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  • **Mutley****Mutley**
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    edited December 2011
    What is your current relationship status?  Mawwied.

    Since you graduated High school list all of the different living situations you've been in:
    -on-campus apartment with 3 other women for 1 year
    -off-campus apartment with 1 woman for 1 semester, lived alone for the other semester
    -off-campus house with 4 other roommates for 1.5 years
    -off-campus house with 4 guys for 1 semester
    -off-campus house with 5 women for a year - YIKES
    -at-home for 1 year between undergrad and graduate school (saved a lot $$)
    -apartment all by myself during grad school
    -apartment all by myself for the first year of 'the real world'
    -townhouse with boyfriend, then FI
    -house with DH

    Do you think you need to live 100% by yourself before you get married? Why?
    I think you should.  There is something different about living alone.  You do not have a built in support.  You are the only one responsible for everything.  You come home to no one.  You wake up to no one.  You are able to truly develop who you are without anyone having input.  However, I also think it is important to move to a place where you know hardly anyone.
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  • E_SquaredPAE_SquaredPA
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    edited December 2011
    I have lived: in a single room in a dorm, in a shared-bedroom suite type dorm situation, with my parents (for one summer, never again), and currently in a house with two other people. I have lived with men I was not dating and with a man I was.

    As  it stands now, I am PROBABLY moving in with my BF after I graduate (college, in May).

    And honestly, I would HATE living 100% by myself. I can get kinda manic when people aren't around (but sharing a bedroom...never again!) Plus thunder storms scare me and I wouldn't have anyone to snuggle...
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  • ekathleen684ekathleen684
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_myself?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:0d088c89-b6a6-4f7d-9c86-6806c36dcdb8Post:d52c7767-d82b-4944-b706-ccc9000df2f3">Re: All by myself...</a>:
    [QUOTE]And now I have that song in my head... All by myself Don't wanna be, all by myself anymore All by myself Don't wanna live, all by myself anymoooooore!!!
    Posted by PaigeMcC[/QUOTE]

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  • bakes218bakes218
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    edited December 2011
    What is your current relationship status?
    Dating for about 6 years

    Since you graduated High school list all of the different living situations you've been in:
    - Dorm with a roomate
    - Apartment alone for 5 years
    - House with roomate (currently)

    Do you think you need to live 100% by yourself before you get married? Why?
    I did live alone for 5 years during college and grad school so I can tell you I don't think it prepared me to be married and living with someone anymore then having a roomate. If anything, it was pretty boring. It was just the way it worked out but I don't think it makes me anymore prepared then someone who had/has a roomate.
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  • katanne9katanne9 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_myself?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:0d088c89-b6a6-4f7d-9c86-6806c36dcdb8Post:ed3392d6-4a0a-4b86-92a2-69f7508fd7f8">Re: All by myself...</a>:
    [QUOTE]I was wondering if maybe it was a regional thing because around here the only people I know who were able to live 100% by themselves had help (usually their parents were landlords) and I don't really count that as being independent. I literally do not know a single person who can afford to live by themselves in a place where you woudln't want a roommate for safety. So it was kind of a shock to me to be told it was a requirement for growing up. ;-)
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    This.

