Oh, Facebook....sigh

divinemsbee

Wow, this board has started jumpin', I like it. I'm OCD about reading all the past posts, so I've been catching up. Welcome to the new people!

So, I have this friend. I know people say that about FB people a lot, but she is actually my friend, she's just really really bad at etiquette. Which, for someone who went to a prestigious prep-school, did cotillion, and had a crazy for it, let's use fingerbowls at the table when we're having Friday night pizza mother, you think she might know a little better. I've known her almost 25 years, and she's always been like this. I do try to talk to her about it, but right now I'm just SMH because I'm not really involved with these people.

She's awful about RSVPs. Backstory on this one (I'd love to say this was the first time a similar situation has occured, but it isn't): she was invited to the wedding of one of her high-school friends (the groom), she RSVPed "no" because she thought she would be taking a trip to an anime convention this last weekend (not knocking RSVPing "no", just backstory). This is a pretty fancy and "traditional" wedding. A seated dinner, dancing, all that jazz. So, that trip got cancelled and this is her status Thursday:

Friend: Who wants to go with me to to (groom) & (bride)'s wedding on Saturday in Mobile? I provide funny banter, witty anecdotes and fancy dancing skills. Oh, and a mean dress.

Seriously. 3 days before the wedding you decide to show up at it after RSVPing no. Okay, it gets odder.

Groom in response to status: I'll be your plus one. Now and forevs. Even at my own wedding.

Yeah, no. I know it was probably a joke, but that just seems weird to me. This eventually devolves into her inviting 2 of her male friends (she does have a pretty serious boyfriend, I'm not sure why he wasn't her plus-one), both of whom are more than a little in love with her in a fan-boy way. It's basically talked about that they will be coming just to get "liquored up." So she just invited herself and 2 other people to a wedding 3 days in advance. The bride's response:

Bride:

Any fun Facebook stories from others out there?

prettyirishgirl

oh my!! haha this makes me laugh even though if it was my wedding I swear . . . simmers. I'm a huge etiquette nutter vi my upbringing and I greatly dislike that kind of thing even though I'm sure it was a joke and all in good fun (hopefully).

I sadly do not have any good FB stores as of late, but I do have a pretty good one from a while back - sorry it is a long one: A lady I worked with for 2 years went to NOLA this past Mardi Gras and I moved home 2 days before so I was also there. She posted a link and a story on her wall about how so much trash was created through the parades and it was horrible and she cant believe it isn't more eco friendly yada yada yada - they should recycle!!

I was very nice but said something to the point of. The tourists are why there is all this trash because locals don't throw junk on the ground - thanks and we dont recycle because our plants got destroyed in katrina. so if you woudl care to come fix them or take all my recycling 30 minutes for me I'd be happy to fix that for you.

a day later the post was completely gone and removed.

About a week after that i stealthily changed my fb status to engaged after we called/ saw all of our close friends and family - so can I say stalker because there was no announcement things. She was the first to post on my wall and did this whole omg I can't believe you are from there!! (we have bet at least 4 times in person and every time its hi I'm ------ and I'm from New Orleans. She then proceeded to be all we need to hang out! I'm so happy for you and ---insert FI's name----- he's such a great guy!!!! (she doesn't know FI, never met FI, only one person I worked with at that non profit even knew I was seeing anyone. the epitome of FB stalking at its finest. She also in a comment on that same post she made asking tons of questions about where FI was, if he was deployed, what he did in the army, when the wedding was where it was, and all i could think was like i would post that and answer any of it crazy woman!!

She then apparently called my boss to ask if she knew I was engaged - funny considering she was the only person that knew in WA before I left because I wanted to tell the family in person and she was the one who sent us to the jeweler to get the ring (who called her as soon as we ordered our ring to tell her FI finally proposed). Friend/boss then proceeded to post on facebook how thrilled she was that Fi had finally asked me, how could i keep that from her considering I practically lived with them and how dare I not show her the ring before I left (I drove from seattle to tacoma to show her then immediately drove back to seattle to drive cross country to go home). it then proceeded to start major engagement drama to the point where I deleted most of it because it was so ridiculous since ever close friend FI and I had proceeded to sarcastically comment about us being engaged and not telling them before it was on facebook. and the Lady that started it all thought they were serious and was posting things like don't be upset with them, it is hard when he is traveling because of work and she was moving. They jsut wanted to share it all with you at once - it was easier that way, and my personal fav. She didn't call me either and I really thought we were close, but I'm not hurt I'm happy for them.

hehe what?!?! ppl are silly on FB.

Zimsgirl

Oh wow. I guess my biggest pet peeve is when other military SOs don't follow OPSEC. While FI was deployed my status one day was hoping for a phone call and this girl who's FI was also deployed commented they're on missions. She did this like three different times and I deleted them each time and finally sent her a MSG saying she needed to stop

AmandaSC1988

I hate people that complain on facebook.  I really don't want to know how difficult your life is...news flash, everyone's life is hard but we don't complain about it because facebook should not be your dumping ground for depressing updates about your life.

One of FIs friends from high school added me on facebook soon after we started dating...3 and a half years and I have not seen one positive post from her. Apparently she is a happy person but my impression of her is a sad, depressed woman. 

My friends little sister is married and is pregnant with their second child (she is 19 and guess what... he is in the military...) but she complains non-stop about  being pregnant. I mean, it makes me never want to have a child the amount of complaining she does.

KendallR10

Right now I have this girl that I was friends with who enlinsted and is leaving for basic. All she has done for the last week is b!tch. Before it was "I can't wait! I hate it here!" blah blah blah. Now its "I hate this. I regret this. I never should have done this. I wish I would have gone to college instead." For the last 6 months she's gone back and forth between the 2. She is the most bipolar person I have ever met. 

I'm not sure how she will do to be honest. She had 8 months to stop smoking and work out. She was still smoking today and didn't put her running shoes on once. (She's the kind of person who posts her whole life on FB)

crownsuperstar

This happened about six months ago.  So this girl who is the sister of my friend's BF sister was having a baby.  My friend was totally scamed into giving this girl a shower.  So the girl put her own shower on FB and said "my shower is on X day, come if you want."  "I am registered at Wal-mart, bring a gift if you want."  My friend was so embarassed.  She wanted to kill her BF.

firsttimersluck

umm... H would be DEAD if he were to "jokingly" say that to another girl on fb. Just gonna put that out there. That would super pisss me off.
That chick is a d-bag. As the bride I would have contacted her and tell her too bad so sad you're not coming.
Effffff That. Heck, I would call that chick FOR the bride without even knowing either of them to take care of that, because that kind of etiquette ticks me off.

I have a couple people on my fb that are nonstop complainers. NONSTOP.

One chick's status was like "ohh I wish Jon would come home to help me with the kids tonight. *sigh* yet another night alone"
and I was like "oh bummer. yeah the military sucks sometimes with work schedules. Something we signed up for marrying them tho!"
She was all "well you wouldn't understand because you don't have kids. Jsut wait, that makes it so much harder"
I say "ummm... ok. You win."

CLEARLY she wanted to be the person to be the most pathetic in that conversation. Idk why I have these people on my fb. They drive me crazy, but I feel so rude for deleting them at this point.. hmm... idk why, it's not like they will ever live near me again..