Help! Need Advice!

chelseasmith00

My fiance and I just got engaged a couple days ago. We've been talking about getting married for a while. He is a marine and found out a couple weeks ago that another unit is being deployed,but they need a few extra people so there's a slight chance he could be deployed too.. We were wanting to do a quick wedding since we never know what his schedule will be like, but then this posible deployment came up. I see that we have a few options. 1) we could plan it for January; but if he deploys, that would be really rough because I would be left alone on base away from my family so soon after we marry 2) We can wait until he finds out if he will get deployed or not to start planning, but Id really rather not wait or 3) we can go ahead and start planning for 6 months out and hope and pray he doesnt get deployed.. I never realized how comlicated it was going to be to plan our wedding around his schedule, but you never know what is going to pop up.. Any suggestions?

KendallR10

I would start doing idea boards. Wait for the news and then plan. Have you been through a deployment before?

amh04

I'm a fan of waiting to get married until after deployment, especially if you haven't been through one yet. Aside from that...
I would suggest start idea boards, look into venue's so forth and wait until you know for sure if he is deploying or not. Talk about whats important on your wedding day or vow renewal day before everything will be through email (not sure if marines skype, i know with navy we've never been lucky to) If you book anything, I would make sure that there is a military clause in there stating if he gets deployed or doesn't return home in time then you can have your money back or move it to a different date that is not booked yet. Good Luck!

amh04

Oh and Congratulations on your engagement and welcome!

firsttimersluck

Congratulations and welcome!!
If I were in your situation, I would start planning the stuff that doesn't require a venue/caterer/ etc to have. For examples start picking your wedding colors/theme. Pick out what favors you want. Write out your guest list (you can't really pick a venue without knowing the number of guests anyway!) Get all the addresses for the guest list (that is one of the most PITA parts of planning a wedding and it takes forever!) I honestly would wait on it for a bit. You can get a lot of planning done without having a date set yet, and that will put less stress on you guys with the upcoming maybe-yes, maybe-no events.

Beachy730

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[QUOTE]My fiance and I just got engaged a couple days ago. We've been talking about getting married for a while. He is a marine and found out a couple weeks ago that another unit is being deployed,but they need a few extra people so there's a slight chance he could be deployed too.. We were wanting to do a quick wedding since we never know what his schedule will be like, but then this posible deployment came up. I see that we have a few options. 1) we could plan it for January; but if he deploys, that would be really rough because I would be left alone on base away from my family so soon after we marry 2) We can wait until he finds out if he will get deployed or not to start planning, but Id really rather not wait or 3) we can go ahead and start planning for 6 months out and hope and pray he doesnt get deployed.. I never realized how comlicated it was going to be to plan our wedding around his schedule, but you never know what is going to pop up.. Any suggestions?
Posted by chelseasmith00[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I have a few questions before I can give you my best answer.  Right off the bat I say choice 2, because nothing bad can come from waiting.  But these questions would possibly change my answer:</div><div>
</div><div>- How long have you been together?</div><div>-Have you been through a deployment before?</div><div>-How old are you?</div><div>-Are you in school/have a career?

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Irishcurls

Ditto everything FTL and beach said.

First and foremost I'd start in on the "fun" aspects of the planning, since it's new and exciting. The military can't dictate your flower choices, kwim? So play around with color combos, start looking at bridal shops to get ideas, etc. As for when, I wouldn't touch that until you find out either way on his deployment.

And congrats!

crownsuperstar

Welcome and Congrats! 

First you too the words right out of my head(?) since I am not speaking.  HA

I would say the guest list is one of the most time consuming things we did.  Well that and trying to get the names and addresses from H.  Get an idea of the type of wedding you would want.  Small outside, large church, garden, beach etc.  You get my point.  Maybe think of how you would like the ceremony to run.  Do you want music, singers, readers etc. 

Ok done rambling.  You get my point, there is a lot you can think about/do before the date is set. 

chelseasmith00

weve been together for 8 moths, but have been close friends for 11 years. Im 20, hes 27. Hes been in the marines for a year so far, and we havent been through a deployment yet. Im finishing my first year of school in a few months and am planning to finish school in nc wher he is based... We are a really strong couple.

chelseasmith00

thank you for all the advice! I guess i didnt realize how much could be done before a date is set! Now I can get ahead of the game and be more prepared for the military's unpredictable schedule