    The only people I know who have apartments to themselves are racking up debt like crazy, or they have a 1 bedroom place that has NO kitchen or living room (literally a bedroom and a toliet, and paying more than me for my 3 bedroom house with 4 stories, a backyard and basement). If I were to go to having a single I would be paying  250% more than what I pay now. There is a premium on singles. Maybe it is the east coast Buttons, because I hardly know anyone under the age of 35 who has their own place to themself.
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  • AcrosthecAcrosthec
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    edited December 2011
    What is your current relationship status?
    Engaged
    Since you graduated High school list all of the different living situations you've been in:
    Lived in dorms with 1 roommate (2.5 years)
    Live in Apartment with anywhere from 2-6 roommates (depending on who was dating someone and whether they were sleeping over every night, in which case I just called them roommates because they ate our food and helped out with bills).
    Lived in Apartment by myself (4 years)
    Lived in House with FI (1.5 years-current)
    Do you think you need to live 100% by yourself before you get married? Why?  I don't think you necessarily need to, but I'm glad I did, especially *when* I did.  I loved having roommates in college.  College was relatively easy, and it was a blast to have other people around ALL. THE. TIME. to hang out with.  My "alone" period was in law school, and I needed to be alone so I could focus on studying.  I had friends come over, and my ex-BF and then FI slept over quite a bit, but a lot of the time, especially that first year and the last year, I was alone.  It was nice coming home to the dog and not having to worry about whether my food was still in the fridge or whether the place would look different than when I left it.  I found a routine and found comfort in it.  I learned that I can be entirely self-sufficient and get by, which FI often has told me is something that attracted him to me, because if something happens to him (God forbid, but...you gotta be prepared) he won't die worrying that I'll have problems or won't be able to make it on my own.

    So, in short, No, I don't think you HAVE to live alone.  But I think it definitely has it's positives in helping you gain an independence that you can't get any other way, even if you only have 1 roommate.
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  • bajedivabajediva member
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    edited December 2011
    Current status: commited LDR

    Previous living arrangements: alone on campus, housemates off campus, own apartment between undergrad & grad, w/ a relative during grad, now i've been back in my home country with my mom for 2 months.

    Live by yourself 100% before marriage? my time away from home & on my own have contributed to my growth, but I don't think it's the only way to grow. In my home culture (Caribbean), it's actually the norm to remain with your parents until marriage (whether ceremonial or common-law), and in cases where persons do move out on their own prior to that, the social assumption is that something must've gone terribly wrong with their relationship with their parents.

    Usually as you become an adult, you take on significant household responsibilities, and it becomes much like living with roommates in that sense. It's definitely important to have the room you need to become yourself, to know yourself & expand your boundaries, but I think there's more to that than whether you've lived on your own or not. Still, sooooo glad BF has been out of the house & completely on his own for the past 4 years - his mom's  a smotherer, bless her heart!
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  • paintgirlpaintgirl member
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    edited December 2011
    What is your current relationship status? Dating. Living together soon.

    Since you graduated High school list all of the different living situations you've been in: I'm older than y'all and can't think back that far. Holy crap... It makes my brain hurt.

    Do you think you need to live 100% by yourself before you get married? I don't think it's a prerequisite, but I think it's helpful. Like Mutley said, it's also interesting to move somewhere where you don't know anyone. There's a confidence building factor in living alone where you don't know people - having to drive yourself to the hospital (not while incapacitated of course); being prepared for any illness because no one else will get you stuff if you can't leave the house (stomach flu and nothing in the house - not even Gatorade - taught me that one); meeting new people, probably from different backgrounds with different hobbies... I think it's good for people.

    That said, there are dog people in this world (those of you who can't imagine living without companionship) and there are cat people in this world (Mutley and I). Both critters are good. :)

    Best part about living completely solo - you can fart in bed. I mean, REALLY fart. And you don't have to worry that a roomie or bf/fi heard you.
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  • prasad007prasad007
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    edited December 2011
    Current status: commited LDR

    Previous living arrangements:
    1 year in an apartment with a roommate
    1.5 years in an apartment, then townhome with my sister and her baby
    1 year in an apartment with bf and his friend
    a few months living with sister and her son again
    1.5 years in a suite with a roommate (same friend I lived with right out of highschool)
    almost 1 year living by myself in ground floor suite of a house

    Live by yourself 100% before marriage?
    I don't think it's necessary. Being responsible for yourself is necessary, tho. Learn how to pay your rent and bills. Cook for yourself. Clean up your own messes.

    In highschool I did a lot of cooking and grocery shopping for my family, and when I moved out I was 17 and I ended up doing almost all of the cooking and grocery shopping and for myself and my friend. I also divided up the bills and made sure that they were paid each month.

