Speculations

hisgoldeneyes

Ok ladies...so I took your advice and I tried to talk to BF about when a potential proposal was coming. I wasn't particularly surprised by his answer because it is so typically him. Long story short I took from the convo that he wants to do it soon but when I forget about the whole thing. ((which we all know isn't going to happen)) He really wanted me to stop talking about it like he was avoiding telling me the when aspect on purpose just that it would be soon-ish. So I'm going to TRY to not talk anything wedding related around him. I know he wants it to be a big theatrical surprise (I could care less) and feels that by talking about it ruins it. Now I have a few things that have happened since that post about my friend. We were out to dinner the other day with said BFF and her BF and all out of the blue she starts talking about her engagement ring. Like litterally out of thin air. She starts describing what she wants and it is 100% what I told her that I wanted and she specifically said she didn't like. So I have two takes on this...either A she has officially crossed into jealous territory and is now BSC and wanting to get the same ring. or B BF has recruited her into the ring buying process. I think it might be B because she specifically said she would tell her BF no if he asked soon. What do you guys think? And second thing that happened. Yesterday I was talking on the phone with my dad and he kept telling me that there was something I wasn't telling him. ((I'm not hiding anything)) He sounded kinda strange, and I know that BF always said he wanted to ask him first. Months ago he even got his number from me for that reason. So am I reading WAY too much into all of these things or do they sound somewhat accurate?

Button5807

I think you probably shouldn't spend so much time speculating about things, you're going to make yourself BSC...But I have to say that your friend is a nut job, why would anyone bring up the engagement ring in public if they wouldn't accept a proposal?

hisgoldeneyes

LOL actually I think I'm further away from BSC zone than my friend. I'm actually not stressing any of the above, sorry if it sounds that way. I just get happy thinking about it and stuff so I like to think about it. But no worries here I'm definately a safe distance away from BSC. I'm just really excited to start moving towards marrying my BF ((just on the record according to him court house is not an option))

jeanacorina

OK... WHY do they do this? The guys, I mean. My BF said the SAME THING a couple of months ago "Well, I'll probably propose once you forget about it."FORGET??? Forget about marrying the guy I love? Forget that the most exciting thing in my life thus far is about to happen sometime "soonish"?!?!What the hell are they smoking, because I think I need some.

hisgoldeneyes

LOL Jeana, I feel 100% the same way. How are we suppose to forget that?!!? But at least you can somewhat talk about it with your BF, mine doesnt want to talk about it at all lol he has no problem talking about when we're married etc but wedding and proposal are two no-nos in his book until the proposal comes around. I'm seriously happy with just a mutual agreement like "hey are you ready to start planning a wedding" "yes, you?" "yes" "ok we're engaged now". Thats it and I would be so happy with that. Ugh...

fletch102483

A little side note...but the story about your friend wanting the same ring reminds me of what happened to my friend. Last  year she went ring shopping with her BF and she picked out 2 rings and left the store while he purchased one of them. Fast forward to a few months ago, she was at the mall with her BFF and showed her the 2 rings, now expressing that she likes one better than the other. Long story short, BFF who is wedding obsessed pressured her own BF of a month into proposing....with the same damn ring MY friend is still waiting for!

Bad_Bear

Has your friend displayed douchematronic behavior in the past? If so I'd assume that's what is going on here; however, if her ridiculousness is new I might believe that she was attempting to ensure that that was indeed the ring type you wanted because your man asked her what you wanted. Either way, yeah he'll propose in the near future. I can imagine it's frustrating but it won't get you anywhere to stress about it.

Acrosthec

Bad_Bear, look at OP's other post (sorry I've forgotten the name of it) for the friend's previous bad behavior.  She's not anyone I would want to really call a best friend.

Bad_Bear

Oh, thanks, yeah maybe you should consider a new best friend. I know that can be rough, but she sounds like a jerk.