Even though my FI is in the military, it often seems like he's not. He's never deployed and its likely that he'll only deploy once in his whole career. He's only been TDY once since I've known him, and it was only for 5 days. He does do tours to Korea but once we're married I can go with him. If I choose not to I can still visit whenever I please (or whenever I can afford). He's home everyday no later than 6. Its virtually no probelm for him to take leave as long as he has enough time saved up.
I cannot imagine the stress of planning a wedding when you can't pin down a date or don't have your FI around to help you plan. I guess the point of this post was for me to be thankful for how good I have it and to give props to all the girls who have a (much) more difficult time.