    I can't wait until bf and I can live together again-- I HATE living alone. I don't have any pets and  I am lonely all the time... Sleeping alone is the hardest. Gah.
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  • PaigeMcCPaigeMcC member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_myself?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:0d088c89-b6a6-4f7d-9c86-6806c36dcdb8Post:157f6b95-fa08-4482-9649-69efe2977c19">Re: All by myself...</a>:
    [QUOTE] Best part about living completely solo - you can fart in bed. I mean, REALLY fart. And you don't have to worry that a roomie or bf/fi heard you.
    Posted by paintgirl[/QUOTE]

    hahahahahaha! That is an excellent reason to live alone!!!

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  • Button5807Button5807
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_myself?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:0d088c89-b6a6-4f7d-9c86-6806c36dcdb8Post:157f6b95-fa08-4482-9649-69efe2977c19">Re: All by myself...</a>:
    [QUOTE] Best part about living completely solo - you can fart in bed. I mean, REALLY fart. And you don't have to worry that a roomie or bf/fi heard you.
    Posted by paintgirl[/QUOTE]

    Pretty early on in our relationship BF cornered me and said something to the affect of why aren't you comfortable with me? I know you've got a messed up digestive system, I'm sure you've got some impressive farts, when can I hear them?  Probably the most amusing conversation I've ever had.
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  • yellowroseFRAyellowroseFRA member
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    edited December 2011
    relationship status: BF and I have been together for two years but haven't lived together - he is finishing law school and lives with his folks bc of the $$

    living situations: dorm with roommate, dorm with 2 roommates, semester at home whole transferring colleges, dorm with 3 roommates, apt with a roommate who I now refer to as "Heatherthebitch"Smile, semester abroad in a flat with two guys, another semester in an international dorm, apartment with one awesome roomate here in Germany, apartment with two roommates who are also my best friends, and since August, alone in a studio apartment

    Should you live alone before marriage? To me, this is not something you can make a rule about - I have had the good, bad and ugly versions of roommates, and have also lived alone and moved oversees alone, and each experience has been lifechanging. So far, I prefer living all by myself - I like my alone time, I like to take baths late at night, and I like complete kitchen control. And I think that until you have had your "own" household, you aren't really set in your lifestyle and living preferences - that sort of thing comes with being able to make all the decisions. But I have not ever lived with a BF, and it will be a little while before BF can afford to move out, but that is an experience I definitely want to have before we get engaged. In fact, for me living together before getting married is a much bigger deal than living alone - marriage and the wedding sound stressful enough without the added pressure of never having been together 24/7 for extended periods of time.

    And on that note, BF and I are actually going on our first real vacation to Paris next week, and it will be the first time we have spent a whole week continuously in each other's company - and I am a little nervous!
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_myself?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:0d088c89-b6a6-4f7d-9c86-6806c36dcdb8Post:2bdcfeea-bfcb-406a-8401-3533e72f3cc5">Re: All by myself...</a>:
    [QUOTE] BF and I are actually going on our first real vacation to Paris next week, and it will be the first time we have spent a whole week continuously in each other's company - and I am a little nervous!
    Posted by yellowroseFRA[/QUOTE]

    Good luck! I'm sure it'll be fun :-)
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  • notquiteblushingnotquiteblushing member
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    edited December 2011
    What is your current relationship status? Notquitemarried

    Since you graduated High school list all of the different living situations you've been in:
    Dorm with three roommates - top bunk holla! - one year
    Single dorm - one year
    Shared bedroom in a suite (1 girl in my room, 6 others in suite) - one semester
    Single dorm - one semester
    Two bedroom Quad with absentee roommate and 2 BFFS next door - one year
    Back home with Mom and Dad - one year
    Single dorm in suite with three other girls - one year
    Fabulous but $$ 1 bedroom apartment - 5 years
    With FI - 1 year

    Damn I've moved around a lot!


    Do you think you need to live 100% by yourself before you get married? Why? I think so, I really really dislike living with other people and wanted time on my own to do my own thing before having to go back to that again.  And just as I wouldn't marry just anyone, I wouldn't live with just anyone.  I realize it's not as easy in HCOL places but I'm glad I had that time to myself.  Roommates suck.
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    edited December 2011
    First of all... tell him to go screw himself and that obviously he doesn't know what he is talking about if he's had so many failed relationships. 


