Asking for permission

cu97tiger

So, my parents were in town all last week and my BF and dad got some quality time together. It got me to thinking about whether I should have a conversation with BFs mom. A little backstory: BF does not talk to his dad. His mom (and for a few years, a stepdad who has since passed away) raised him and he is her only child. 

I'm thinking of calling her sometime this week and saying something along the lines of the following:

{BF} and I have been talking a lot about marriage lately. I do not know when he is planning on proposing, but it would mean a lot to me to have your blessing before he asked. 

What do you think? I know it's untraditional, but she is a wonderful woman and it would mean the world to me to have her blessing and have her feel included.

tmacwin

I think it's a very sweet idea, especially since he is so close to his Mom.  I would guess that he has probably already talked to his mom about what his plans are, but the gesture is very nice.  And It's a great way to include both of your families in this process.

SeaTea02

Did your BF tell her she was going to propose or will this kind of be the first mention of it? 

cu97tiger

They've talked about it before. Over Christmas when we were at her house we were looking at venues and she pulled him aside asking if there was something she had missed... so she knows it's coming at some point.

bethsmiles

I would ask your BF what his opinion is. If he is ok with it then go for it.

bourgehm

I'd ask your boyfriend first. I know with my FI and I, we both thought it was important to jus tlet our parents at least know what was coming up.

Ember01

We approached his parents together and told them we were thinking about getting married. We wanted their blessing together.

When it came to my parents, they knew what are intentions were, but he asked my parents without me around. (Althougt I did setup the meeting since he is from out of town)