Was yesterday traumatic for everyone? (And why health care sucks in the USA)

nefariousmango

Last night three of my gal-pals called me in tears.  One broke up with her boyfriend of 3 years, one accidentally started dating three guys and doesn't know what to tell them and who to keep seeing, and one's mom was put in rehab and all her relatives were subpoenaed to testify against her mom. 

Gal #1 has been planning this for a bit, but it's still hard to break up with the guy you thought was "the one" for so long.  The middle one cracks me up, she's totally oblivious to guys' advances until they suddenly start making physical moves, and then she just can't seem to say no!  Naturally it's still very upsetting to her to have three guys think they've been dating her for quite some time.

The last one just makes me so mad at the system because her mom isn't an addict, she's schizophrenic.  Her health insurance won't cover treatment for mental illness so she's been completely unable to get any help, and the best the legal system can offer her is rehab for a drug problem she doesn't have.  I tried for a long time to help her get better health coverage, but no one would take her with her pre-existing condition.  We all tried to get her committed, but because she's never been ruled mentally unfit by a doctor (because she can't afford to go) the police can't do it and she won't commit herself.  Her daughter, my friend, is a psychologist but lives out of state and isn't licensed here.  She's been trying for years to get a job near her mom but without any luck, and her mom can't leave the state because of her issues with the justice system.  It's just all so ridiculous!
 
I hope the universe is nicer to everyone today!

hetshup

Wow.

They win the horrible day award. Three way tie.

How about you? T- 3 weeks yes?

oceana919

I'm sorry to hear about your friend's mom. My uncle suffered from schizophrenia and it was awful. I'll be keeping her in my thoughts and prayers.

Yesterday sucked monkeyballs for me, to be honest. I had an endoscopy to try and find out what the hell is going on with my insides. Good news is they didn't find any ulcers. Bad news is that my stomach is inflammed and they had to do a biopsy. I know it's probably nothing to worry too terribly about, but coming from a family that's had two members suffer from cancer in the last five years, the word biopsy is not a favorite around our household.

Not to mention I hate anesthesia. I was high as a kite yesterday, and now today I am totally exhausted and have zero appetite. ::insert pouty face here::

tafft1

Oh I am so sorry you are going through so much! A close friend of mine and her boyfriend just broke up as well and it has been going just really nasty. Basically he convinced her over the last few years to help him finish school by maxing out her credit cards for bills , rent , etc , as he said he could not finsih school and go to work. Now that its over , he is throwing into her face that now that he is paying the rent , she is no longer welcome there and moved her stuff into the office and reminded her he can kick her out at any time. There is more to it but thats it in a nutshell..FI and I have offered her a couch for a few days if she needs a change of scenery till she can move back home or somewhere else.

It's been a rough month for alot of people I know as well..and yes health care is crap. I just am thankful come August I will have amazing heath coverage for the first time since I was under my parents roof.

Gamette

Wow, I'm sorry to hear about that.  I can kinda relate to girl #2.  I've been told that I just naturally flirt with anyone around me, and have a habit of giving my number out when people ask for it.  I don't see the harm in it, but it has caused some problems.  And, yeah, I've been that girl dating a few guys at once, and not really realizing it until it's too late and someone is gonna get hurt.  

I hope things get better for your friend's mom.  That does suck big time.  

nefariousmango

Hetschup- Yeah, t-3 wks and ready to expode!  I'm excited, but also feeling the pressure of getting everything together after so many months of planning!  Tables are the current issue: My mom wants to sit with my sister, my sister does not want to sit with my parents, and FI's parents want to sit with just my parents at their own table.  FI wants to do two table arrangements and have everyone move for cake, which is sounding like a better and better idea...

Oceana- SO sorry to hear about your day!  If it makes you feel any better, your chances of stomach cancer are extremely low and at your age it seems more likely to be a stress issue than cancer.  Anesthesia puts me out, too.  I always end up overnighting at the hospital if they have ot put me under, it just makes me too sick to go home.