    What is your current relationship status?  Recently engaged

    Since you graduated High school list all of the different living situations you've been in:
    Immediately after high school I moved 60 miles away, lived in an apartment with a roomate for 1 year; moved in another place with another roommate for another year; rented my own apartment for a couple years; bought my own house for the past 2 1/2 years and now selling it to move down to Louisiana to be with FI.

    Do you think you need to live 100% by yourself before you get married? Why?
    I personally thought it was a great experience and would recommend it to everyone.  But also, if you've lived with a roommate then I think that is comparable.  Living on your own to me is paying your own bills and not counting on your parents to do so. 
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    edited December 2011
    LOL!  Before I even opened the post I was already singing that song!


    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_myself?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:0d088c89-b6a6-4f7d-9c86-6806c36dcdb8Post:d52c7767-d82b-4944-b706-ccc9000df2f3">Re: All by myself...</a>:
    [QUOTE]And now I have that song in my head... All by myself Don't wanna be, all by myself anymore All by myself Don't wanna live, all by myself anymoooooore!!!
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  • **Mutley****Mutley**
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_myself?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:0d088c89-b6a6-4f7d-9c86-6806c36dcdb8Post:157f6b95-fa08-4482-9649-69efe2977c19">Re: All by myself...</a>:
    [QUOTE]Like Mutley said, it's also interesting to move somewhere where you don't know anyone. There's a confidence building factor in living alone where you don't know people - having to drive yourself to the hospital (not while incapacitated of course); being prepared for any illness because no one else will get you stuff if you can't leave the house (stomach flu and nothing in the house - not even Gatorade - taught me that one); meeting new people, probably from different backgrounds with different hobbies... I think it's good for people. That said, there are dog people in this world (those of you who can't imagine living without companionship) and there are cat people in this world (Mutley and I). Both critters are good. :) Best part about living completely solo - you can fart in bed. I mean, REALLY fart. And you don't have to worry that a roomie or bf/fi heard you.
    Posted by paintgirl[/QUOTE]

    YES!  I know that DH and I worked so easily because of the independence I brought into the relationship.  I didn't 'need' him in my life, I wanted him there.  He knew that I was fully capable of doing it on my own.  This was something that made us stronger. 
    I will say that DH had never lived alone.  However, he moved away for college at 18, graduated, and lived in Australia for 18 months (including his first 'real' job.)  Then, he created his own business and held down a 9-5 job simultaneously.  By the time we met, he had owned/flipped 5 houses and was in a very stable job.  The only reason he had a roommate was to help out a friend who made a bad real estate investment.

    A big thing for me was that I also didn't have any serious relationships during the two years I lived alone.  I had some flings or short-lived 'romances' but I was too busy living my life for anything more.  I was able to just be me.  No preconceived notions.  No outside ideas of who I had to be.  No one to be accountable to.  Fabulous time and I wouldn't trade it for anything. 

    P.S. I am a dog and cat person.  I was this way as a child though.  I started not allowing my parents in my room when I was 3. 
    And I honestly didn't fart until I became pregnant.  Now, all bets are off.  Pregnancy is a whole different level of closeness for DH and I.  Haha.
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  • lisarose7lisarose7
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    edited December 2011
    What is your current relationship status? Engaged

    Since you graduated High school list all of the different living situations you've been in:  Okay, in order: dorm room with weird roommate (Fall 1995), dorm room with good roommate (1996), double dorm room by myself (Spring 1997), dorm room with roommate from hell (Fall 1997), single dorm room by myself (Spring 1998), studio apartment by myself (June 1998-June 1999), with parents (June 1999-September 2000), 1 bedroom by myself (September 2000-June 2002), different 1 bedroom by myself (June 2002-June 2003), different 1 bedroom with FI (July 2003-November 2004), FI's grandmother's 2 bedroom house with FI (and no one else) (November 2004-July 2006), with parents with Fi living 2 time zones away (July 2006-November 2007), 2 bedroom apartment with FI and roommate (November 2007-May 2008), same 2 bedroom apartment with just FI (May 2008-now).

