Your thoughts on this

aeroprincess87

So today my BF and I were talking to my mom on skype when somehow the subject of my mom never taking me to a bridal show came up. When I was younger I wanted to design bridal gowns, so she had promised to take me to a show one day but that never materialized. Anyway, so during our conversation my BF mentions how there will be an upcoming show in our city and kinda blurts out that he was planning to take me if he was off work the day of the event. Quite frankly I was blindsided by it, but he was serious about it. Now I don't even know what to think anymore, we aren't engaged yet, so why would he offer to take me to something like that? Well I guess it could be so I could see the dresses, but those don't interest him at all, so I don't know.

wink0erin

Maybe he thinks you still are interested in designing bridal gowns. I'd take it as just a nice gesture.

aeroprincess87

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[QUOTE]Maybe he thinks you still are interested in designing bridal gowns. I'd take it as just a nice gesture.
Posted by wink0erin[/QUOTE]



Yeah maybe, it still kinda caught me off guard though.

ravenray

Don't overanalyze it, you will drive yourself crazy.  Guys do things all the time that mean Nothing but girls think it they mean something!   Forget about it unless he brings it up again and only think about it in the fun of going to a fair or something.

jorja86

You say "hey, BF, I was kind of surprised by your suggestion that we go to a bridal show next weekend. What was that all about?"

He then (hopefully) tells you what it was all about.

Probelm solved.

Elle1036

Ditto Ray.  Don't fool yourself into thinking it means anything more than it does.  

Several years ago, before FI and I had even talked about getting married (even though we both knew it was headed that way), he was teasing me and dropping hints about my birthday present.  He told me that I was going to be really surprised and that it was a "big" gift.  He even told me it started with an "e".  So, of course, I got myself all worked up about it.  I spent hours on the phone with my best friend, who was equally convinced he was going to propose...

Know what that "big" gift was?

An espresso machine.  Yep.

jaycee7389

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[QUOTE]Ditto Ray.  Don't fool yourself into thinking it means anything more than it does.   Several years ago, before FI and I had even talked about getting married (even though we both knew it was headed that way), he was teasing me and dropping hints about my birthday present.  He told me that I was going to be really surprised and that it was a "big" gift.  He even told me it started with an "e".  So, of course, I got myself all worked up about it.  I spent hours on the phone with my best friend, who was equally convinced he was going to propose... Know what that "big" gift was? An espresso machine.  Yep.
Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]

bhahah..awww :(

Elle1036

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Your thoughts on this : bhahah..awww :(
Posted by jaycee7389[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>Haha.  It's ridiculous, right?  But I was more relieved than anything.  I wasn't ready to be engaged yet.</div>

tdwpg1984

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[QUOTE]Ditto Ray.  Don't fool yourself into thinking it means anything more than it does.   Several years ago, before FI and I had even talked about getting married (even though we both knew it was headed that way), he was teasing me and dropping hints about my birthday present.  He told me that I was going to be really surprised and that it was a "big" gift.  He even told me it started with an "e".  So, of course, I got myself all worked up about it.  I spent hours on the phone with my best friend, who was equally convinced he was going to propose... Know what that "big" gift was? An espresso machine.  Yep.
Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]<div>I did the same thing for our 2 year anniversary this year. BF told me that he knew for sure that he spent more money on my gift  than I spent on his. I let him know that I spent a lot of money on his gift, like more than I usually spend, so maybe he didn't spend more than me. He was all "This is the most expensive gift I've ever bought you!" I was convinced it was an e-ring. It ended up being a spa package to a very expensive, very nice spa in my city. Like a $450 spa package (maicure, pedicure, massage, body wrap and body scrub). It was a super awesome gift! But I've learned to just chill and not expect things.</div><div>
</div><div>I would just ask your bf what's up with his comment, like a PP said...</div><div>
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HULU

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[QUOTE]Ditto Ray.  Don't fool yourself into thinking it means anything more than it does.   Several years ago, before FI and I had even talked about getting married (even though we both knew it was headed that way), he was teasing me and dropping hints about my birthday present.  He told me that I was going to be really surprised and that it was a "big" gift.  He even told me it started with an "e".  So, of course, I got myself all worked up about it.  I spent hours on the phone with my best friend, who was equally convinced he was going to propose... Know what that "big" gift was? An espresso machine.  Yep.
Posted by Elle1036[/QUOTE]

<div>That.... is.... hilarious. XD </div><div>
</div><div>But also a really nice gift, so I say you still win in that situation.</div>

tdwpg1984

Oh and on another note, I was telling BF about the cray-cray girl that was on here the other day who put a deposit on a dress and she wasn't even dating anyone. You remember, the one who's resolution is to get married in 2012, even though she doesn't have a bf? Well he was all like "Ugh that's so dumb, why would you even bother? It's like going to the Wonderful Wedding show before you're engaged? That's (as in wedding show) next week isn't it?" But he kinda left it at that. A teeny part of me wants to go, because when I went with my sister when she was planning her wedding they had a ton of great info, and they only have it once per year. I don't want to go to like plan/book anything, but just to get info only to store away for when BF proposes. But most of me knows that's pretty BSC, unless your BF is encouraging you to go for a reason other than planning your wedding.

