Okay so my husband and I were married about a year and a half ago very quickly and it was a civil ceremony. It was just me, my husband and the judge. We were pretty young when we did this and still relatively young (in 20s). We received no gifts (I am not saying that we should have since we did not have a reception), there were no pictures, no parties, no honeymoon and no rings...basically as nontraditional as you can get. It was very complicated why we did it this way (fear of family members interfering, pressure...all that bull) but of course a year and a half later we totally regret it. Sometimes you don't realize how much you affect people until you already committed the act. Well we want to have a vow renewal ceremony and have the wedding that we never did. I feel strange about doing this and I just wanted some thoughts and opinions from others...like should I have bridesmaids? Should we receive gifts (we would never ask people)? Should we cut a cake??? Those sorts of things. I really feel like we missed out and if we could do it all over again believe me we would...it has gone as far as us talking about divorce just to get remarried in the future (crazy I know). It has been driving me crazy! I would appreciate any insights or opinions, thanks all :-)