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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_confessions-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:f66c5b90-fdda-43d2-afc2-e1a005e094ffPost:d455ea31-b29d-4e92-99ae-d4c0d1f2fab5">Re: Confessions</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : I have to say the same thing as Sami!  Do not try to open this with me.  I understand that yes I know what I married. However, as a newlywed, my H deployed.  Yes I knew it was coming, I knew he was going to be leaving.  We made choices based on that.  However, Kendall, do not open that can of worms up as we are spending our newlywed year apart.  I have tried to be nice and let you say your peace about your wedding but DO NOT compare your working and such with what some of other ladies and I are going through etc. deployment or duty station in another country.  Sorry I am normally not this b!tchy but H has had a very bad day and I cannot make it better and you comparing a Target job (however good it is) to what I am going through is just nonsense. 
    Posted by crownsuperstar[/QUOTE]
    I'm not sure how I compared a deployment to my jobs. I never said "no one else has never felt like this."  I've never been through a deployment with hubs and I may never have to. I'm in no way saying, "I'm the only one going through this." All I said is "I don't feel like a newlywed because I've been working alot."
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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_confessions-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:f66c5b90-fdda-43d2-afc2-e1a005e094ffPost:08415303-90c2-49db-a5eb-d34a781e22d6">Re: Confessions</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : All of this!  Sorry but your Target job & Security job don't really compare to your H being IN ANOTHER COUNTRY 2 weeks after you say "I do" and not getting to physically see him or touch him when he's upset, or when you're upset. FOR MORE THAN A YEAR. Walk a mile in Our (Mine and Crown's specifically) shoes and then see if you have the right to b!tch about not getting to be a newlywed.  Do you not understand that its sh!tty comments like these that make everyone dislike you so freaking much?! Seriously?! Pull your head out of your ass before you post.
    Posted by SamiJoeB[/QUOTE]
    Again not sure how I compared my jobs to a deployment. I never said "Deployments are easy! My jobs suck. None of you get what I am going through."  All I said is I don't feel like a newlywed because I work alot. 
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  • SamiJoeBSamiJoeB
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    edited December 2011
    Did I say you were comparing a deployment to target? No. I didn't. I called you out for being insensitive, and quite frankly whiny when you have no idea how hard things could be.  Basically you b!tched about not getting to feel like a newlywed. Sorry Princess, marriage isn't all rainbows and sunshine which is why so many people who get married as children (*Cough* 19) end up divorced.. You think it'll be so much fun, playing house and having a husband.  My guess is that you'd probably feel like more of a newlywed if you'd had the PPD of your dreams.  More to the point, You live with your H.  No matter what time you come home, or go to bed, or go to work, even if you end up just passing each other, you still get to see him every single day don't you? You get to kiss him when you want to, and get a hug from him when you need one so suck it up, you have it a heck of a lot better than some of us.  You get to see and touch and share the same.. idk freaking zip code as your H.  I haven't seen mine since January.  This all comes back to you thinking before you post something like that.  You didn't think about how that would sound to me, or Crown, or anyone else who's SO is deployed.  You're an immature, self-centered, child.  You wanted to get married and whatever, but marriage is an adult thing, so act like an adult. THINK. BEFORE. YOU. POST.
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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_confessions-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:f66c5b90-fdda-43d2-afc2-e1a005e094ffPost:31f9e760-ec68-4b3d-a8a0-60e4c6fa57da">Re: Confessions</a>:
    [QUOTE]Did I say you were comparing a deployment to target? No. I didn't. I called you out for being insensitive, and quite frankly whiny when you have no idea how hard things could be.  Basically you b!tched about not getting to feel like a newlywed. Sorry Princess, marriage isn't all rainbows and sunshine which is why so many people who get married as children (*Cough* 19) end up divorced.. You think it'll be so much fun, playing house and having a husband.  My guess is that you'd probably feel like more of a newlywed if you'd had the PPD of your dreams.  More to the point, You live with your H.  No matter what time you come home, or go to bed, or go to work, even if you end up just passing each other, you still get to see him every single day don't you? You get to kiss him when you want to, and get a hug from him when you need one so suck it up, you have it a heck of a lot better than some of us.  You get to see and touch and share the same.. idk freaking zip code as your H.  I haven't seen mine since January.  This all comes back to you thinking before you post something like that.  You didn't think about how that would sound to me, or Crown, or anyone else who's SO is deployed.  You're an immature, self-centered, child.  You wanted to get married and whatever, but marriage is an adult thing, so act like an adult. THINK. BEFORE. YOU. POST.
    Posted by SamiJoeB[/QUOTE]
    I'm not sure how wearing a white dress and having 150 people at a wedding is supposed to make me feel more like a newlywed.