Tafft- That's nasty!  What an a-hole!  Luckily for my friend he doesn't owe her anything and he let her keep their dog.  He's an alcoholic and kept putting off treatment, so I think it's as clear to her as it is to everyone else that he's not going to get his act together at this point and she's better off without him.  She's super smart and motivated, and he keeps "forgetting" to look for a new job and spending all his free time at the bar instead of with her.  She had moved to Oklahoma to be with him, too!  Yesterday she bought herself a "freedom" ring that she's wearing as an engagement ring, as her commitment to herself.  I'm happy that she's going to live here for a while, I missed her!

tafft1

I'm happy to hear your friend is getting away from a bad situation that was not improving , should some of us be so smart and lucky Sounds like she is in good hands with herself and you as a friend !

dwest2201

Nafarious, I'm sorry to hear about your friends mom... that is so sad.  Our system does not work, period.  If we provided proper treatment and care to the mentally ill we would be soooo much better off.  There are a ton of homeless people who are mentally ill and have become homeless due to not taking their meds (because they can't afford them) my good friend is in social work and tell me some crazy and often sad stories about these people.  Some times I really think about getting back into psychology because these people need more people on their side!

chipypony

I have also found myself in that situation where I end up unknowingly attract guys who think they have a chance, then I have to break their hearts. I can't help it, my personality is naturally flirty, its probably also why I have only two female friends. That and I can't think of many females I can stand.

Yesterday BF's ex GF from 5+ years ago came out of the woodwork (she shows up every 6 months or so) and started threatening to break us up because she believes he really wants to be with her and that I stole him (I did not, we didn't even start dating until 10 months after they broke up). To make a very long and complicated story short, in the past her father has cornered me and threatened me and now she told BF she was going to make up lies about him to get us to break up. She is planning on going to an event we are attending when I am home in August, he is very upset that she will ruin the one week get to spend together. I may need some back up for an a$$ whupin.

However, this whole month has pretty much sucked. A close friend of mine had a seizure in the beginning of the month/end of May and they found he had a brain tumor. Less than three weeks later they found that he had 4th stage cancer which metastisized through his body and he passed away last week. I can't afford to go home for his funeral.

BF's sister through a fit because someone asked how I was doing at a family party last week. She hates sharing attention and walked out on christmas because her grandparents gave me a gift card because I was moving. She through a temper tantrum and told BF that he cannot come to my graduation because we graduate the same time and she is more important. We aren't even engaged yet but our timeline is to get married in 2012 (when she gets her bachelors degree) and she is mad that we are stealing her lime light because we want to get married two months after her graduation.

Sometimes I feel like everything is working against me.

chipypony

Oh and sorry for the novel, I am just having a rough time. I can't win with anyone any more.

nefariousmango

Ugh, Chipy, that's just awful!  Sounds like your BF's side of the social scene has more than its fair share of crazies!  I know girls like his ex, FI had a housemate like that and after three years it did nearly come to blows because I wouldn't apologize for not washing her dirty dishes before eating some ice cream (her now-husband tried to punch me, I was lucky enough to duck around a corner at just the right moment).  I apologized for my side of the yelling, and she banned me from her house.  After that it was on her to make nice, and she didn't, so FI moved out and never talked to her again.  On a happy note, she's the only person I've ever yelled at and it feels kinda good to have finally let loose on someone so deserving!

The brain cancer one... Man, that's just awful!  So, so awful!  I'm so sorry and I wish to everything there was some way I could magically fly you back for his funeral! 

And BF's sister, well, she's clearly a work of psychotic art and it says a lot about you that you've stuck with BF and his family in spite of her.  So, go you!

chipypony

Thanks. Thats part of the reason I am ok with getting married while i am still across the country. That way when she is a pain in my rear about the wedding I can just hang up and ignore her.