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Want To Get Married In A Church But Dont Belong To One.
Does anyone know of any churches in the Chicago Area that are willing to marry a couple without being an actual member of the Church? I wouldnt mind becomming a member but some places that we have looked into expect us to go to Paris & back in order to hold our cereomy at the Church. Any suggestions?
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Re: Want To Get Married In A Church But Dont Belong To One.
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Well Jenny, if you must know. I was raised in the Catholic Church, Baptized, Confirmed, & made my Communion. I also went to a Catholic grade school as well as graduated from a Catholic high school. My brother the same, only he was abused when he went. Once my family was made aware of what was going on we stopped going for a long time. After a few years, I began attending a Lutheran Church around where I was living at the time. Since then I have moved and for the past 2 years I have not attended church. Wither or not you agree with my decision or my want to get married in a Church is up to you. But I do not feel that because I have not attended church for a while makes me less of a believer or should make me less privileged to get married in a Church.
"Do not judge, so that you may not be judged. For with the judgement you make, you will be judged, and the measure you give will be the measure you get."
Matthew 7:1-3
[QUOTE]Well Jenny, if you must know. I was raised in the Catholic Church, Baptized, Confirmed, & made my Communion. I also went to a Catholic grade school as well as graduated from a Catholic high school. My brother the same, only he was abused when he went. Once my family was made aware of what was going on we stopped going for a long time. After a few years, I began attending a Lutheran Church around where I was living at the time. Since then I have moved and for the past 2 years I have not attended church. Wither or not you agree with my decision or my want to get married in a Church is up to you. But I do not feel that because I have not attended church for a while makes me less of a believer or should make me less privileged to get married in a Church. "Do not judge, so that you may not be judged. For with the judgement you make, you will be judged, and the measure you give will be the measure you get." Matthew 7:1-3
Posted by ourwedding7311[/QUOTE]
I don't think she was juding you. You didn't provide this information before so she was just saying that IF you weren't religious then don't just use a church as a prop. She wasn't saying you couldn't get married in a church.
Thanks, Beth.
[QUOTE]Sheesh OP, not defensive at all, are you? ::eye roll::
Posted by jennylove810[/QUOTE]
<div>This. OP just bit her head off, and it was a legitimate question. It wasn't worded snarky or anything.</div><div>
</div><div>I got the impression that OP is so defensive because she's a little embarrassed about it. </div>
Though Stage, yours is a legit reason. And OP's is too, now that she explained it. I didn't mean to come off with any kind of tone, I was just wondering if she had some kind of reason like yours because when I read her post, it sounded like "I don't belong to any church, but now that I'm getting married I need to find a church to marry me." Not, I'd like to become part of a religion, but I need to use a church - any church - to get married.
Op isn't doing that, but I've seen brides who have used churches not because they care about a religious ceremony, but because they want a pretty backdrop for photos. I'm sure you can see how that'd be not ok with someone who is religious.
[QUOTE]Why would you want to get married in a church if you don't belong to one or attend services? I am truly curious, because that just doesn't make sense to me and I hope you don't want to use a church as a prop for your photos.
Posted by jennylove810[/QUOTE]
Agreed.
If you truly want to join a church beforehand, do it for the right reasons. Only you can decide which church fits your personal beliefs. If you're doing it just for a pretty backdrop, don't bother at all because that is disrespectful. It's folks who care about the aesthetics of the church rather than what it stands for which is why so many churches don't allow non-members to marry there or if they do, they charge large fees for non-members to discourage them from disrespecting the venue.
[QUOTE]We had a similar problem in NC when we got married. I enlisted the help of my parents, and we called several churches in the area. Some wanted us to go to Paris and back just the same, but we called around, got prices, and choose the one that was not only the cheapest, but the most helpful. It was a Presbyterian church, and my husband and I are both Baptists, but the ceremony was beautiful.
Posted by talanaro[/QUOTE]
Curious but why would you get married in a church that is not the same denomination that you believe in?