As I read some other posts about this I can't help but question my own thoughts.
We are planning our wedding now, still trying to tie down a date with the venue.
He has orders pending for May next year and obviously we would need to be married before those are cut for our moving expenses to be paid for the rest of us that are not currently dependents.
He wants to get married at the court house in a few months and still have a big wedding a few months later. I agreed with a few stipulations, one of them being that NO ONE would know that we had already gotten married except for our older children and us.
The more I read from other posts I'm curious about why people think that if you are already married you can't call it a wedding?
How would you handle this?