Okay! HI!!!We went to New Orleans for a couple of days, it was really fun. :)So, I've been engaged for a week, just casually looking for a place to have the wedding. Not like hardcore OMG I GOTTA GET STARTED PLANNING, but we're thinking June and I have been gathering ideas. Maybe Florida. Florida's nice.Anywho, so we did decide one thing: We're limiting our guest list to about 25 people. That's my parents & siblings, his parents & siblings, my 4 grandparents, his grandpa, and a few close friends (wedding party, basically).Easy, right? Nice, intimate, small. That's what we want. We'll have a big shindig with our huge families (about 18 aunts & uncles on each side, and a crap ton of cousins and family friends) a few months later.Well, my mom told me last night that she and my dad want me to let her know how much the budget would have to be if we invited aunts and uncles (no cousins) and they'd chip in the difference so that they could have everybody there.Well, then that would mean we'd have to invite FI's aunts and uncles, too (which I am sure his mom will want when he tells her we don't want to invite anyone).WTF. I have been engaged ONE WEEK and already all this family crap. "We want you to invite so-and-so to your intimate wedding in another state that you're doing specifically to keep things small." "Well, can't you just invite MY siblings, and not your aunt so-and-so, because my siblings aren't crazy.""Well, if his parents want to invite his aunts and uncles, they'll have to pay for that."*bang head on desk*I love my mom, truly I do. I am trying to explain to her that it's not the money, it's the idea of having 3x as many guests as we WANT.Moral of the story, ladies--- it ain't all rainbows and butterflies. Whatever you want is going to make somebody unhappy. So enjoy being blissfully unengaged, if only just for five minutes after reading this.And grow thicker skin, because knotties are nothing compared to mothers of the bride & groom.FI's mom wouldn't even congratulate him on our engagement, she just said "Well, I thought you were going to wait longer after buying the ring."BAH! He's already talking about eloping in a month or two. ONE WEEK PEOPLE.Be happy the way things are.