I know I could post this on the Etiquette board, but i figured I'd try here first, since You ladies are my Favorite!!
FI and I are having a super small ceremony (14 people). As far as invitations go.. I was thinking that it would be best to send out engagement announcements and maybe on them say that we are having a small ceremony with just our families. And then after the wedding send out wedding announcements reiterating that it was a family only ceremony. Does that seem like we're just asking for gifts?