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  • SamiJoeBSamiJoeB
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    edited December 2011
    SERIOUSLY?! That is what you took out of everything I said?
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  • melbelle24melbelle24 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_confessions-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:f66c5b90-fdda-43d2-afc2-e1a005e094ffPost:1faefaac-b3df-46ac-80cf-70b986c420fa">Re: Confessions</a>:
    [QUOTE]SERIOUSLY?! That is what you took out of everything I said?
    Posted by SamiJoeB[/QUOTE]
    She's not going to listen to you, so don't waste your time. Take a deep breath and just walk away
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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_confessions-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:f66c5b90-fdda-43d2-afc2-e1a005e094ffPost:1faefaac-b3df-46ac-80cf-70b986c420fa">Re: Confessions</a>:
    [QUOTE]SERIOUSLY?! That is what you took out of everything I said?
    Posted by SamiJoeB[/QUOTE]
    I'm aware that marriage isn't rainbows and sunshine. Do you know what changed when H and I got married? My last name. Thats it. 
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  • melbelle24melbelle24 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_confessions-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:f66c5b90-fdda-43d2-afc2-e1a005e094ffPost:bc37f741-9355-4705-8693-1d80ac3413aa">Re: Confessions</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : I'm aware that marriage isn't rainbows and sunshine. Do you know what changed when H and I got married? My last name. Thats it. 
    Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]
    Weren't you already living together before you got married? What exactly did you expect to change?
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  • IrishcurlsIrishcurls member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_confessions-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:f66c5b90-fdda-43d2-afc2-e1a005e094ffPost:bc37f741-9355-4705-8693-1d80ac3413aa">Re: Confessions</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : I'm aware that marriage isn't rainbows and sunshine. Do you know what changed when H and I got married? My last name. Thats it. 
    Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]
    You didn't legally change your name in the last 4 days, have you???
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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_confessions-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:f66c5b90-fdda-43d2-afc2-e1a005e094ffPost:d2104935-6716-40b9-87bb-3204efa052d6">Re: Confessions</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : Weren't you already living together before you got married? What exactly did you expect to change?
    Posted by melbelle24[/QUOTE]
    Yeah we were. Idk. I thought I would feel different. 
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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_confessions-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:f66c5b90-fdda-43d2-afc2-e1a005e094ffPost:868d989b-e09b-447b-9c87-f9a2097f7fb8">Re: Confessions</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : You didn't legally change your name in the last 4 days, have you???
    Posted by Irishcurls[/QUOTE]
    As far as the county we live in goes, yes I have H's last name. With federal. Not yet. I have to call to see if they have our license yet
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  • IrishcurlsIrishcurls member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_confessions-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:f66c5b90-fdda-43d2-afc2-e1a005e094ffPost:4548185e-6de2-4c3a-b556-37886fc50c4f">Re: Confessions</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : As far as the county we live in goes, yes I have H's last name. With federal. Not yet. I have to call to see if they have our license yet
    Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]
    I wasn't aware there was a difference? I thought social security was the official one. 
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  • SamiJoeBSamiJoeB
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_confessions-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:f66c5b90-fdda-43d2-afc2-e1a005e094ffPost:bc37f741-9355-4705-8693-1d80ac3413aa">Re: Confessions</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : I'm aware that marriage isn't rainbows and sunshine. Do you know what changed when H and I got married? My last name. Thats it. 
    Posted by KendallR10[/QUOTE]

    Then WTF were you expecting to change?! Were you that kid who thought magical things would happen on your big birthdays? Like butterflies would fly out of your ass because you turned 13.. (I hate to burst your bubble, but when you turn 21, nothing special happens!)  You said vows, signed some papers, and swapped rings.  Done. Welcome to Marriage.  FTR, your name isn't officially changed until you file your name change with the SS office. 
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  • KendallR10KendallR10 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_military-brides_confessions-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:13Discussion:f66c5b90-fdda-43d2-afc2-e1a005e094ffPost:738439e8-4a88-4f87-a785-69958ddfc32b">Re: Confessions</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Confessions : Then WTF were you expecting to change?! Were you that kid who thought magical things would happen on your big birthdays? Like butterflies would fly out of your ass because you turned 13.. (I hate to burst your bubble, but when you turn 21, nothing special happens!)  You said vows, signed some papers, and swapped rings.  Done. Welcome to Marriage.  FTR, your name isn't officially changed until you file your name change with the SS office. 
    Posted by SamiJoeB[/QUOTE]
    I'm not expecting anything special for my 21st. I never have. I guess it has to do with where my birthday falls. <div>
    </div><div>I already have a plan for my 21st. Shopping, Mani & pedi. Fondu. Thats all. No drinking</div>
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