desertsun

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[QUOTE]So today my BF and I were talking to my mom on skype when somehow the subject of my mom never taking me to a bridal show came up. When I was younger I wanted to design bridal gowns, so she had promised to take me to a show one day but that never materialized. Anyway, so during our conversation my BF mentions how there will be an upcoming show in our city and kinda blurts out that he was planning to take me if he was off work the day of the event. Quite frankly I was blindsided by it, but he was serious about it. Now I don't even know what to think anymore, we aren't engaged yet, so why would he offer to take me to something like that? Well I guess it could be so I could see the dresses, but those don't interest him at all, so I don't know.
Posted by aeroprincess87[/QUOTE]

<div>ZOMG, clearly, he is planning propose at some point before the show!!!1!!!11</div><div>
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</div><div>Feel better now that you've heard what you wanted to hear?</div><div>
</div><div>Good. Let's see how long that lasts.</div><div>
</div><div>My bet? About 20 minutes. Before you start freaking out about getting a manicure and who you're going to tell first, and how he's going to do it.</div><div>
</div><div>Seriously, you do yourself NO FAVORS when you try to anticipate what/when/how your proposal will happen.</div><div>
</div><div>Just let your BF worry about that, trust in the timeline that you guys have of course discussed openly and honestly to mutual satisfaction, and enjoy your life as it is happening.</div><div>
</div><div>Spending a lot of time thinking about a future proposal or future wedding or future anything is a good way of setting yourself up for a let down.</div><div>
</div><div>Things rarely turn out as you picture them in your head. It's much easier to live a happy and fulfilled life if you instead cultivate a mindset of participating in and finding the happiness in life's lttle moments AS they happen. It's hard to appreciate those things if you're too caught up in what they might MEAN or the possibility of something bigger/better around the corner.</div><div>
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aeroprincess87

Well I asked him about it last night and he said that he thought I'd enjoy going, so he'd take me. But between his offer to take me to the show, him being uber protective of his phone lately (he says he has a big surprise for me for valentines day), and him taking off the ring I bought myself and constantly playing with it and staring at it, a girl has to wonder

ravenray

You didn't listen to our advice did you?

Don't over analyze it!!  You are wondering yet nothing has happened and in all probability nothing will happen.  Have you ever heard the story of the boy who was given this ball of yarn that when he pulled it would take him into the future?  He couldn't stop pulling the yarn and missed out on all the wonderful things that his life had for him.  Enjoy your relationship now, and if you get engaged awesome but if you don't awesome as well.  Life goes on and so does your relationship.

 

Elle- that is a fabulous story!  I think I love Nick a little more now!

SopChick

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Your thoughts on this : I did the same thing for our 2 year anniversary this year. BF told me that he knew for sure that he spent more money on my gift  than I spent on his. I let him know that I spent a lot of money on his gift, like more than I usually spend, so maybe he didn't spend more than me. He was all "This is the most expensive gift I've ever bought you!" I was convinced it was an e-ring. It ended up being a spa package to a very expensive, very nice spa in my city. <strong>Like a $450 spa package (maicure, pedicure, massage, body wrap and body scrub)</strong>. It was a super awesome gift! But I've learned to just chill and not expect things. I would just ask your bf what's up with his comment, like a PP said...
Posted by tdwpg1984[/QUOTE]
Right now, I would take this over an e-ring hands down, haha! Is that bad? I just really, really, REALLY, want a spa day...

OP, he offered because he knows you'll like the dresses, and because you mentioned to your mom that she never took you after promising. Take it as a sign that he knows you well, leave it at that, and enjoy yourself. Don't ruin his nice gesture by over thinking!

aeroprincess87

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[QUOTE]You didn't listen to our advice did you? Don't over analyze it!!   You are wondering yet nothing has happened and in all probability nothing will happen.   Have you ever heard the story of the boy who was given this ball of yarn that when he pulled it would take him into the future?   He couldn't stop pulling the yarn and missed out on all the wonderful things that his life had for him.   Enjoy your relationship now, and if you get engaged awesome but if you don't awesome as well.   Life goes on and so does your relationship.   Elle- that is a fabulous story!   I think I love Nick a little more now! <3
Posted by ravenray[/QUOTE]



Ugh yes I an over analyzing, but I do that with everything in my life. Anyway right now I'm super excited about our trip since I really can use a vacation. But he knows that his behavior is making me wonder and he's enjoying torturing me. Ugh!