NEY Mini-freakout

jeanacorina

So, BF is planning to take a 4-day weekend for my birthday at the end of this month, and we're going to New Orleans.I'm like, okay. You know, he's not gonna propose. I'm sure he doesn't even have the ring. And he's like that, he won't do it without the ring. And we'll have a great time regardless.But when I requested the Thursday and Friday off work, my boss was like "Ohhh, I wonder if something special is gonna happen" and I was like "Nooo, I'm not thinking about that."Then, today, he went upstairs to do some "stuff" online, and I was playing with the cats. One of them did something funny, and I went up to tell BF about it, and he laughed and was like "Ok, I'm still doing some stuff, go get ready to go" (we were going out to dinner).Well, I got ready, then went back in to see what the holdup was, and he's like "OH MY GOSH why do you keep coming in here?!"He was just looking at the bank account online, and I didn't think it was such a big secret or anything.Then I got to thinking ohhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.What if....?No way. NOT thinking about it. He's so NOT gonna propose on this little mini-vacation. No way.But so many girls here go away for trips and say "He might propose" and everyone says "don't think about it!" and they come back and they're engaged!I'm trying not to think about it. But I'm secretly, very quietly, excited that it MIGHT MAYBE happen, because maybe my BF managed to be discreet for the first time ever, and I really don't know anything.Or it might not, and I'll have a lovely birthday in New Orleans, which is an awesome city.But still.... squee?

AnneAndJJ

Squee!! Haha, I'm still going to say don't get your hopes up. But it sounds possible. Hope you have an awesome mini-vacation!!

Goldlie11

Well, I definitely hope it happens for you. And I can't wait to see the ring (moissanite, right?). Even if it doesn't happen, I'm sure you'll have a great time. My birthday was recent. BF made it a point to tell me that he was not going to propose because I once told him that I didn't want to get engaged on my birthday or a holiday (I don't remember that conversation lol). But in case I forgot that I said that, he reminded me. We had a great time out anyway. Sorry that I went off on a tangent. Best of luck.

sapphirebaby926

I want to go to New Orleans!! My fiance is going next weekend for his bachelor party and I'm totally jealousMy fiance did a very good job of keeping it secret from me and I had no clue that he had even bought the ring even though he apparently left the robbins bros statement out on his desk one day (I never saw it) and I also apparently walked in on him in the bedroom one day while he was hiding it - I was so oblivious it's kind of funny : )The thought also crossed my mind earlier the day of that he was going to propose (we went out and spent the night on the beach) but I was like nah he couldn't have bought it we're both unemployed there's no way he could have picked it up without me knowing about it - boy was I wrong.I'm not sure any of that actually helps now that I'm writing it - but you already know what advice I'll give you - don't think about it and enjoy your birthday.OH! Drink a hand grenade for me!!

Button5807

Pssh, he was just checking the bank account to make sure you didn't spend $50 on the chicken cake mold!

twinkie757

You know the routine, don't think about it

tpaigejr

I second the chicken cake thing

notquiteblushing

He was probably checking his Match.com messages. Joking of course.  :-) I'm jealous you're going to New Orleans.  We may go this fall so have lots of fun and tell me all about it.  And good luck but of course don't get your hopes up.

jeanacorina

Sapphirebaby, we're totally on the same wavelength.I don't think it's ever really seemed possible that he could buy the ring without me knowing SOMETHING. I mean, we share everything, we tell each other everything, and his face reads like an open book.Which is why when he says he's doing "stuff" over and over, and freaks out when I walk in the room, I think maybe something's up.I'm just surprised because IF he proposes two weeks from now, I'll be floored. It doesn't seem possible that he (of all people) could keep something so big from me (of all people).He's so obvious.... usually.

oceana919

Logical Me: Just take a deep breath and relax, don't get your hopes up, just relax and enjoy your trip and if it happens, it happens, etc.Romantic Me: Squeeeeeeeeee! :)I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. I'm seriously looking forward to plying your FMIL with mojitos at your Mexican Knottie beach wedding.