    Do you think you need to live 100% by yourself before you get married? Why? No.  I think it was a good experience and I loved living alone, but having a roommate and living with FI were much better practice for marriage.  When you get married you have to learn to live WITH someone, which for me was harder than learning to live alone.

    Statistics DO show that in the most successful marriages, both spouses were single for at least 6 months of their adult lives before the marriage.  These studies don't say anything about living alone.
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  • yellowroseFRAyellowroseFRA member
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    edited December 2011

    Lisarose, I agree - living with someone in an intimate way (roommates don't move into your bathroom too!) seems like a much bigger step than living alone. Even if your BF stays over alot, it's not the same thing. And when I say I'm nervous about spending a whole week alone with BF, it's because of the kind of "fart in bed" closeness paintgirl mentionedSmile Seriously, I think this sort of comfort can only come from living together.
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  • lisarose7lisarose7
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_myself?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:0d088c89-b6a6-4f7d-9c86-6806c36dcdb8Post:b6d59dd3-7dff-4824-8165-affbcdfb2eec">Re: All by myself...</a>:
    [QUOTE]Lisarose, I agree - living with someone in an intimate way (roommates don't move into your bathroom too!) seems like a much bigger step than living alone. Even if your BF stays over alot, it's not the same thing. <strong>And when I say I'm nervous about spending a whole week alone with BF, it's because of the kind of "fart in bed" closeness paintgirl mentioned  Seriously, I think this sort of comfort can only come from living together.
    </strong>Posted by yellowroseFRA[/QUOTE]

    Oh, it does...my gas has pretty much become a third person in the relationship.  It's to the point now that FI assumes I've farted if he hears me giggling.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_myself?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:0d088c89-b6a6-4f7d-9c86-6806c36dcdb8Post:f162c360-ceae-4e56-a620-84fa95958d38">Re: All by myself...</a>:
    [QUOTE]And I honestly didn't fart until I became pregnant.  Now, all bets are off.  Pregnancy is a whole different level of closeness for DH and I.  Haha.
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    i love you so much for sharing that.
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  • jeanacorinajeanacorina
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    What is your current relationship status? "Engaged," and quickly approaching "married."

    Since you graduated High school list all of the different living situations you've been in:
    -I shared a room with my little sister since I was 6 years old until I moved out at 18
    -1 year: with a boyfriend & his mom (Maryland)
    -a couple months: college apartment w/ 2 crazy girls (MD)
    -1 year: college apartment with 3 not-as-crazy girls (MD)
    -6 months: dorm with 5 girls & 2 bathrooms (West Virginia)
    -6 months: moved in with a guy I'd just met (Indiana-- for the hell of it)
    -6 months: apartment with 3 male roommates (Indiana)
    -6 months: my parent's basement on a futon (WV)
    -2 years: BY MYSELF in a 1-bedroom apartment (WV)
    -1 year: with FI (then-BF) and his 2 male roommates and their often-visiting GFs (Louisiana)
    -past 2 years and from now on: me, FI, and kitties (LA)

    Do you think you need to live 100% by yourself before you get married? Why?
    I think it's a fantastic idea and completely different than having roommates, for many of the reasons other posters have mentioned. I lived close enough to my family to visit and occasionally bum some leftovers, but I was in a different town where I knew NO ONE. I had a full-time job, bought my own car, paid my own rent and all my bills, did my own grocery shopping (some weeks, admittedly, it was Ramen every night), and was free to watch anything on TV, rent any movies, spend all night playing video games if I wanted, and to be completely and totally lonely at times.

    It was a valuable, unique experience that I will likely never have again. I do think everyone should TRY to live on their own at some point.

