container, covered it with water, and stuck it in the freezer - old school style!).  We worked out a strict budget so I feel in control again, which is wonderful.  It's printed out in a calendar-style format, and taped to the door of my closet.  I'm going to bring home receipts every night and FI is going to hold me accountable.  He was wonderful and sweet and patient with me, I'm so glad I have him. I should be totally out of debt by the time we move out of here if I even remotely stick to it (I've got about $1000 in wiggle room over 5 months, so that should help!)

Fire - I'll check that out, thanks!  Next up, now that I've tackled finances, is fitness.  I gotta figure something out - it'll help everything (mood, body image, health, immune system, sleeping, etc.)