Button5807

I second all that Oceana just said.

GrEenEyEs1113

That’s an adorable post and I feel the same exact way!!!!! I am going away Saturday for 5 days with bf and some of his familys family and I really don’t think hes going to for a few reasons but then of course theres the some that say “MAYBE SOMETHING MIGHT HAPPEN ” NOOO don’t say that!!! So I feel the same thing I don’t think but I am secretly hoping/thinking mayb e?? but I don’t want to do that because I am so excited about vacation and I don’t want to get a little disappointed if it dosent and I never thought it was going to happen there to begin with. My word of advice …I don’t have any I guess we have to try to change the mindset and enjoy our vacation and when it happens it happens…lol now if I just believe that myself have a great time!!!

jeanacorina

Oh, I'm going to have a great time regardless--- my BF only OFFERS to take me someplace exciting and different about once every couple of years.So, I'm going to enjoy it!I just have butterflies in my stomach, even while sorting the mail at work today I'm like "Ooh, he might finally actually ask and by this time next year I could be Mrs. B!!! REALLY"

PandaBurr

I'm going to have to live vicariously through you. The boyfriend and I talked about our time line last night, and we're thinking summer of 2012 for a wedding, so no engagement any time soon for me. Which sucks because we'll be getting the ring already. It'll just be sitting there... taunting me. But, it's for the best. That's when we'll both be graduating, and that'll give us 3 years to save of the dough for the wedding.This just means if he does propose you have to post all the details.

jeanacorina

Post details? Me? Post a huge, long, detailed account of something memorable that happened to me?Pshaw, nevar! When have I EVER done such a thing? I'm just going to post and say "Yeah, engaged now. No pictures, no story. Just thought I'd let you know. Bai!"

PandaBurr

Haha, just wanted to remind you! Maybe you'd be too worked up about it you'll forget all about us. /cry

Acrosthec

You forgot that you'll also have to come back and tell us that you're done posting here, a la MicahAnn2009 and the others that GBCNEY when they got their rings.

jeanacorina

I looked at the website for the resort I'd like to stay in should we get married in Mexico.I stayed in Mexico for 5 months when I was 18, and my grandparents spend nearly half the year there. BF and I have been talking about Mexico a lot....I feel naughty for having looked up the resort and peeked at their wedding event section. It was only a peek!It's so funny how easy it is to tell other girls "just relax and don't think about it." Suuuure, I was relaxed. Pshaw, 5 year anniversary went by without a problem. If you look up "cool as a cucumber" in the dictionary, you see my picture.Yup.... cool as a cucumber.

eleven29

LOL Jeana -- Totally know how you feel!  As you may remember, I'm also going on a 4-day weekend trip up to MA at the end of August.  BF went shopping a few weeks ago and wouldn't tell me where he was going ("I'm going to a store! No you can't know which one!"), and then I found a business card for a jeweler in our apt (mistake, or can't keep a secret?)...and not gonna lie, it kinda made me squee!  Soooo the logical part of me says to stop being excited and I'm definitely positively sure it won't happen on our vacation. And the logical part of me says to give you the same advice.But then when all my girlfriends and my mom are like "ZOMG it's SO gonna happen that weekend!!!!11!!" I can't help but get my hopes up!Bottom line: Don't think about it.  And if we both end up engaged by the end of August, awesome!  But you know, I'm totally sure we won't.  Or something.

smiling_tiger04

I think I'm going to have to with squee on this one! IT sure sounds like something is up if he's bugging about you "always" by him in the computer room and cecking his bank account. Eiither an engagement or he's hiding some erotic activityj/k jeana :)I know it's hard waiting. Mine and Bf's 5 year anniversary is tomorrow but I'm pretty sure no ring is coming. However, we just came back from a few days in vegas and was secretly hoping he would surprise me. No such luck. So, enjoy the vacay and hope you get your proposal.