    However, FI has never lived alone and I think he turned out fine. He did have roommates, and I think that's a close second to living by yourself. There ARE differences between roommates and alone. I don't think it's NECESSARY, but it's a very good idea.
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  • jeanacorinajeanacorina
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    edited December 2011
    I will add, I wish I'd had a dog or cat when I lived alone. I got incredibly bored and lonely a lot. I'm a very social person. But it wouldn't have been practical to adopt an animal when I really didn't know where I'd end up going eventually. As you can see, I tend to hop around a lot.
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  • **Mutley****Mutley**
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    edited December 2011
    Jeanna, where did you live in MD?  You can PM me (or not share at all) if you want.  I didn't know you lived there.  I, too, moved around a bunch.  :)  I liked switching coasts every couple of years for a while. 
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    edited December 2011
    What is your current relationship status?
    BF/GF
    Since you graduated High school list all of the different living situations you've been in:
    College dorm with 1 roomie-a month
    College dorm alone-rest of that year and one year after
    Back home with parents-4 years
    Living with BF-1 yr
    Do you think you need to live 100% by yourself before you get married? Why?
    I wouldn't say it's necessary, exactly.  I lived in a dorm alone for awhile, and when I moved back with my parents, I paid them rent and my own bills.  I came/went as I pleased.  Not 100% on my own, I know, but that wasn't possible because of the can't afford own apartment issue.  Also, my mom/drs weren't fans of me living alone, because of the bipolar.  Honestly though, I think living with someone else made me MORE responsible-I am much more likely to pay bills on time if both of us are punished, not just me.
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  • oceana919oceana919
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_myself?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:0d088c89-b6a6-4f7d-9c86-6806c36dcdb8Post:2bdcfeea-bfcb-406a-8401-3533e72f3cc5">Re: All by myself...</a>:
    [QUOTE]And on that note, BF and I are actually going on our first real vacation to Paris next week, and it will be the first time we have spent a whole week continuously in each other's company - and I am a little nervous!
    Posted by yellowroseFRA[/QUOTE]

    Oooooh, so jealous, I love Paris! :) Have you ever been there before? It not, be sure to check out Montemarte while you're there (the little "village" surrounding the Sacre Coeur)...best people watching and cafes in Paris!

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  • ekathleen684ekathleen684
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_myself?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:0d088c89-b6a6-4f7d-9c86-6806c36dcdb8Post:d47d8fad-f268-4a23-8939-57c673f496c3">Re: All by myself...</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: All by myself... : Oh, it does...my gas has pretty much become a third person in the relationship.  It's to the point now that FI assumes I've farted if he hears me giggling.
    Posted by lisarose7[/QUOTE]

    HAHAHA! Ditto. With my first "real" boyfriend, I dont think I farted at all the entire 9 months we were dating. I dont know how I didn't explode. With BF, I do it just to make him cringe. I think it has brought us closer together <3

    Yellow- Dont worry about you trip and farting in bed. I think it being just the two of you will be great. I love going anywhere where it is just BF and I. A few months ago a friend posted about how he farted on his gf's leg and she didn't know because she was sleeping. BF mentioned it to me and my exact quote was "So, I did the same thing to you last night."
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  • Ishaba11Ishaba11 member
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    edited December 2011
    What is your current relationship status? Engaged

    Since you graduated High school list all of the different living situations you've been in: lived with parents, then in dorms, then with parents again

    Do you think you need to live 100% by yourself before you get married? Why?
    I dont think you need to live by yourself but definitely be able to support yourself. I live with my parents right now and FI lives by himself in an apartment he gets as part of his job. It isnt the best neighborhood (understatement) and we work opposite schedules so I would be alone most of the time. We both feel safer right now for me not to live with him. I personally could never live by myself. I would get way too lonely.
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  • jeanacorinajeanacorina
    2500 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Wait--- we need two polls. Have you ever lived by yourself and Do you think it is necessary?

    How many people who have never lived alone DON'T think it's necessary, and how many who HAVE think it is?

    See?

    Huh?

    Veeeeery interesting.
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  • Button5807Button5807
    2500 Comments Fourth Anniversary Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    LOL you noticed that trend too did ya?
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