What would you do if your bf didn't like your choice for an e-ring?

Goldlie11

My bf told me he wanted me to choose my engagement ring. I narrowed it down to two settings (referenced in another thread I started). My bf likes the Tiffany like setting, but doesn't like the other setting (Royal Crown by Vatche). So should I just go with the Tiffany because I like them both? Wouldn't it be strange to have an engagement ring that my boyfriend doesn't like?

kailss

i would think he would just want you to love your ring. but i'd just tell him, these are the 2 that you like and that he should surprise you.

TheFutureMrsM-LoungingBeachside

Well my story on it is that I originally wanted a solitaire. FI didn't like the idea. I had my heart set on this though so I spent a lot of time trying to convince him it was perfect both in pictures and in the jewelry stores while we were shopping. He kept saying he didn't like it- in fact, he hated it! But if I loved it, it would be my ring. I didn't want that though. I know its my ring and all but I wanted it to be a ring he was happy to put on my hand, and a ring that was special to both of us. It kept us searching for styles and we finally found something that I am way happier with. Moral of the story: Only you can make this call. You're the one who is going to wear it but only you can decide how you'll feel about him not liking it.

Goldlie11

Exactly! I thought I was silly for all of a sudden feeling that I didn't want the ring. But I can't image feeling good wearing a ring that my bf doesn't like.

notquiteblushing

I guess I would just get something that you both like then.  A similar thing happened to me.  I wanted a solitaire but FI had an heirloom diamond and told me it wouldn't look good in that setting so he picked out another one which I ended up loving (bonus more diamonds).

noelle24

Didn't you post this same question a little while ago? Anyway, I'd either tell him to choose out of the two because you like them both equally, or I'd tell him to go with the one he likes better. I wouldn't want my ring to be something my FI didn't like, though.  There are so many different styles out there that there's bound to be one you both love.

Acrosthec

Like I said in your first post, you need to stop worrying about this.  Tell him you like them both, and he should pick the one he likes best so you can be surprised.  Although since you know he doesn't like the Royal Crown he probably won't pick that one, but oh well.FWIW, I wouldn't want to wear a ring my FI didn't like, but I wouldn't consider it strange.  It's a personal decision.

AnneAndJJ

If he is making you choose, then shouldn't the obvious choice be the one you BOTH like? I would feel strange wearing a ring from BF that he did not like.

PreppySailor

Those rings are so similar, I don't think either of you should be worrying about it. Go with the cheaper one and use the savings for a wedding band that you LOVE.

Goldlie11

Noelle, I didn't post this before. I posted that I was down to choosing two different rings in my other posts. I even mentioned it in this post in case others remembered. Although the posts are related, I don't see how it would be considered the same post. I don't see the point in posting the same thing more than once. When I was originally looking, he never expressed that he did not like the Royal Crown. I was showing him what it looked like from a picture on pricescope and he said he didn't like it (this was a couple of days ago). I told bf that he should just pick. He said he wants me to have exactly what I want, so I have to pick. When I told him I didn't want the Royal Crown because he didn't like it, he said I should still get it if I prefer it to the Tiffany ring. He said it doesn't matter if he likes it. I think it does. It's funny, a friend who was wedding dress shopping told me that it was only fun for a short time Eventually she got sick of looking for exactly what she wanted. That's kind of how I feel about engagement ring shop.

noelle24

Ah, ok.  I just thought it sounded familiar, and I remembered telling you to let your BF pick.  But the BF's preference was new info. Would you be happy with the Tiffany setting? If so, I'd just tell your BF that you choose that ring. If it is important to you that your BF like the ring, then wouldn't that make the Tiffany setting more appealing? Even if, on it's own, you'd prefer the other? I'd be sick of deciding on a ring by now too.  I think I'd just pick a ring and be done with it.  You don't want to ruin the engagement with all this agonizing over a ring!

my2geldings

To me I want my engagement ring to be liked by the both of us. We went out shopping and we tried a few, but as it turned out, the ring I fell in love with, he also really liked.If there are a couple rings you both like, then write them down and let him make that decision.

Sooles

my man doesnt like mine. its not "bling" enough. but he knows i love it and i got what i want

Goldlie11

I was waiting for a repair at a jewelry store today and started looking around. Plain solitaires appeal to me. I tried a few rings on and I feel good about my decision to stick with the Tiffany style. We both like it. When I told bf, he pretty much said he knew I would choose the Tiffany ring. I love the way that solitaires can be decked up or be kind of low key, depending on the ring you pair it with. I'm happy with my decision. Thank goodness and thanks everyone for weighing in on things