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Maybe I'm being silly for being bummed and if so please tell me. So, my parents are in town. Well not actually in town, but about an hour away. They live in FL. My BF had told me a couple of weeks ago that when they were here he was going to ask them for their blessing to ask me to marry him. We were supposed to go to where they are for the weekend and I figured he would ask them then. Well he hurt his foot and ankle really badly and is on crutches. Yesterday he told me that he didn't think he would be able to go this weekend because of all of the stairs. I completely understand that, but it means that he won't be able to ask my parents. They are leaving Tuesday morning and we will see them Monday night, but it will be at BF's parents house when the folks are meeting for the first time. I can't imagine that there would be an opportunity that night. I'm bummed about it. I only see my parents once a year or so, so it's not like we'll be seeing them again anytime soon. He had told me that he had originally thought he was going to have to sneak down to FL to ask them, but he didn't have to since they would be here. Maybe he figured out some other way to see them while they are here, I don't know, but I don't see how he could have. I have told him that he doesn't need to ask them, but he says it's really important to him. Anyway I just wanted to vent a little about it, oh well.
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  • edited December 2011
    You're seeing them on Monday, he can pull them aside I'm sure.  Anyhoo, my FI told me he was going to ask my parents and then he chickened out but we're still getting married so it's all good. 
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  • Shasha3100Shasha3100 member
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    edited December 2011
    I suppose it's possible for him to do it on Monday, but I don't know how he'll be able to do it without it being noticed. Hopefully he'll figure it out.
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  • edited December 2011
    How important is it to you both that he asks? I told FI for a long time that I didn't care one way or another. So he asked my mom & step-dad (who I'm closest to) but not my dad (we're not close). Mom was happy, we didn't tell Dad about the asking, & he was fine with it. (Dad & I had talked previously though that I think asking is an antiquated tradition, just my opinion) If it's really important, he'll probably find a way. If not, then no biggie.
  • edited December 2011
    Just re-read your post, you said it was important to him. Sorry, I'm a little ADD with longer posts. Maybe re-iterate to him it's not a big thing for you, take a little pressure off him?
  • Shasha3100Shasha3100 member
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    edited December 2011
    I've told him a few times that it's not important to me, but it's really important to him. I just don't want there to be all this pressure on Monday for him to find a time that works. Oh well if it's that important to him I'm sure he'll figure it out. I wish he had never told me.
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  • jagore08jagore08 member
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    edited December 2011
    My DH asked my parents on their answering machine. He was so preoccupied about proposing that he completely forgot to ask and just before I met him at the park where he proposed he remembered and called my parents house. No one was home so he thought it was better than nothing.
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  • edited December 2011
    Why can't he call them? That's what my DH did and it didn't make it any less special.
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  • edited December 2011
    Others have already said it but I'll throw it out there again, if it's that important to him he'll make it happen, or he could just call them.
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  • fletch102483fletch102483 member
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    edited December 2011
    Don't be upset...I tried to figure out my proposal but these BFs are a lot more slick then we give them credit for! He will ask them
  • Elle1036Elle1036 member
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    edited December 2011
    Hmm.  Have you considered the possibility that he is faking the ankle/foot injury to throw you off? Haha!  I'm sure that's not the case, but you have to admit that it would be really effective.
  • Shasha3100Shasha3100 member
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    edited December 2011
    Lol, about faking I would think that if his foot wasn't twice the size of the other one. To answer the other's, I have no idea why he can't call, he really wants to do it in person. I have come to the conclusion that I said before and that others have said, if it's that important to him, he'll figure it out.
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  • cutypie953cutypie953 member
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    edited December 2011
    I totally agree with fletch, guys are waaaaaayyyyy more steeky than you think!  My FI said the same thing to me!  "I can't find a time to meet with them.." then after he proposed I found out his "meeting with his father about finances" was actually a meeting with my parents!  SNEEEKY!!!  But we love them for it.  :) 
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